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I took my hubby's last name, but I still kept my maiden name by changing to my middle name. I would have kept both my middle and my maiden name as a longer middle name, but it was way too long to fit on my social security card. I'll probably give my old middle name to one of my kids :D
I will be taking his last name. I'm an encore and athough I like having the same last name as my children, they are older now and can explain themselves. My maiden name was hard to say and hard to spell - my X's name was easy and short, but carries the weight of bad vibes. I'm proud to take the new one. 
I like my middle name, so I'm keeping it.
I am keeping my name. I really like my name and I don't want to have to go through the hassle of changing my name. My parents are divorced and have both remarried and I learned a long time ago that people do not have to have the same last name to be a family.
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I have an interesting issue with my name. So my mom comes from a really old English/Irish Shipbuilding family with the last name O'Neill. My mom had 5 daughters and we are all hyphenated O'Neill-McG...... . There will be no more O'Neills afters us. My dad, the McG..... is part of a huge (13 kids) family and the name is somewhat famous in our area. Its fun when someone says, "oh youre a McG.... are you related to...?" Even though there are some fun parts to having these names (getting out of speeding tickets, free drinks at bars, etc) I have ALWAYS had an issue with my hyphenated last name (think Blockbuster, DMV, Graduatioen, etc. ) Because it is such a pain, most of my sisters have dropped the O'Neill and only use the McG except on really official documents like passports, licenses, etc. I have been dying to get rid of it but at the same time I feel bad letting the name die.
Some people suggest that I take ONeill as my middle name. However, check out my future initials: S O W !!!!! I cant be a SOW! Thats a no.
I think it is so romantic to take your fiances name and so I am going to take the plunge. Anyone think Im making the wrong decision?
Ok, brace yourselves for this one. I'll be changing my current middle name to a maternal family name, moving my (paternal) maiden name to a second middle and then tacking his last name on the end. So technically I'll have two middle names but if I want to use both as if they were hyphenated I can do so. I also like that I'll be representing both sides of my family. Not to mention, my mom absolutely loves it since my parents just got divorced two years ago.
I'm also hoping that I'll look like less of an idiot if I can say Caitlan Maiden...HisLast while I'm adapting to the new name rather than Caitlan Cam....uh, I mean, HisLast...
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Yeah I am taking his last name.. I am going from a really easy last name to a very hard bothing is saying and spelling czech last name! I can't wait!!! HAHA :0)
I'm planning on changing my name. It sometimes makes me a little nostalgic to think about it, and I will miss my last name, but it's something that I really want to do. (And unlike several bees I've read about today, I'm very fortunate: my fiance was shocked when I said I wanted to change my name, but I think he's excited too, now!)
I may hyphenate because...professionally I'm known by my last name (maiden). When I divorced, I hyphenated it because I wanted to carry my last name as I love my family and wanted to downplay my x's last name but somehow keep it just so the teachers at school and parents would know I'm my sons' mom.
I just may keep my maiden and hyphenate again to his..or might just change it.
My fiance and I are both hyphenating, so it will be MyLast-HisLast. I was actually willing to take his name, but he felt quite strongly that we shouldn't lose my name and so he suggested this. I'm really happy with it!
@caitlanc: I did the same thing as you! I've always been closer to my mom's family and wanted to incorporate their name into mine. I changed it as Social Security, and the DMV refused to put it on my license because they don't care what Social Security has and said they needed something to show me using my mom's last name before. They said the only way they would put it on my license would be if I could get the name on my passport, which they said they probably wouldn't let me do. Well...I got my passport yesterday and they did it with no problems! So, now I'm going back to the DMV to laugh at them and make them do what I originally asked! So now, my new name is legally First + Mom's Last + Maiden + His Last & = LABP...weird initials but I couldn't be happier with the change!
I plan to make my maiden name into a second middle name and take my FI's last name. Provided the SS office doesn't throw a fit!
I plan on taking his last name. It was never an issue for me, and my maiden name is hard to say/pronounce/spell and I'm ready for a "American" name over my German one. If it flowed better, I would consider changing my middle name to my maiden name. But it's very choppy: Mandy Qu.... Miles.
I am really attached to my (long and often mispronounced) surname and feel like it is part of who I am. I know that names hold different meanings for different people (my mom couldn't wait to change her name, same w/my best friend) but for me, personally, I love my fiance (and his family) very much but I wouldn't feel comfortable changing my name.
Many of my friends have replaced their middle name with their maiden name. My friend who will be getting her PhD soon will be doing this so she can list her publications w/out much confusion when submitting job applications.
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I changed my name as my husband really wanted me to, and I wasn't really attached to my last name, nor did I really care. I'm still early enough in my professional career that it was not hard to do. If I was older I would likely have kept my name both professionally and socially.
It's interesting to hear everyone's reasons for changing/not changing.
OMG.. OMG.. OMG.. so in a casual late night conversation I brought up my happy bee board conversation and was telling FI that I think I made the decsion to just move my maiden name to another middle and take his last name.... WOOOOOW DRAMA....
Tell me it did not end up in a full 2 hour conversation with im pulling in lifelines and calling people.. seriously! It was a heated conversationm and all he could say was, "its just tradition, it just what happens...". So then I started and was questioning.. I feel ike its crazy for a man to just expect a woman to remove her name as it has been since birth.
I have no problem taking on his last name and just moving my last name a little to the left.. using it only on important documents (ie passports, SSN, and more important to me my degrees)
I have no idea what to do... it really was a heated conversation and I know its not over. He says he feels like because I have been so independent all these years that I don't want to let that go so I am holding onto my name as evidence.. BUT really I have always thought of myself as a double last name person. I was bringing up civil rights, equal partners, the whole thing.. I even asked him ti take my last name and we can both be Cugno-Puida... lets just say that did not go over well.
So, I did not vote because I have no idea yet and our wedding is in 2 months... we have to go apply for our marriage license next week.. Oh Boy ... 
I am going to make my maiden name my middle name and take his last name. FI does not feel strongly that I take his name, but likes that I am doing it. I am changing it in part because I am a traditionalist and in part because I would like to have the same last name as my kids.
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I REALLY want to keep my last name. BUT...I will taking his. Mr. Sushi has a son from a previous relationship and he has Mr. Sushi's last name. I don't want our future kids to have a different last name from their half brother, and I don't want a different last name from my kids. So all in all...I have to change my name.
We have joked about starting from scratch and creating a new last name. But Mr. Sushi thinks he's cute and comes up with ridiculous names like "Diamondz". ::shakeshead::
I WILL! and I can't wait. My lastname has 11 letters. People always ask me to spell it out. His name....*2 letters*...yay! but funnily enough they also ask him to spell it out! lol
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Yes, I've noticed some guys feel very strongly about this issue.
I asked the FI, male coworkers, cousins and some others. They feel that when a woman doesn't change her name to the husbands is because she lacks commitment...well, most of them anyway.
My BFF and others think is ok because they have careers that they have forged with their names so for them their name is $, recognition and awards...changing their name could bring business issues....but they would if they could.
Here in Quebec (Canada) they are against name changes. Its all about you as an individual. That being said, you can choose to change your name put theres a fee (something like 300$ apart from all the fees attached to the documentaion for name changes).
I am keeping my name because my father had 4 daugters and his name is gonna disappear...in the long run. Plus, I love my name. (its nicer than Mr.Fs thats for sure! lol)
I've been doodling my name with boys last names since I was 12, so I NEVER imagined that this topic would be such a sensitive one for me now that the time has really come! I am very sad to part with my last name, even though I love my fi's last name and think it sounds even better with mine. I really do. But, friends have called me by my last name or a version of it for YEARS, I've been published under it, and well.... it's just who I AM! So it's really sad for me and really feels like the end of my former life. But, my fiance definitely wants me to change my name, and as I said... I do too. So I will. But that doesn't mean I won't be mourning the loss of my maiden name!!
I'm probably going to make my maiden name my middle name so it's not AS sad, even though we are both Greek and as you can imagine, it won't be the prettiest full name ever, nor the easiest to say. My Fi wants me to keep my middle name and drop my last all together, and while I agree that does sound much nicer... I just don't think I can let go of the maiden name all together.
@ Lillindy: Hooray! I'm so glad there's precedence! I've been worried about changing it legally and how much money it's worth to me in case it's expensive. Thanks so much for saying you made it work!
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I'm going to take his name. I have 2 bros., 3 nephews, and two male cousins to go forth and spread the name! I want his name and I want to have the same name as my future children. I am still tossing around the idea of moving my maiden name to my middle name. But I like my middle name and I'm not sure if I want two middle names.
@future puida: So your FI has an issue with you not dropping your last name completely?? Wow, I would never have thought that would be an issue! I mean, as long as you're taking his last name you'd think he wouldn't care what you did with your maiden name.
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i'm going to take his last name... it will be hard though because i really like my last name and his is longer and hard to spell.. i'm keeping my email though (with my maiden name)!
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I've decided to go the hyphenation route. My last name is VERY German (and has 8 letters), FI's is equally German (and has 7 letters) but I cannot give up my maiden last name. I've always been mylastname and even though it will be almost twice as long I just can't part with it. I became incredibly attached to my last name when my Dad passed away. I have no idea how I'm going to fit it all in those tiny signature spaces (I have HUGE handwriting) but I'll manage. :) If it wasn't bad luck to write your new last name before the wedding I'd practice. :)
uh oh..its bad luck to practice writing your new last name! 
in that case i'll stop doing that
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I'm keeping mine. Maybe hyphenating. I knew a girl with myfirstname hislastname as a kid, and I didn't like her, so I don't want her name! Isn't that a terrible reason? But seriously, I have myfirstname mymom'smaidennameasamiddlename mylastname and then will add hislastname somehow so that I can use either once we have kids. Mylastname has meaning to me, and I'm becoming known by it professionally. I don't want to give it up! Kids will have hislastname and a family name of mine in there somewhere...
Whoops! I didn't know it was bad luck, either, haha
CHK --- Haha, I totally thought I was the only person who would have a reason like that. if I changed my last name to my FI's, I would have the same name of my 6th grade teacher and I HATED her . Sure I have other reasons for not changing... but I can't say that teacher isn't a factor :)
Initially I figured I'd take my last as a new middle name and go by both. Lately I've been toying around with hyphenating. I'd have 4 syllables, which I don't think is too bad, and they're easy to spell last names. We'll see. I've got some time.
I'm keeping my name officially (Dr. MaidenName) but will use his name socially (feel free to call me Mrs. HisName!). Officially, that means I'm keeping my name legally, but I've heard of people doing some funny things, like adding his name so you have 4 names, not hyphenated, and then officially using them interchangeably on legal forms like licenses, deeds, etc. I have to look into this soon.
I'm planning on taking his last name legally and keeping my maiden name as a middle name. I'm a writer, though, and my byline will remain the same as it always has.
I'm taking his last name. As simple as that!!
I don't care that it doesn't get mispronounced like my maiden name does. I don't care if it's longer than my maiden name is. I have no reasons to keep my maiden, it's just a name...I'll still be me no matter what name I have.
I'll be proud to be known as Mrs. E. I've been practicing it for a year and a half now and am ready for the change.
i am taking his last name. it's funny because my last name is super italian. i will no longer be told bad italian jokes when i tell people my name. haha.
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I am taking his name, but naming our kids after someone from my family as a way to keep my family's names living on.
im not changing my name but ive notice something very interesting since ive been married nearly a month
im getting junk mail with my married name while the serious-need to be opened and taken care off mail has my maiden name
married name mail=in the bin
maiden name mail=open & take care of stuff
having 2 names for mailouts might have its advantages
i'll be keeping my name professionally and hyphenating socially. all my diplomas are in my maiden and by business. changing will be too difficult.
I am taking his last name because it means so much to him :)
I'm definitely taking his! =) Just like Miss Mary Jane, I can't wait to be part of a "team". He asked me if I wanted him to take mine, or if I wanted us to hyphenate, etc...but I really don't mind. It might be a bit of a hassle for me to change my name (in terms of legalities), BUT he has to change banks, etc. so I don't mind.
I did not take my husband's name in my first marriage, and am not taking my wife's this time. (And FWIW, my last marriage ended because of his lack of commitment, not mine, since he was the one who decided to leave.)
I have a real issue with the idea that you are obligated to change your name if your FI wants you to. Would he change his name because you want him to? If not, why does he have more say over your name than you have over his? Starting out a marriage with the precedent that you do what he says, and not vice versa, seems to me a really bad start to a marriage.
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After reading through this thread I thought it might be an interesting poll to take.
I plan to change my name. My current last name is long and difficult to pronounce and spell ... my fiances name is so simple, I just cannot wait to change it. That and I really do love the traditional idea of becoming one new family together with one name. My FMIL did not change her name and she told me that it was a "terrible decision" to change my name, I just ignored her as best I could. :)