Post # 1
After reading through this thread I thought it might be an interesting poll to take.
I plan to change my name. My current last name is long and difficult to pronounce and spell … my fiances name is so simple, I just cannot wait to change it. That and I really do love the traditional idea of becoming one new family together with one name. My FMIL did not change her name and she told me that it was a "terrible decision" to change my name, I just ignored her as best I could. 🙂
Post # 3
I took my hubby’s last name, but I still kept my maiden name by changing to my middle name. I would have kept both my middle and my maiden name as a longer middle name, but it was way too long to fit on my social security card. I’ll probably give my old middle name to one of my kids 😀
Post # 4
I will be taking his last name. I’m an encore and athough I like having the same last name as my children, they are older now and can explain themselves. My maiden name was hard to say and hard to spell – my X’s name was easy and short, but carries the weight of bad vibes. I’m proud to take the new one. I like my middle name, so I’m keeping it.
Post # 5
I am keeping my name. I really like my name and I don’t want to have to go through the hassle of changing my name. My parents are divorced and have both remarried and I learned a long time ago that people do not have to have the same last name to be a family.
Post # 6
I have an interesting issue with my name. So my mom comes from a really old English/Irish Shipbuilding family with the last name O’Neill. My mom had 5 daughters and we are all hyphenated O’Neill-McG…… . There will be no more O’Neills afters us. My dad, the McG….. is part of a huge (13 kids) family and the name is somewhat famous in our area. Its fun when someone says, "oh youre a McG…. are you related to…?" Even though there are some fun parts to having these names (getting out of speeding tickets, free drinks at bars, etc) I have ALWAYS had an issue with my hyphenated last name (think Blockbuster, DMV, Graduatioen, etc. ) Because it is such a pain, most of my sisters have dropped the O’Neill and only use the McG except on really official documents like passports, licenses, etc. I have been dying to get rid of it but at the same time I feel bad letting the name die.
Some people suggest that I take ONeill as my middle name. However, check out my future initials: S O W !!!!! I cant be a SOW! Thats a no.
I think it is so romantic to take your fiances name and so I am going to take the plunge. Anyone think Im making the wrong decision?
Post # 7
Ok, brace yourselves for this one. I’ll be changing my current middle name to a maternal family name, moving my (paternal) maiden name to a second middle and then tacking his last name on the end. So technically I’ll have two middle names but if I want to use both as if they were hyphenated I can do so. I also like that I’ll be representing both sides of my family. Not to mention, my mom absolutely loves it since my parents just got divorced two years ago.
I’m also hoping that I’ll look like less of an idiot if I can say Caitlan Maiden…HisLast while I’m adapting to the new name rather than Caitlan Cam….uh, I mean, HisLast…
Post # 8
Yeah I am taking his last name.. I am going from a really easy last name to a very hard bothing is saying and spelling czech last name! I can’t wait!!! HAHA :0)
Post # 9
I’m planning on changing my name. It sometimes makes me a little nostalgic to think about it, and I will miss my last name, but it’s something that I really want to do. (And unlike several bees I’ve read about today, I’m very fortunate: my fiance was shocked when I said I wanted to change my name, but I think he’s excited too, now!)
Post # 10
I may hyphenate because…professionally I’m known by my last name (maiden). When I divorced, I hyphenated it because I wanted to carry my last name as I love my family and wanted to downplay my x’s last name but somehow keep it just so the teachers at school and parents would know I’m my sons’ mom.
I just may keep my maiden and hyphenate again to his..or might just change it.
Post # 11
My fiance and I are both hyphenating, so it will be MyLast-HisLast. I was actually willing to take his name, but he felt quite strongly that we shouldn’t lose my name and so he suggested this. I’m really happy with it!
Post # 12
@caitlanc: I did the same thing as you! I’ve always been closer to my mom’s family and wanted to incorporate their name into mine. I changed it as Social Security, and the DMV refused to put it on my license because they don’t care what Social Security has and said they needed something to show me using my mom’s last name before. They said the only way they would put it on my license would be if I could get the name on my passport, which they said they probably wouldn’t let me do. Well…I got my passport yesterday and they did it with no problems! So, now I’m going back to the DMV to laugh at them and make them do what I originally asked! So now, my new name is legally First + Mom’s Last + Maiden + His Last & = LABP…weird initials but I couldn’t be happier with the change!
Post # 13
I plan to make my maiden name into a second middle name and take my FI’s last name. Provided the SS office doesn’t throw a fit!
Post # 14
I plan on taking his last name. It was never an issue for me, and my maiden name is hard to say/pronounce/spell and I’m ready for a "American" name over my German one. If it flowed better, I would consider changing my middle name to my maiden name. But it’s very choppy: Mandy Qu…. Miles.
Post # 15
I am really attached to my (long and often mispronounced) surname and feel like it is part of who I am. I know that names hold different meanings for different people (my mom couldn’t wait to change her name, same w/my best friend) but for me, personally, I love my fiance (and his family) very much but I wouldn’t feel comfortable changing my name.
Many of my friends have replaced their middle name with their maiden name. My friend who will be getting her PhD soon will be doing this so she can list her publications w/out much confusion when submitting job applications.
Post # 16
I changed my name as my husband really wanted me to, and I wasn’t really attached to my last name, nor did I really care. I’m still early enough in my professional career that it was not hard to do. If I was older I would likely have kept my name both professionally and socially.
It’s interesting to hear everyone’s reasons for changing/not changing.