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Are any off the bees here hanging out in their own hive everday?
I have been unemployed since Oct. and im feeling really bad about it.
Mr3m told me to just sit back and relax, maybe work out and go back to school but i am feeling really insecure about everything because even though I bring in income by unemployment, i dont feel like I am worth much.
Any other bees feelin me?
I found a job in June, but I was unemployed from March-June so I know what you mean! I felt really low and lost a lot of motivation because of it. Keep your chin up- now that I have a job I still don't make as much as my old job, and this job hasn't "solved" my feeling low, I had to work on realizing my self worth in general, not tying it to a job or salary. Something PERFECT will come along for you!
I have a part-time job, but I am stressing about graduating and looking for a full-time job. Both FSIL and FBIL just graduated (FBIL with his Master's, FSIL with a BS) and neither can find jobs. It's such a terrible market out there. Feel better, and know that you're certainly not alone!
Yup! I've been looking since I got out of school.
Most of the jobs in what I would be interested in seem to require a massive amount of experience. :(
Jerks.
I work freelance and haven't had a job since Nov so yes, I'm basically unemployed. I find whilst I do wedding stuff I don't get the itch - it's when I don't do wedding stuff and get bored that I start feeling bad. Almost like planning my wedding is justification for not working....
I'm in grad school, so I haven't brought in any income since August. I love my program, but I hate being constantly worried about money (and living on loans...GAH!). I'm just starting a part-time job in my field, that will help with the money, but now I'm starting to be worried about being in school full-time + working part-time and going straight-up crazy.
I got laid-off in November '08, and then I collected unemployment and temped for a few months until I got hired in June, so I know how that feels. At first right after I got laid-off, I thought it was going to be great, I was gonna sit around and watch Maury and eat Cheetos.
I did that for one day and I was BORED.
Anyway, bottom-line, sister, you are not alone. The economy is lousy (duh), and the thing that always hurts the most and takes the longest to come back are the jobs. It's really easy to start believing that you lost your job and/or can't find a new one because you're not important or good at what you're doing, but the fact is, people from all fields and levels of ability are losing their jobs, and almost no one is finding a new one, because the jobs aren't there. Remember that. You are probably fabulous at what you do. It is not you. It is the situation we are all in.
Unless you stole or got drunk at work, then it probably is you.
I wasn't working for my last year of school but I graduated in December and started sending out resumes around October for potenital jobs. I'm with you, I feel low. Even a part-time job would be nice but the market is so terrible it's hard to get in anywhere. FI tries to keep my spirits up, tells me we are fine with money and knows that I'm doing all I can to find something, anything really. He tells me that wedding planning is an insane job in itself and running the household (cleaning, cooking, taking care of the animals, etc) is a contribution. It doesn't really do much for me, I still feel pretty pathetic, like I'm not really contributing, I know there are more important contributions to our lives together than money, it would just be nice. I feel ya, it's really good to know I'm not alone.
I've been looking for work since August, so I completely understand. I'm currently looking for freelance work or a job where they may not mind if I have to telecommute or work from home for a while. Plus, most of the joss I find in my field require 5+ years of experience, so I'm applying to anything and everything.
I'm employed... and hating my job. And therefore my life. Ha.
Me. I investigated car accidents and liability claims for a major car insurance company for almost five years, and then got accepted to nursing school so I left. Well I chickened out about going back to school so once we moved where we are now, I got a position as the Dir. of Marketing for a new company here. I hated it. I reapplied to nursing school, left my job one day on lunch and never came back. Not a great way to leave a job, but it was so empowering. I tried the part time thing but it was awful. So FI told me to just focus on school and he would take care of the rest. I'm lucky that he has agreed to do everything he has, it has really helped me stay focused on school, and now wedding planning!
I'm basically unemployed yeah. Last semester I was taking 4 classes which kept me really busy but this semseter I'm only in 2 so I will be deathly bored. I'm trying to find a job but it's not like there is much available for me.
I'm in undergrad and quit my part time job last April because the boss was getting all psycho and following me/watching me on the cameras constantly. Now I clean people's houses and try to get freelancing jobs for money. I'm meeting with an editor from a local paper tomorrow to discuss my options. :) It won't be easy, but I'm not afraid to work my butt off.
I've been unemployed since the summer but have been working a freelance project since Oct (which unfortuantely is ending soon). Then I'll be back to square one. It's frustrating but I have been fortunate enough to have some interviews during this time. It's nice to know there are others out there - here's to us all getting some good news soon!! :)
DH is officially unemployed, yet in the reserves.
He's looking for a job and he has an engineering degree, so I think he's luckier than most in that aspect. He needs one by June so I can go back to school full-time, finish off my prerequisites, and apply to PA school next June.
I'm working 4 days a week in a contract position, but looking for full-time, permanent employment. It's hard not to get discouraged when I have so many student loan bills piling up, but I know my situation could be a lot worse. It is a tough economy out there, so we all just need to hang in there and find other things that we can do to keep our confidence up.
Yep, add me to the ranks of the unemployed. I lost my job shortly after we became engaged and took the time off to work on the wedding. I got a part-time job because it's just not in me to not work. Now we are trying to have a baby so I haven't started looking for full-time since we planned on me going part-time when we started our family. As it turns out I'm not getting pregnant easily and my unemployment will run out in a few months so now I'm getting a little freaked out.
We're fine financially but I feel like a loser since I've always been a pretty big career person and feel like his family thinks I married him so I could sit home and hang out all day. They don't even allude to anything like that but that's what runs thru my head. It sucks! But being out of the corporate world and not traveling so much has also been ridiculously refreshing.
I was laid off last November from a job I had been in for almost 4 years. I was soo bummed. I didn't worry too much because I assumed I would get unemployment for at least a little while I looked for work. Well, I got denied for unemployment because of my school schedule! I ended up getting a short-term part-time position in January that lasted until May. I've had no work since then. It's so hard because not only are there a ton of people applying to every job there is, there just aren't that many openings to apply for.
@mouse- keep at it!! market for lawyers SUCKS but as of August all of my friends from the 2008 class officially had jobs (sucks that it took so long though!). Seems like the market for us is starting to turn around a bit though and firms are starting to hire again. 'bout damn time.
I'm not unemployed, but definitely feeling the pain from my unemployed friends :(
I try to help people out by turning in resumes, but my company (and others I have connections with) will only consider people with experience. When I first started, I could get people into training programs, all of those are no longer as they are expensive.
It's sad b/c I have one friend who is really depressed over the whole thing. She admitted to me that she is jealous about my new job and as a result has been reclusive. She is also a BM, so I am considering offering to pay for her dress, etc. but I don't know if that will backfire (like she'll get mad that i'm 'showing off' I can pay).
@moderndaisy - i disagree - if you are gentle with it I think she'd really appreciate it.
@ Melissa, thanks for the encouragement! It's a little tricky b/c we're long distance so it'll either be on the phone or over email. I just don't want to come off like I think I'm better than her or something, I don't know. She hasn't actually come out and said she needs help, but the deadline to order the dresses is this Sat, so I'll know then if she's done it..
i'm in the same boat. i was laid off in october as well and while i did enjoy the little break, which definitely helped with my classes that quarter, i still feel bad about my current status. i'd rather be working than drawing unemployment.
I have a Doctorate of Veterinary Medicine and a Bachelors of Chemical Engineering (and $160,000 in student loan debt plus a $61,000 mortgage). I have been out of work since September 1st, and have lost track of how many resumes I've sent and acquaintances I've contacted. Luckily, I had quite the savings built up, so my bills are all getting paid. But it blows to watch that number get lower and lower each money. Last week, I had a job interview that seemed promising, so hopefully I'll be employed soon.
i've been unemployed for quite a while. at first i had those same insecure feelings, like i need to be working and bringing in money to be worth something, but my fi was wonderful in making me realize that's not true and that's not why he loves me. considering i was actually unemployed when we started dating, i believe him! but it's still hard, especially because my field is all about helping people and right now i'm concentrating on helping myself, planning the wedding, and getting healthy so we can start a family after we're married.
@moderndaisy. i agree with melissabegins. if you say it nicely, i'm sure she'll appreciate the help with the dress. i was just in my friends wedding and she offered to help me pay for my dress, i took her up on it!
My husband has been out of work for a year. He just got his Series 7 license, and is working on getting his Series 66. He has been doing odd jobs (freelancing for the newspaper, nannying, selling some health and life insurance) but nothing that is really a steady income. We are hoping his new position doing retirement benefits will be the right fit for him! It is wearing on us, and it would be SO nice to be two income family! But at the same time, he spoils me rotten by being home all the time. He does all the laundry, makes me breakfast, lunch and dinner, cleans the house, etc etc. I'm going to miss that! :)
Oh honey I feel your pain. I moved to the UK in October and I am still looking for jobs. It gets so boring when I'm alone from 9-5!!! I have sunk to dismissing my degrees and applying for whatever I can find but even that will make me feel better so maybe try low-balling it and finding something below your qualifications just to occupy you. It definitely sucks the fun out of wedding planning though because it's like great.....now who is gonna pay for this? Good Luck!!!!
Hope all of you ladies find a great job sometime soon! Reading this puts my employment into perspective. I don't always like it, but I'm totally blessed with my job! A regular paycheck and health insurance isn't something that should be taken for granted!
I've been unemployed since last March. I've sent out countless resumes. I'm going to school so that takes up some of my time. I was ok with not working while I was planning the wedding, but now I've got the itch to go back to work. I'm trying to find something but in the meantime, I've done a lot of organizing around the house, scrapbooking, and I've read a lot.
Wow, im not the only one. I mean, I knew i wasnt.
Are you engaged bees still planning the wedding even though you are not employed?
sometimes i feel like because im not working that i dont deserve to get married cause we struggle to pay for wedding stuff
thoughts?
I have been unempolyed since July. I hate that I had no savings and I really can't contribute much to the wedding. I even had to ask the Mister if he could pay for the other half of my dress and buy my shoes :(
I was in marketing and making more than him so it's hard for me asking for money but there are things I need for the wedding, too. Yesterday, he bought a house and it hurts me to think that "our" first home is actually his first home.
It's not fun but you have to stay positive cause it is too easy to get sad!
I lost my job in November 2008, then temped for a long while and landed a part-time job in May. When I started the part-time job, I wasn't elligible for unemployment benefits anymore, but honestly, I make right around the same amount working than I was getting from unemployment. When I started the job, they mentioned it had the potential to turn into a full time job. Now, 8 months later, it's still just part-time.
I met my FI shortly after getting laid off, and he was so supportive throughout the whole thing. It was really a relief to meet someone who cared about who I was and didn't let the fact that I was unemployed get in the way of our romance. There were countless guys I had dated and the second my unemployed status came up, they were heading for the hills and uninterested in me anymore.
Come October, my boyfriend proposed and we were floating on air, so excited. The next week, he was laid off. Boy, 2009 was quite a year.
I started a second PT job in November, and within 2 weeks of working there, the company told me they didn't have the workload to keep me on. That was quite a blow to my esteem. The money I earned from that job was supposed to go straight toward our wedding.
Luckily, he started freelancing right around that time, and between what he's making there and I'm making from my PT job, we are getting by. We are living on a strict budget so that we can save for our wedding. Our wedding isn't going to be as extravagant as maybe we dreamed it would be, but we are making our budget work.
My fiance is currently unemployed. We moved across the country for my new job, and thought it would be easy for him to get a new job out on the west coast. Of course the economy went and ruined that plan for us. He's an architect... and nobody is building buildings right now. It has been nice to have him home... and he's been taking the time to finish up his registration exams. Still, I am definitely looking forward to him returning to work! We're barely getting by on my income. NorCal is EXPENSIVE. Luckily my parents are paying for most of our wedding. Still, we need to save up $$ for rings, gifts, and a honeymoon. That has been pretty hard with only a single income :-(
My fiance is currently unemployed. We moved across the country for my new job, and thought it would be easy for him to get a new job out on the west coast. Of course the economy went and ruined that plan for us. He's an architect... and nobody is building buildings right now. It has been nice to have him home... and he's been taking the time to finish up his registration exams. Still, I am definitely looking forward to him returning to work! We're barely getting by on my income. NorCal is EXPENSIVE. Luckily my parents are paying for most of our wedding. Still, we need to save up $$ for rings, gifts, and a honeymoon. That has been pretty hard with only a single income :-(
@champagne wishes- our first home is actually mine cause he lost his in his last r-ship but i couldnt look at it that way since he pays for the majority of it now. we bought it the SAME week i lost my job!!! before i lost my job of course
I feel the blues, too. I've been pretty hard on myself, b/c I feel like there is no excuse to be unemployed in the nursing field - I mean isn't there a nurse shortgage?
I've been unemployed since I graduated nursing school and received my RN license in 2008. Polite follow-up calls/letters/emails, networking, etc. have not turned anything up. I even have healthcare experience as a volunteer EMT while stuyding in college. Sigh.
I have applied to agencies, civil service exams, retail, dog walking, and practically any available positions - whether they are in healthcare or not. However, since I did not work while in school for 2 years plus the 2 years after graduation, my chances are slim. I've been told by nursing managers to give up, because I'm not a new grad anymore and even new grads are struggling.
The DH is paying my monthly student loan bill and expenses on his not meager but less than middle-class income. He really wants to give me a wedding, but I am adamant about eloping to save money.
Trying to stay positive!
I'm in college and will be looking for a job after graduation in May... so I anticipate being unemployed for a bit, with the economy the way it is. Hopefully I can waitress until I find something, and luckily FI has great benefits that I will get once we're married, and I can defer my student loans for a little while.
@monkeygin - i cannot believe that you couldnt get a nursing job, we're screaming for nurses! goodluck with finding a job
I've been unemployed since I finished my master's at the end of May. It's unbelievable.
I have a friend who graduated from law school at the same time and is now having to go through the process of taking the bar exam all over again in a different state in the hopes that there might be a job somewhere there, since the state he took it in originally is turning up zilch.
The best laid plans.
Its not that were not in need for nurse! Lord knows FL hosptials need them. Its the MAJOR budget cuts from the state that caused huge layoffs. I know of RN's that got layed off and had to go and apply at walmart b/c theres no jobs. Its crazy down here, and not fair to the public who desperately needs the care when their sick.
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