Post # 1
Hello bees, since yesterday I went out shopping for a wedding dress for myself, things went so well between my mother and FMIL that they decided to go look at some dresses for themselves. Now, they plan to pick their dresses and colors, they right away mentioned to not try to tell them what to wear lol and well I wasnt planning on it, but I just want to make sure they look like they are going to their kids weddings and not just any other wedding, you know? FMIL liked this dress that was lace up to the knee super simple, but of course she didnt buy it. I’m really hoping they both decide on a dress that is long, its fine if the colors are all over the place I guess. Are any of you telling the moms what to wear, or are you letting them pick?
Post # 3
I let them choose but they had me pick a few dresses and shoes and they made the final decision. I spent about 4 hours shopping for FMIL’s dress and 2 on her shoes….she was difficult! My mom is walking me down the aisle so she has a more formal dress than FMIL but FMIL looked great in her dress too. FFIL had me pick his suit and shoes too. I didn’t dictate anything though, they asked for my help.
Post # 4
- Wedding: May 2013 - Pavilion overlooking golf course scenery, reception at banquet hall
Just so you know, your title and poll question ask opposite things 🙂 I won’t tell anyone what to wear except myself… I’m really not excited about dictating anything, but would like pictures to be cohesive so I guess I have to at least pick a color set, hah.
Post # 5
I won’t be telling my mother or FMIL exactly what to wear BUT I definitely want to be part of the dress selection process. I just want to make sure it’s appropriate for there body types and color doesn’t clash.
Post # 6
My mom found a few dresses and asked me which I preferred. I helped her pick the color because she asked me also. My MIL pick hers all on her own. Had she asked I would have helped but they both looked great and fit in with the wedding as a whole.
Post # 7
@Broken Biscuit: yeah my FMIL is real picky so I’m sure that the next time we meet it will take an eternity for both her and my mom find a dress they like. I do plan to give my opinion on the dresses, but in the end I will let them decide.
@aggie2010: oh you were right about that! Since I couldnt change the title, I changed the title of the poll to match! Thanks for that haha and yeah I would like the colors to go ok with the theme, so I’m hoping they listen to at least that.
Post # 8
@xdaydreams05x: yes exactly, which is why I plan to go with them when they go shopping 🙂
@Tina.Baker: thats great to hear! 🙂 I’m not sure if they will be asking me anything, but since I will be with them I’m sure I will be able to have some input.
Post # 9
I haven’t really thought about it. It would be nice if they could coordinate with our wedding colors, but I’m not going to demand it. Except for maybe my mother. We’re close enough it wouldn’t be offensive to her for me to say, “hey, make sure whatever dress you get matches at least one of our wedding colors” and I guess, SuperFine can do the same with his mom.
Post # 10
No, they can choose what they want. My mom will pick hers, and FMIL will match on color/formality, but other than that, they can pick. I don’t need to micromanage that much!
Post # 11
My colors are jewel tone pink, purple and teal…my mom wants to wear emerald green and my grandma wants to wear royal blue. I am totally ok with that cuz I think the pictures are going to look awesome with us all in the same hue. I wish eveyone at the wedding would wear a jewel tone. lol. I love matchy matchy with color. I am not going to tell my FMIL what to wear tho, she can wear whatever.
Post # 12
the poll doesn’t make sense, but anyway..
i don’t really care what color they wear. my FMIL bought her dress like one day after she found out what our wedding colors were…. before i even bought my own dress. my mom hasn’t gotten hers yet.
Post # 13
They wore what they wanted.
Post # 14
They picked out the dresses on their own. My mom showed me her dress and asked how it looked, but she always likes to ask my opinion on dresses and jackets so that wasnt out of the ordinary. I didnt see MILs dress until the wedding.
Post # 15
I told my mom I wanted her to wear a color, and we went shopping for her dress together. She wears a lot of beige… I suggested a color she loves, though, so it wasn’t like I was telling her what to do. My future mother-in-law asked me what color she should wear, since she normally wears black, and I was thinking of champagne (another color she is comfortable in) for my bridesmaids. When I decided on blue for the bridesmaids I told her so she could wear champagne.
So it’s like I decided but not. And your poll doesn’t make sense.
Post # 16
I went shopping with my mum, and she picked a dress that compliments the colour theme COMPLETELY. My MIL knows what my dress looks like, and she knows our theme, but she hasn’t asked my opinion on anything, and she hasn’t yet taken me up on my offer to take her out shopping (which I must say I am pleased about – I’m not a fan of shopping for a specific item at the best of times!)