Post # 1
I feel like there’s a lot of pressure in a relationship for the man to be taller.
I’m about half an inch taller than my boyfriend, and I kind of hate it just a little. Nearly all of my close friends and roommates are a lot shorter than me, so I’m reminded of it quite often. (At least I can hide things from my roommates on the top shelf, haha.)
I’ve pretty much stopped wearing heels unless if I’m going to an event by myself. When I put on heels, I’m as tall as my dad, so I feel like I’m a giant. But my bf is luckily built like a small linebacker (really big shoulders), so I don’t feel so bad all the time.
Anyone else like this? Does your SO mind if you wear heels? Also, what kind of shoes do you wear with a formal dress if you don’t wear heels?
Post # 3
I’m 5’7″, and he is 6’6″. I can wear skyscraper heels, and it makes no difference. Sometimes it’s a little tough, actually. I’ll stand two stairs up just to kiss him without making him bend all the way over.
But it is what it is. I’ve been in relationships with men who were my height, or almost. There is always something that will make people look askance, be it height difference, or age difference (I am older than FI), or difference in income or social background. In the end, it’s about seeing eye-to-eye metaphorically, and nothing else.
Post # 4
I understand what you mean. I am a good 2 inches taller than the manfriend. While he and I really don’t mind, I can definitely tell that some people notice it. But regardless, I still love wearing tall shoes that place me a good 4-5 inches taller (at over 6 ft.- giant enough?). That said, on our wedding day and for the sake of pictures and my feet, I believe I will be wearing flats.
Post # 5
I’m 5’5″ and Fiance is 6’1″, so no there. I have two friends who are taller than their SOs. The Fiance of one told her not to wear heels anymore. She’s 5’9″ and he’s 5’5″.
Post # 6
@misskittenn: I’m also about 1/2 inch taller than Fiance (he’s 5″9 and i’m 5″9 1/2). When we go out, or have family dinners I do wear heals and he doesnt mind at all! It’s part of who i am, and part of why he loves me. I happen to not find short heals very attractive so all my heals range from 3 1/2 to 5 inches…For the wedding day, however, I’m going to look for something on the 3″ side. You shouldnt feel bad about being tall, some women would kill to be your height!
Post # 7
My mom is about an inch or two taller then my dad and my Maid/Matron of Honor is and inch taller then her husband and my other bridesmaid is about an inch taller then her husband.
My mom use to joke and tell me I was selfish for dating a taller guy ( I am 5’3 and my husband is 6’3) so he is a foot taller then me, she would joke “you should save the taller boys for the taller girls” lol it always made me laugh 🙂
Post # 8
I’m three inches taller than my fiance. He doesn’t mind at all, and wouldn’t mind if I wore heels, but it makes me self-conscious, so I usually wear flats (even single I didn’t wear heels more than 1.5-2″ anyway, though).
Post # 9
Darling Husband is about 8.5 inches taller than I am. I love hugging and kissing him while I am wearing heels, since it’s a lot more comfortable. However, I also think it’s kind of cute when I am standing next to him in the kitchen with no shoes on, and he’s so much taller than I am. The people who built our home were very tall, and I can only reach the first two shelves in our cabinets, and I occasionally have to ask Darling Husband or one of my stepkids to put something back on a shelf I can’t reach. Darling Husband finds this humorous and starts singing the old Randy Newman tune (if you’re young, you probably will have no idea what I’m talking about, haha) “Short People.” 😉
Post # 10
I am taller than my husband! He is 5’9″ and I am 5’10”. It used to bother me at first that I was taller but now it doesn’t at all AND he loves my long legs!
Post # 11
@Petite_Fraise: That’s true. And everyone in my family is kind of tall, the only time I have to look up is when I’m with my brother. But everyone in my SO’s family is short, nearly all of his siblings are only as tall as my shoulder, and they’re 10-15 years older then me–but look very young. I mistook one of his sisters for his niece–whoops.
@Brielle: Hahah, that’s how it is at my apartment. My roommates have to call me downstairs to get things off the top shelf. (I hide my chocolates up there too.)
@monique1218: Maybe I can convince him that a little heel isn’t so bad.
Post # 12
I’m 2″ shorter than FI at 5’7″ (he’s 5’9″) but I like to wear super tall heels so I’m often taller than he is. In my favourite pair of pumps I’m 6′. Luckily he thinks it’s hot. 😉 I’ll wearing 3″ heels for the wedding which will make me an inch taller than he is.
Post # 13
I’m a tall girl in general (5′ 8 1/2″) and I love my heels, so I’m used to being taller than most people. I’m about a quarter inch taller than my Fiance and when we first started dating, it did make me a little self-conscious…but he finally convinced me that he really doesn’t care. He likes to say it makes him feel like he’s going out with a supermodel haha. So now I rock the heels I love and it really doesn’t bother me anymore.
Post # 14
I am and have always been a giant of a girl. Seriously I was 6′ the first day of my freshmen year of HS, and it took until college for me to have more than one or two guy friends taller than me. And Darling Husband is 5’8″. And I am now the tallest one in his family, taller than his uncle, dad, grandpa and older brother. It is extra fun because all my female friends are less than 5’3″. So I kind of stick out no matter. We’re over it.
@Brielle: My dad, who is 6’8″, loves that song since ALL the rest of his family was short. His dad was barely 6′ and he has 2 sisters who were 5’2″. It made me feel better when I was little (well, young) and a foot taller than my classmates.
ETA: I rock my flats all the time. Ballet slippers, flip flops, Converse and TOMS. I wore TOMS at my wedding. I own a couple pairs of heels, all like 1.5″ ones, that I sometimes wear but not often. That has to do with my own inability to walk in them more than DH’s height complex.
Post # 15
I’m a teeny bit taller- less than an inch.
It doesn’t bug me at all! It did weird me out a bit the first time I ever met him, but now I don’t even notice it. Plus I can wear his sweats and they all fit me really well. 🙂
Post # 16
My husband is Filipino and is 5′ tall – I am 5’4.5″ so there is no disguising that I am taller – even if I wear flats. He loves me in heels – says that he thinks he is with a goddess 🙂 For our wedding ceremony I wore flats but when we went out later I wore heels and it feels fine for me either way. I think when you are truly comfortable with someone you just click and differences kind of melt away.
Here is a picture from our wedding day where I am in heels 🙂 It is one of my favorites . . .
Yes he is pinching my booty lol