Are you writing your Thank You notes by yourself or sharing the duty with FI?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: If you are handwriting your Thank You notes, are you:
    Writing them by yourself? : (71 votes)
    48 %
    Splitting the duty with your spouse? : (70 votes)
    48 %
    Giving the duty to your spouse? : (3 votes)
    2 %
    Other : (3 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    1902 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2012

    I wrote all of them, because I wanted to make sure they went out.  I just said thanks from the both of us, but only signed my name.

    Post # 4
    3756 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    We got ours out just before the 6 week mark. We sat down and did them together.

    Post # 5
    646 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I’m writing thank yous for our wedding shower right now. I’m doing them all, and will likely end up doing all the wedding ones also. FI is terrible with cards and coming up with something to write. Luckily, I’m really good at forging his signature haha.

    Post # 6
    7304 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    Mr. LK and I split them in half. It was his wedding/wedding gifts, too.

    Post # 7
    1101 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2013

    We are writing thank you cards right now and we are splitting them. SO writes the ones for his friends and family and I write the ones for my friends and then we both sign the card. 

    Post # 8
    1208 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2004

    I wrote all of them and signed both our names but my husband signed his name on cards to people who gave us super generous gifts (grandma, some aunts/uncles), etc.

    Post # 10
    839 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    We split our engagement party thank you cards, and we will be splitting our wedding thank you cards as well. I will most likely be doing the shower cards myself, though. 

    Post # 11
    1195 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Split! I did my family and friends, he did his. Worked out perfect. Gave him a deadline and to,d him I did not care when he did them as long as they were done by that timeframe.

    Post # 12
    357 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I wrote all the bridal shower thank yous (and he signed).

    For the wedding, we split them in half and both signed all of them.

    I work for the government and we were shut down after my wedding so we got them all out within a week after the wedding. Was SO glad to have them done. I hate thank you notes – both giving and receiving them (not because I am not thankful, but they feel awkward and false to me – but I understand that they are important!)

    Post # 13
    1068 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: July 2014

    LOL the only way FI is going to get out of it is if he is rubbing my feet every moment that I’m writing thank you notes.  Barring that, he’ll be writing half.

    Post # 14
    4601 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    I will be doing them. FH has really awful handwriting so it makes more sense for me to do them. I will do them a little at a time so I don’t end up with a stack. 

    Post # 15
    6566 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    We had about 110 thank yous to get out and DH did about 10 of them. I asked him to write the ones for his groomsmen and for the family members that I didn’t know very well on his side. We were moving at the time and he was doing a lot of the packing and transporting of our stuff or I probably would have asked him to do half.

    Post # 16
    772 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    My husband’s handwriting is barely recognizable as writing…so I wrote them all. In exchange, I spent one of our presents on 100%  myself- a gift card to Nordstrom.

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