(Closed) Are you supposed to keep BM dresses?

posted 9 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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1266 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

you could shorten it….and wear it again

lol – I couldn’t help myself!

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

on a serious note, I am actually not too sure. I have never been a BM so I haven’t had this scenerio yet. I am interested in what the others have to say, or what they have done

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I would donate them. Usually around prom time, they collect dresses. I would check with your local high school or Goodwill.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

You could also donate them to the drama department of a local high school.  My SIL did this last year with a dress that was um… not very pretty and she knew no one would want to wear it to prom.  I think she said they used it for one of the ugly step-sisters in a cinderella play, lol.

Post # 7
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

 I dont think you should feel obligated to keep them.  The wedding is over and you will clearly never use them again so really whats the point in keeping them?  Maybe say to the bride "hey I am thinking of donating the dress just wanted to check with you that its ok" just in case she might want it for I dunno a momento or something or to make a dress for a future daughter out of.

Post # 8
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would think you’re under no obligation to keep them.  I’ve already got one for a wedding next June, and I’m already making plans to sell it!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

There are a ton of places that take donated dresses and turn them around to sell to girls who wouldn’t be able to afford them otherwise for prom. Try googling "Fairy Godmothers" – there was one in Philadelphia, but they were full when I tried to donate to them, so I found one in AZ that I shipped my dresses to. I got a really nice letter back thanking me and served as my receipt for my tax deduction

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2007

Oh, and I don’t think most brides expect you to keep them unless they were super practical. I’ve been in 7 weddings, and I’ve kept 2. They were black dresses, and fun, and I think I’ll wear them again sometime! The others weren’t so wearable again, so off they went to Fairy Godmothers of Flagstaff! I told a few of my girls about them (and I was in their weddings too) and they boxed up all of their dresses and sent them too…so I don’t think you’ll offend a bride if you donate them. Unless she seriously said, "The best thing about it is, you could shorten them and wear them again!"

Post # 13
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Sugar bee

I donated the ones I’ve worn.  They just weren’t my style or flattering colors, so I didnt feel like I’d ever get any use out of them.  I wondered if maybe someone else might like them.  I know there are organizations that take formal dress donations so HS girls can wear them for proms. 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I agree with those who have suggested that you donate to an organzation which provides prom dresses for low-income families.  Since you didn’t pay for them, it’s not like you have anything to recooperate.  Make a girl’s night wonderful and donate it!  Even if you can’t find one of those organizations in your area, donating it to Goodwill would be a worthy effort as well. 🙂

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

You are under no obligation to keep them (reminds me of KH in "27 Dresses").  I say sell or donate them.  I don’t think there’s anything wrong with either.  If nothing else, they can be recycled as halloween costumes (I’ve done this before).  I personally would not tell the brides that you are doing this unless you think they might want teh dresses.  Otherwise it might just unnecessarily hurt their feelings.  I think it’s just an unspoken thing that no one really loves their BM dresses but you tell the bride you do (unless you’re my snarky MOH) and then complain about it to the  rest of the BP later 🙂

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