Post # 1
This may be a really stupid question, but I really don’t know the answer. We received our first “No” RSVP yesterday, and I don’t know if I’m supposed to do anything?
These are people we definitely thought would attend, but not people we are super close to or anything. Am I supposed to reach out to them and tell them I’m sorry they won’t be able to make it? Or am I not supposed to say anything?
Post # 3
I personally wouldn’t say anything to them. Next time I see them I might casually say sorry that they can’t make it (if they don’t say something first), but I wouldn’t say anything to make a big deal out of it.
Post # 4
@orchidaloha: Thank you, that’s sort of what I was thinking, but wasn’t sure. I didn’t know if I should call them up and say sorry they can’t make it, or just wait until I see them next (likely I won’t see them until the next family wedding).
Post # 5
@orchidaloha: +1. I’d just mention it the next time you talk to them.
Post # 6
@FortiesFlare: One of the reasons for formal written invitations and formal written replies, is to keep touchy issues like declining, and like being declined, at arm’s length. So no, you do not make a point of responding.
If you happen to see the other person socially in the next week, and if it feels comfortable to mention it, then you might say something like “we’ll miss you on the twenty-second, but we know you’re there with us in spirit; and would you like some sugar in your tea?” Then again, you might not: the last thing you want to do is inspire your friend to come up with some sort of explanation or excuse.
Post # 7
- Wedding: October 2013 - The Down Town Club, Philadelphia
@aspasia475: Can you please write a book? I love all your posts. Seriously.
Post # 8
@aspasia475: Agree with PP. You are my favorite etiquette Bee!