(Closed) are you suppose to feed your officiant?

posted 7 years ago in Food
Post # 3
5118 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

We’re inviting our officiant and his wife and child, but he’s traveling over 5 hours to come and do this for us so I’d feel terrible not doing it. I think it depends on if it’s your church leader or a closer family friend vs a JOP or someone hired solely to do your wedding.

Post # 4
2154 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Everything I’ve ever read says yes. But apparently they sometimes decline, and disappear after the ceremony. Either way, I think that offering them a meal is the normal thing to do. 

Post # 5
5921 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

We invited our officiant and his wife, and they both came and ate.

Post # 6
868 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

We are inviting ours too. But our wedding is out of town for everyone, and its my moms boss so thats another reason too!

Post # 7
4038 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We invited ours (and his wife) to both the rehearsal dinner and the reception. 

Post # 8
3049 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 1991

I would say yes. But it’s totally up to you. Is your ceremony and venue at the same place? It would be nice to feed your officiant, but it won’t be the end of the world if you don’t. It’s more standard to feed him/her at the rehearsal dinner since they will be there directly before the meal. At least this is what I’m used to. My brother is marrying us so I’m gonna feed him! 🙂

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