Post # 1
Ive been watching a show called 4 Weddings, where 4 brides rip apart each others weddings for a chance to win a great honeymoon. I makes me sick. Now I know that its just reality TV and to win a prize, but I know for a fact guests come and complain. Someone told me no matter how much planning or money you put into a wedding guests will still have something to cry about – why? I see this a lot in mediterranean and asain weddings and it upsets me and makes me wonder if ppl will complain at mine?
Do you ever worry too?
Post # 3
I think there’s a lot of people who just HAVE to complain about something. I wouldn’t let it get to you. For as many people who complain, there are 3 times as many people who are just happy and honored to be a part of your big day:) Do what makes you and Fiance happy and the happiness and joy will spread.
Post # 4
That is one of the reasons why I am determined to keep my guest list small. We are inviting 50 ppl to our wedding. With only 25 people to invite for each of us, we are limited to only our closest family members and verrry best friends. Our guest list is made up of ppl who love us like crazy and just wanna be there to see us get married. You can’t satisfy everyone, but I’m sure we are minimizing complaints by doing it this way.
SN:I watch 4 Weddings too and I saw that episode last night. One of those brides had a $75,000 wedding budget!!! She was the rudest. But all 4 of the weddings had elements that I loved.
Post # 5
I don’t watch that show because of all the complaining and cutting up of other people’s ideas and plans!
And I wasn’t worried about people complaining about my wedding because it was going to be a lot of fun….but they did have a reason to complain, sub par food….and I agree!
Post # 6
Let me put your mind at ease: Don’t worry, people will complain. No matter what you do. Not like “4 Weddings” vicious, but they will complain. Worrying about it is like worrying that your future children will blame you for everything–don’t worry, they will.
Just do the best you can, and shrug it off. And you’ll probably be having so much fun on your big day, you won’t even notice.
Post # 7
I’m not worried that guests will complain about our wedding because we’re only inviting people who love and care about us. If our family and friends want to complain then I will kindly point them towards the door.
Post # 8
So what if they do? Not everyone is going to like something, it’s just the way the world works. I’m sure of the people you invited … you know if you’re going to have a complainer or two or more ….. I have an Uncle and Aunt and their kids and grandkids who are alllll surface no substance and pick apart everything. They aren’t invited. You should be excited for the things you’ve planned and spent time on, and remember it’s a celebration about you and your FI
Post # 9
If someone complains to me at my wedding I will give them my “are you f-ing kidding me?” look. So, no, I’m not worried.
Post # 10
I can actually look at the different aspects of my wedding and know which people will complain about. Destination wedding on a Sunday – my goodness, how rude are we expecting everyone to drive several hours and spend money on a hotel. Outdoor ceremony – it’ll either be too cold, too windy, too hot, too sunny or too buggy. The lines at the open bar will be too long. The reception site is a 5 minute uphill walk from the ceremony site, and while we’ll be driving grandparents and stuff, everyone else will bitch and moan. I’m sure there are other things I haven’t considered yet, but I’m just not going to worry about it. It’s our wedding, and my fiance and I are pretty psyched about everything. If people want to come and celebrate with us, they’re welcome. If not, their loss.
The one thing I’m telling people is, “Do not dare call me on the morning of my wedding to complain about the weather and ask if the ceremony will still be outside. If it’s freezing or raining, we’ll be indoors and we’ll let you know. Otherwise, bring a coat!”
Post # 11
I don’t know if I would call it complaining per se, but some will surely pick it apart. I will have people complain that the reception isn’t “up to par”, I will have people complain that I spent too much money. They can all leave if they don’t want to dance at our party. whatever. sorry about the free food.
Post # 12
@eliwhit: Sorry about the free food. Hilarious.
Post # 13
I’ll try my best not to give a crap! I will be spending a lot of money on my wedding and I still think if my budget was doubled and I could offer more ppl would still complain. If i catch someone bitching it will take every fiber of my being not to yell at them! lol Ive already had to defend myself for the ceremony not being a religious one!
Post # 14
Unfortunately I have one friend who I know will pick apart my wedding. Our whole friendship she’s been very competitive and it really bothers me, but not enough to end the friendship I guess. She was married last summer, and had all the traditional aspects of a wedding. Mine on the other hand will be somewhat untraditional – a morning ceremony, followed by a brunch reception. No first dance, no garter/bouquet toss, etc. She’s already shown her disapproval of it, but I’ve always been one to go against the grain to some degree. I’ve just come to accept she will be judging it the whole time and frankly, I do not care!
Post # 15
I worried about it a lot in advance, but when the day came I forgot about it completely. Actually, I watched Four Weddings before my wedding and it made me so stressed I cried!
Post # 16
Mine already are complaining. Ok not all of them, but if I hear another comment about the day, time, and town my wedding is in I may lose it. So far I’ve just been smiling and saying “I know it may be inconvient for you but we’d love for you to try to make it”.