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I must say that when I first got engaged, I was thrilled about getting married but not at all consumed by the wedding itself.  I really thought I was the "un-bride" because after all, I'm not one of those girls who have been collecting and scrap booking wedding ideas since birth; I was a Tom-boy. Heck, I planned on getting married in an off the rack, non traditional wedding dress in the backyard, with a pot luck, and I wanted my friends/"bridesmaids" to buy whatever they wanted to wear that day in any color that suited them. 

That was before the engagement.  Fast-forward 4 months before the wedding and I'm now obsessed with all things wedding - style, decor, inspiration boards, photography, engagement stories, and accessories - but most particularly, I'm obsessed with flowers and linens.

Even though I have written a check to my florist and pretty much told her to do as she pleases, I still find myself “Googling” images of different flowers and centerpieces. I have pretty much selected every other aspect of the wedding, but the floral, I have changed the flowers many times in my mind. I just want this day to come and be over with so I can stop obsessing.  

So yep - this un-bridey bride is officially wedding obsessed.  Has anyone else who started off like me caught this fever, too?  If so, please share your story - think of it as a support group!

I feel like I am an addict. Like right now, I’m supposed to be working and I am on the Bee. I forgot to mention that I am also a full-time student, and my studies have suffered because of this wedding. I keep saying, “Once the invitations go out, I will resume my normal life,” but I am not so sure that I believe myself.

“Hello, my name is Soon2BMrsMiles, and I am an addict.”

@CupCakeMeg: I went into the planning thinking that I would DIY it, but I became realistic with my goals. I think that is why I am so obsessed, because I am not in control.

...AND I keep completely obsessing over my bridal gown. I bought it way back in April of 2010, now I want a different dress.

Yes triple obessed! but isnt this normal for any bride. I can be at work and then something will come across my mind and I will start googling or go to esty.com to see if I can find something I already have. I am still looking at wedding dresses when I already have mine that I love my dress still dont know why I am looking but that is what being obessed means ,,,,,,,

trying to make the perfect wedding, I dont see anything work with that.....LOL

So all the obessed ladies be proud and smile

@katieebee: I don't think I will go through withdrawls because even though I love the planning, I do want my normal life back :)

@melisslp: I am like you, I think I will still visit the Bee well after the wedding is over. At the very least to post a recap. It is almost impossible to read and receive advice/ideas and not provide an update to all those who helped.

@KevinsWife: "Triple Obsessed." Wow! But I can relate. I love Esty and I am not as productive at work as I used to be. For instance, as type this, I am at work. I'm telling you, if anything, I am addicted to wedding bee. :)

I bit the bullet and purchased another dress. I think I will donate the other to Brides Against Breast Cancer.

...just curious: are you Breanne?

But yeah, I always knew I was going to go a little nuts--I've been playing weddings with my Barbies since pretty much birth--but I have been caught off-guard by how much I WANT to think about the wedding all the time. And well-meaning people keep telling me "It's all about the marriage, not the wedding," but dude. Our relationship is fine. It's not like I'm holding him hostage screaming "YARN BALLS OR MUSLIN BUNTING?" (I save that for my FSIL.) If our relationship is fine, what's the problem with me going crazy over the wedding? I can see the point of getting negative about it if I were neglecting him to focus on it, or taking out negativity about the wedding on him, but... I'm not. I'm just filling our living room with craft projects and obsessing over wedding gowns I probably won't buy.

So. I'm nuts about the wedding, more than I anticipated (I was one of those super-obnoxious "We're just going to have a big party and it will be so much fun and there won't be any STRESS or PRESSURE like those OTHER weddings where the brides take themselves too seriously!" people who think they're being revolutionary when really they haven't faced the logistics of getting people together--not saying you can't have a big party and low-stress wedding, just saying it's a lot harder than I thought). But I don't feel much shame about it. It's a fun hobby for now, and after we get married I can move on to something else, like throwing dinner parties or planning vacations.

Well like you I was never wedding obsessed as a child, I was a tomboy. When I got engaged I also envisioned my wedding being very small and inexpensive. But now I'm having two weddings (a british and an asian to honour both mine and my fiance's culture), which apparently 9according to friends) should be a dream come true.

I'm still not wedding obsessed though....I still feel quite un-bridey. What I imagined and what I'm getting are completely different. I feel overwhelmed and like part of a fairytale since the asian wedding will have hundreds of guests and the british one will be posher than i ever imagined. When people ask me about colour schemes etc I'm still all "err what?"

I hope I get more "bridey" as time goes on, don't get me wrong I am sooooooo excited but at the same time it's all very over my head and whirlwindy. I haven't got the first clue about weddings and shock myself whenever I make a decision.