Post # 1
FI and I are not far along in our engagement and wedding planning journey. But, we’ve already run into several people insisting to be invited and many people insisting we invite their friends, SOs, kids, etc.
One girl even went as far to say, “Well I’m just going to attach myself to the bridal party and stand up with them even if you don’t give me a dress.” That came out of the mouth of a 30 year old. She’s a friend of FI’s sister and is not on the guest list.
FI and I aren’t even inviting many friends to our very small, intimate wedding. Why would we invite friends of friends?
I understand that it’s early and that people get really excited about weddings but I’m starting to get nervous about crashers.
The girl who said she would attach herself to the bridal party is the best friend of FI’s sister (FI’s sister is a bridesmaid). I’m pretty sure FI’s sister is going to be angry that we don’t invite the friend (which would mean 5 extra people as she has a boyfriend and three ill-behaved children).
Are you worried about crashers? What are you going to do if people show up who weren’t invited?
Post # 3
To be honest I am not worried about crashers because even if they show up they will not be let in…as simple as that no one get through the doors if your not on the list,. what is the size of your wedding?
Post # 4
It’s going to be a small, simple VFW hall for the reception type of wedding. We’re having around 50-60 guests.
Post # 5
No not at all because our wedding is in the middle of nowhere in Georgia. I dont post my website on facebook or anything that would give clues about where it is. In order for someone to crash our wedding they would have to travel hundreds of miles, most likely fly, then rent a car and drive about 1.5 hours to our venue. Also, our guests will have to check in at a security gate since we are getting married inside of a gated community. Not worried at alL!
Post # 6
I am not worried about crashers. We are not inviting a lot of people and dont really know anyone who would just show up.
As for the Friend of FSIL- I dont understand why she wants to come to YOUR wedding its not FSIL’s wedding.
Post # 7
I think people start saying silly things like that to either figure out if they are going to be invited or try to guilt you into inviting them.
I honestly don’t expect there to be any crashers at our wedding.
Post # 8
I worried about random people watching us since ours was in a public garden. But luckily we had no problems! It was pretty seculded and rained after our ceremony so it cleared the garden out!
Post # 9
I’m not worried about crashers so much as “gawkers.” We’re getting married in an inn, and even though the building will be closed to the dining public during our ceremony and reception, anyone who is staying there will be permitted in the building. Of course, they’re going to notify everyone that there will be a wedding and they either shouldn’t be around or should stay in their rooms, but I have no idea how they’ll police that.
And God forbid anyone not invited sneaks any of our food… I’ll kill ’em.
Post # 10
Not really. Especially since my FI, I, our officient (probably), a cousin, as well as A LOT of other great friends will be coming armed with swords, daggers, knives, etc, lol. Non-invited guests would be asked to leave at sword-point! LOL! Not really, but one never knows with a few of the guests 😉
There’s also the fact that it’s a really secluded place and the only ones who’d try inviting others would be my FI’s family and he’s already prepared to go head-on with his mother. 🙂 I love him.
Besides, most of the cabins will probably be rented by the guests. If not, we’re not worried, since the people who would be there aren’t the kind who would “crash” a wedding.
Post # 11
my wedding was about 2.5 hours drive from the town where I live, but I did have one crasher I was afraid of. She crashed another friends wedding that was local and she mentioned coming to mine even though we were friends in high school and then lost touch (6 or so years ago) I ran into her once and she kept asking when the wedding was. I would just say “march” and when she asked where i said “oh in the gorge”. also I made our weddingwebsite un searchable since I have a very unique first name.
Post # 12
Just today, I went to the post office to mail out our save the dates & the clerk who helped me is the aunt of my cousin’s friend. Well, I requested that the envelopes be hand cancelled and can you guess her response??? “Oh, these must be invitations! Is there one for me in here?” Ok, cute, exchanging pleasantries, right? WRONG. She continued, “I hear your family throws WONDERFUL parties and I wasn’t invited to the anniversary party last winter, so I’d love to come to the wedding. Who is getting married?” “I am,” I replied. “Oh how wonderful, keep me posted,” she said.
I don’t think there will be any actual crashers at our wedding, but there have already been & I”m sure will continue to be those folks who insist upon inviting themselves.
Just be polite and let people know that you are having a very small, intimate wedding and then sincerely thank them for thinking of you.
Post # 13
I am. I am not inviting some aunts and uncles because of ridiculous family drama and alcoholic scenes (my parents didn’t want me to invite them, and while it was my choice, these people have shown no interest in my life in years, so I have no problem honoring those wishes), but they live two hours away from my parents’ house, where the wedding is held.
Since other members of the family are coming, they will likely hear about it.