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I did the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony wording. I actually had a couple of people (who were not catholic) ask me if it was gonna be a full mass and I said yes. I assumed that they'd get the idea that it's gonna be a full mass with the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony wording. I guess if you really say nuptial mass, it would really get the point across that it's gonna be a longer ceremony.
Some catholic churches, like ours, actually asked us if we wanted a full mass or a ceremony with readings and vows but without the eucharist, hence, a shorter version. So maybe some of your guests may have attended a wedding in a catholic church without a full mass. We wanted our guests to know that it's gonna be a full mass, not really for the purpose of fulfilling their sunday obligations, but because we wanted them to be prepared (and at least eat beforehand?).
I am doing the following wording
together with their parents, Mr Pretzel and Miss Pretzel request the honour of your presence at the Nuptial Mass uniting them in the sacrament of Holy Matrimony...
I think it is important to specify that you are having a nuptial mass- both for your Catholic guests and for your non Catholic guests
@beekiss: I totally forgot about the one hour fasting thing before receiving the eucharist! LOL! I'm a bad, bad catholic
It's okay, sometimes I forget and then I'm like "crap, I can't receive." One of my priests was telling us about an occurence when he forgot, he was getting ready to drink coffee and another priest was like "Father P., you can't drink that! You're saying Mass!"
beekiss2 - LOL. that's awesome. My FI didn't even know about that rule when we started dating :-/ That was fun, "WHAT DO YOU MEAN I CAN'T EAT!?"
We will be designating that it's a Nuptial Mass. We have a LOT of non-Catholics attending and I don't want any surprises or comments ON my wedding day about "how long." They can moan all they want up to the wedding day, but they better keep quiet the day of :-) It also basically gives me a chance to talk to people who aren't as well and answer any questions they may have.
We're also providing the entire mass word for word with directives for the program.
Oooh, can I piggy back on this post?
My parents are hosting most of our wedding, so I was planning on doing
"Brooklyn bride's parents request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter,
BroooklynBride
to
BrooklynGroom
son of blahblahblah"
We're doing the full nuptial Mass. How would I include the nuptial wording while still keeping all the parents names listed?
I'm having a Catholic wedding, but as my fiance is not Catholic, its not going to be a full mass. Our wording is more along the lines of your original plan, @Neva...I believe we said something like this:
With joyful hearts,
Brides parents
and
Grooms parents
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their children,
Bride
to
Groom
etc etc etc.
I think its up to you and how you want to word your invite, but I definitely see the value in explaining that its a full nuptial mass if thats the case for you.
Thanks for all the comments.
I think I really like the wording Pretzel is using. My only concern, I guess, is that there are a few non-Catholic family members who aren't real big fans of the Church and I was a bit concerned that putting Nuptial Mass and Sacrament of Matrimony right on the invitations would seem a bit too "in your face" to them (you'd have to know them, I guess).
But to avoid any confusion, I'm going to make it very clear what kind of wedding it will be on the invitations and let them decide if they can deal with it or not.
Mine will use the traditional Nuptial Mass wording (not our real names)
Mr. and Mrs. John Patrick Politico
Request the honour of your presence at the Nuptial Mass uniting their daughter
Mary Patricia
and
Mr. Brennan Francis O'Keefe IV
in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
Saturday, the fourteenth of August at seven o'clock in the evening
Cathedral Basiclia
123 Married Avenue, Northwest
Washington, District of Columbia
Mine will use the traditional Nuptial Mass wording (not our real names)
Mr. and Mrs. John Patrick Politico
Request the honour of your presence at the Nuptial Mass uniting their daughter
Mary Patricia
and
Mr. Brennan Francis O'Keefe IV
in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony
Saturday, the fourteenth of August at seven o'clock in the evening
Cathedral Basiclia
123 Married Avenue, Northwest
Washington, District of Columbia
I think it is more important to let your guests know to expect a long ceremony than to worry about family members who would think it is "in your face". Will they find the ceremony itself "in your face"? Don't worry about them, I definitely say you should make it as clear as possible on your invitation. I imagine that to your loved ones who are devoutly Catholic, it will be meaningful, and to those who aren't, it will be a nice heads up on what to expect.
@nevjcu: Yes, they should be capitalized. It should be written as Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.
Can you use the "Sacrament of Holy Matrimony" wording for a shorter ceremony without the Eucharist? I'm guessing you can't use the "Nuptial Mass" wording.
Thank you for posting this. I had no idea there was a "Catholic" way to word your invitations!
@BrooklynBride10: It's customery for Catholic wedding invitations to state "...request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daughter, Beth Bee AND (not "to") Bert Bee"
The idea behind it is similar to Jewish wedding invitations, as two people in a Catholic ceremony are joining together, not the bride is not being married off to the groom.
Hi - I'm protestant, but my Catholic friend who got married last year used a very standard invitation as they didn't want to confuse non Catholic guests.
They did, however insert a card into the invite to let their guests know it would be a full mass, how long it would last and that children might get tired as it's longer than a non-Catholic ceremony.
Good luck!
We used the "request the honour of your presence at the marriage.." wording for our Catholic full Mass wedding. No one seemed confused by it. Everyone we invited knows us really well, so if they didn't know what to expect they probably asked around and I didn't hear about it :)
A bit late on the commenting, but for those of you still curious we are using the following wording:
Mr. and Mrs. Kitchen Koala
together with
Mr. and Mrs. Future in Laws
request the honor of your presence
at the Nuptial Mass uniting their children
Kitchen Koala
and
Mr. Kitchen Koala
in the Sacrament of Holy Matrimony.
@kitchenkoala I like yours a lot. I'm glad someone posted this. I did not know there was a specific way to announce a Catholic wedding.
LOL! As a non-Catholic, I had no idea there was a rule about fasting before the Eucharist!
I was going to say that as a non-Catholic, I appreciate being reminded it's a Mass so I remember TO eat beforehand!
@JennyW1: Only water and medicine 1 hour before. Back in the day, it used to be from the time you'd wake up (so if you went to Mass at noon, no breakfast).
The other thing is that you have to be in a state of grace, which requires confession if you've committed a mortal sin. So if you know it's a Mass, you'd know to go to confession if necessary.
@JoJo Bananas: Can you use the "Sacrament of Holy Matrimony" wording for a shorter ceremony without the Eucharist? I'm guessing you can't use the "Nuptial Mass" wording.
It's a sacrament if two baptized Christians are marrying each other, with or without communion. So you can use "Sacrament of Holy Matrimony" (but you don't have to). That phrasing doesn't tell you if there is a Mass, just that both are Christians.
"Nuptial Mass" is a Mass with a wedding in the middle.
"Rite of Marriage" is a Catholic wedding ceremony without a Mass.
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My fiance and I were looking at invitations online over the weekend. We decided on a fairly traditional wording that reads something like:
Neva
and
FI
request the honour of your presence
at their marriage...
Now I hear from my aunt that Catholic wedding invitations are different and should say something like:
Neva
and
FI
request the honour of your presence
as they are united in the sacrament of Holy Matrimony...
or
Neva
and
FI
request the honour of your presence
at the Nuptial Mass uniting them
in the sacrament of Holy Matrimony...
It never occurred to me that I would need to specify that we are having Mass on the invitation. I guess I just assumed that because we were having the wedding at a Catholic church, people would know it was a Catholic wedding, Maybe the reason we need to mention it’s a Mass on the invitation is so people know it’s going to be a bit longer? Because the wedding will be held fairly early in the afternoon, it’s not like they can plan on using it to fulfill their weekly obligation (sorry!).
None of the sites I’ve looked at shows anything with that wording. Has anyone else worded their invitations similarly?