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My husband doesn't do too much either. I'm not a big cleaner which means that he usually gets sick of it and vacuums occasionally. He does other things which evens it out for us.
I do most of it. He mows the lawn, takes out the trash, and helps with laundry, dishes and vaccuuming. I do pretty much everything else.
I am not, and I'm really defensive about him trying to ask me to do more than my share. I would rather live in filth than be his housekeeper, which he doesn't really appreciate, but that's his problem. It gets kind of contentious sometimes, since he's in grad school and constantly busy, but at about 60% of the housework, I shut off and won't do any more.
PLS DO NOT JUDGE ME - - we have a cleaning gal (aka Carmen aka housekeeper) that comes once a week! Carmen used to come once every other week but we just could not take all of the dog hair that accumulates (we have 4 flrs all hardwood.)
Oh my gosh.
I live with two roommates who are engaged to each other. BF isn't here with me. My roommates are SUCH dirty people it drives me nuts!!! Like your mrsh, they won't wipe down counters or dust anything. I finally got sick of it last weekend and scrubbed everything and just put all of their crap in a box for them to sort out. I couldn't believe the baseboards were actually white after I cleaned them. I live here and pay rent dang it! The amount of filth is just ridiculous. I thought eventually they'd snap out and clean their own mess up, but I guess not. I kind of made it known that I was pissed, and since then they've managed to at least pick up after themselves somewhat in the living room/dining room, but the kitchen is still a mess. So I'll be cleaning that later today I'm sure.
I feel like I have to decide between moving out and having a clean place or staying here with cheap rent and living in filth or stay here and be their maid. Sucks. Can't wait til bf and I can get our own place - he's as clean as I am and is more than willing to help out with chores. He can't stand clutter just like me.
We are both slobs. We take turns cleaning the kitchen and living room, but I'm the only one who takes initiative to clean the bathroom. I predict that when we have kids, I'll lower my tolerance for mess and get on top of it more. But for now, I'm glad neither of us is anal retentive, and neither of us is particularly disgusting.
yes i am! i do most/ all of the cleaning. No joke: he has done the dishes 5 times in the 2 years we've lived together. (we don't have a dishwasher). He told me "i don't vaccum or dust" and he hasn't. i try to clean every weekend but it'd be nice if he would pick up after himself during the week.. it becomes a major ordeal instead of just being a minor task. its annoying and frustrating.
His version of "clean" is no clutter on the coffee table, but other than that he doesn't clean. its ok, though, because i told him we'd be getting a house cleaner :)
@jackie-o: no judgement here, only envy! 
I do 98% of the cleaning...
He mows the lawn and occasionally fixes things around the house if they break. Besides that its all me. However, obnoxious it may be it is just how he is and I have learned to deal :/
I am such a spoiled brat--FI does most of our housework (and he cooks too!). In my defense, I work full time and am also in grad school, so I have very little free time. FI sees this as a way to help me out, which is super sweet. Although in truth, even before I went back to school, he still did a bit more than me around the house! I try to be very grateful and make sure he knows how much I appreciate all he does to keep our home looking decent!
I do pretty much all of the cleaning (and the cooking)! Sometimes it really drives me crazy, but I really don't mind most of the time. When FI actually does clean anything, it usually isn't up to my standards anyways 
Yeah. I do pretty much everything around the house, including shovelling snow and mowing the lawn. It started off pretty unevenly because I wasn't working very much and at that time it was pretty fair that I did the housework, but I think it kind of set a precedent, unfortunately. Now I'm working full-time and still do most of it. He's getting better, though... Very slowly.
Still, I doubt if he ever notices the dustbunnies drifting around in the corners, or when the sinks need wiping.
I do most all of the cleaning and don't complain - for two reasons.
1. My fiance is in med school and I know he has no time for anything but studying
2. I am a little bit of a cleaning perfectionist- I have to have the dishes rinsed before putting them in the dish washer and the clothes separated to lights and darks. My fiance isn't so much and if he does the dishes I find spoons stuck together with Peanut Butter and the cloths all mixed together haha If you want something done right do it yourself I guess LOL!
Plus when he does offers to help it is really sweet because he makes a comment about appreciating me and how he wants to do something so I won't have to mess with it ;)
Oh and I have to mention that the cleaning is twice as worse now with our drooling shedding puppy - but he is so worth it!
My FI does a lot of the housework as well (and he cooks). We both clean but he probably does more cleaning.
my hubby used to do everything, until i kept reminding him that i don't work so i'm happy to do the cleaning. now he still does quite a lot around the house... usually. he's been sick and i'm pretty sure he's milking it. he's strong enough to take a walk around the neighborhood but can't seem to put his dishes in the sink. i don't mind taking care of him though!
HELL FREAKIN' NO. He lives here. He eats here. He sleeps here. He is a grown man and he has 2 legs and 2 arms
When I was working (not him), he did it all. And i expected him to. And he knew that was his "job". Now that we are both working, we both clean. I'll be damned if i turn into his maid (barring, you know, a week or two on occassion where work demands kick in or whatever).
I would probably throw a shit fit if he didn't carry his weight in the house.
I hate yard work and I have such bad allergies I rarely do it because I can't breathe for days. He does everything outside, trash, and then does carpentry stuff on this house (windows, floors, etc). I do the rest. I think I tend to complain about vacuuming, washing floors, laundry, dishes, etc because I am pretty anal about being clean but hate doing it. haha don't we all??
Yes and No. And an explanation like Jackie O.
T does his own laundry. He can iron and cook too. A freakin' mayzing!
Now he does do that, but he also has a housekeeper who comes 2x a month. Now that will be a huge sigh of relief for me.
I've been everything..mom, maid, chauffeur, sports coach, math teacher, cook, pet trainer, and anything else you can think of, and now since I'll get a bit of a break on the housework (except easy maintenance) I am stoked! Totally stoked!
are you my husband posing as a bee?
hehe. we actually are the opposite. YES i DO housework - but he doesn't think i do. I will admit HE'S the one who does all the housework. i'm getting better - but i'm a clutterer - and it's almost annoying what a clean freak my hubby is.
he's also obsessed with yardwork - and we have poison ivy/oak in the backyard which i'm HIGHLY allergic to...so i don't do yard work - although i do help where I can when i know i won't be near the poison.
but yeah - he does the laundry (yay cuz i hate it! course i do once in a while...) i cook mostly, but he is a better cook, he just likes a clean house ALL the time. i don't mind clutter.
I would say we both clean about the same amount, but he's more of a neat freak than I am. He HATES clutter. I don't like clutter either, but geez he considers clutter leaving one of my purses on the table lol.
My husband and I each try to contribute a roughly equal number of hours "working" to achieve and maintain the type of life we want to live. We count both our full-time job hours and our time spent cooking, cleaning and walking our dog. When I think about the number of hours that my husband puts in at his job in support of our family, I feel much happier about the percentage of cleaning that I do at home (we both work at jobs where we "bill" hours - law & consulting - but he bills 2200 hours a year and I bill maybe 1800).
My FI and I have a kinda your stuff and my stuff set up. I do laundry and cook and general picking up while he does dishes, vacuming, dusting, and the deep down floor cleaning etc. Honestly though I think he does more then me but he says he would rather me cook and him dust so we are both happy!
God--I try to get FI to do housework because I DO ALL OF IT AND DRIVES ME INSANE I FEEL LIKE THE MAID but he just FAILS at any task I assign him to do, and YES I have to assign him things because he won't take ANY initiative. Every time I try to explain to him why the flat sheet has the sewn part at the top, he doesn't get it, and puts it at the bottom of the bed. Every time I ask him if he can was a dish without submerging it into the dirty dishwater while trying to scrub it clean, he doesn't get it and does it anyway. Every time I tell him to keep the recyclables separate from the trash, he just throws the recyclables into the trash anyway. ARGH. This is one of the biggest things we argue about. It drives me nuts. I don't know what to do about it.
the big issue is that my idea of "clean" and his idea of "clean" are completely different.
my FH is like that jeff foxworthy skit on housework. while he hardly cleans, when he DOES do something its like he deserves a medal!
"dont worry about that ashtray in the familyroom, i dumped that out!"
congratulations.... what do you want a cookie?? how about cleaning the tub, vacuuming, loading and unloading the dishwasher, scrubbing the bathroom and kitchen floors, laundry etc.. etc... etc...
as soon as i can afford it i will be getting a maid at least once a week. i used to be ashamed about it, but honestly im TIRED. working full time AND cleaning up after him is NOT fun.
my fiance is extremely helpful with housework. we do about the same amount...it's really nice, and he knows i appreciate it. also, we have a maid come every 2-3 months to do a "deep clean" on the apartment (we never ever clean our baseboards or dust the fans haha). it's been a great investment in our relatrionship to be able to do that every few months.
We're pretty much the opposite. My fiance actually usually ends up cleaning a lot of the time. If 10 is absolutely perfect cleanliness and 1 is complete filth, than his threshold before he needs to start cleaning is like an 8.5 and mine's like an 8 so the apartment just reaches his threshold first. I feel kinda bad sometimes :-/ I've been trying to clean more lately and I think he appreciates it.
Now that I have a real-person job (just finished school) and will be making real-person money, I'm thinking of maybe hiring someone to come by every other week and pick up and vacuum and stuff.
I'd say it ends up about 50/50 for us, maybe even more on his side since he works from home now.
I don't "assign" him stuff to do, we just do what we see needs to be done as we feel like it. But neither of us has very high standards. Our place is definitely not "company ready" without some real advance notice.
I'll totally be hiring some help at least a few times a month once we have a house and have people over more regularly. He's fully on board with that. I think we'd both appreciate a cleaner place, but I'm so glad he doesn't see it as being on me that we don't.
I do most of the cleaning in the house, but:
-He leaves for work at 5:30am, while I leave at 7:30am. I get home at 5pm, and he gets home around 6pm.
-He mows the lawn, waters the grass/plants, fixes things, and does his own laundry.
I complained when we lived in an apartment, he had a shorter work day than me, and no yard duties, but now I do not mind at all.
I do it all. Every once in awhile if I'm super stressed out and I ask him to do something he'll do it for me though. I'm used to it and it doesn't really bother me though honestly
I'm the only one who does laundry and I try to make sure I'm the one who usually gets to dishes and general tidying before he does. As far as major cleaning we both usually clean bathrooms and the kitchen, I dust & vacuum and he mops. He's the one that mostly keeps the front and back yards tidy so I feel like everything is pretty fair around here!
I am the maid and cook, but in his defense he's definitely supporting me right now. He really can't cook, and his cleaning was always subpar. I knew what I was getting into. :-)
He will help though if I ask, but consistency is an issue. I'm not perfect either though. :-)
I am an extremely tidy person - my SO has teased me that my engagement ring will merely be a miniature container of clorox wipes on five prongs. When we first moved in together, I cringed at the idea that the apartment I had been keeping immaculate would soon become a terror zone. My boyfriend is not the cleanest person on the planet and thinks that a little dirt and grime buffs up the immune system. I try to make one night a week a cleaning night where we scrub the bathroom, mop the floors and dust the furniture, and my SO usually complies. He does most of the cooking, and I take care of most of the day-to-day light cleaning. We try to work together as a team to keep the house looking nice, but I've definitely learned to let go a little bit and accept a few lost socks in the corners.
I am reasonably clean and tidy (probably very clean and tidy according to most people's standards). The Guy, on the other hand, is completely obsessive compulsive. He is definitely the cleaner in our house. We clean for at least two hours (in an already clean house) every Friday after work and are not allowed to skip a week!
I do the dusting, tidying and steam clean the floors. He does the kitchen, bathrooms and vaccumming. He also cuts the grass, takes out the garbage and cleans up after dinner (I cook). I am incredibly lucky!
I have had to give in on many things (e.g. he insists that dishes are completely clean before they go in the dishwasher) and I found it was best to choose my battles wisely and not fight over these things.
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I cannot, under any circumstance, get my FI to do housework, at least decently (is that a word?). He will put the dishes in the dishwasher, but not clean off the counters and stove. He will sort the laundry and even put it in the machine, but it takes days for it to get from the dryer to the drawers and closet. Am I alone in thinking in order to live in a clean house, I have to do all the work myself?
Does your FI or SO help out around the house?