(Closed) Are/Did you live together before the wedding?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: Did you/Will you live together before your wedding?
    Yes... and I'll tell you why : (307 votes)
    79 %
    No.. and I'll tell you why : (67 votes)
    17 %
    Other (I'm not sure what the other may be, so explain if you pick this one!) : (6 votes)
    2 %
    I admit it.. unless it looks reallllly interesting, I only click the posts with the polls. : (7 votes)
    2 %
  • Post # 3
    8042 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2013

    @OnceUponATime:  Sounds like good enough reasons to me!

    I guess for us it just sort of happened naturally. We spent a lot of time together right from the start, and he never spent much time at his place. We figured it was silly to pay for 2 places, so he officially moved in with me. We did discuss that we want to get married, though. I made the mistake in my early 20s of moving in w. a guy when the relationship was headed nowhere and did not want to make the same mistake again.

    So hopefully we will be married pretty soon!

    Post # 4
    242 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    im one of the few who don’t live with my Fiance. There’s a couple reasons:

    1. Religious reasons: both devoted Christians who are also virgins. We are both waiting for marriage, so living together would be too big of a temptation. Its already hard enough as it is lol!
    2. It would be frowned upon where I live
    3. When we do move in together, it’s just gonna be that much more awesome. Roommates AND hubby/wifey!!

    In the end, I’m glad we don’t live together right now. And it’s totally okay that we don’t. 🙂

    Post # 5
    4049 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I’ll explain my “Other” vote! We are LDR and live in different countries, so we cannot live together permanently until one of us has a visa (in our case I will get a spousal visa). However, he visits me here for weeks at a time, and I try to visit longer when I am on school holidays (two months this summer, three weeks this winter, etc.).

    So in a sense we have short bursts of living together, but I can’t totally move in, so I feel like I am a little inbetween!

    And with that said, if we were a more conventional couple and were in the same country, we’d definitely be living together before marrying. I think it’s nice to have the difficult parts of that adjustment done with before the wedding. It’s convenient too. And it’s just pretty dang fun!

    Post # 6
    1663 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Yup!  We’ve been together for 4 years and lived together for more than 2 of those years.  We were spending so much time together, it was super annoying to go back and forth between our apartments (not close together).  I think it was also helpful to take our relationship to a more intimate level prior to making the commitment to get engaged/married– I think it helped him to feel ready to take that next step.

    Post # 7
    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    I live with my Fiance. 

    1. I can’t afford rent on my own.

    2. I love spending time with my Fiance, and I know if I didn’t live with him I would never see him. (He’s working 60 hours a week right now and going to school full time. I literally wouldn’t see him until Sunday).

    3. It just reaffirms my love for him when I see him doing little things that I wouldn’t see otherwise.

    4. We were a LDR for 2 summers and 2 Christmas vacations… and for one semester of college. We just wanted to be together.

    Post # 8
    10453 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    We have been together almost 7 years. We bought our house last summer because it was about damn time we lived together! Haha, but we knew we would get engaged and then married. His parents didn’t love the idea since they are pretty traditional but they knew this wasn’t just a fling.

    Post # 9
    3771 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Brookfield Zoo

    We are living together pre-marriage.  For me there was no issue of religion or waiting or anything, although I completely respect those as reasons, but we just really wanted to see each other more!  We were semi-long distance (90 miles) away from each other until we lived together, so although we’d spent weekends together and stuff, it just wasn’t enough.  I have to say it’s been a great decision, our love has only grown and of course we got engaged soon after; living together was like a next step for us.

    Post # 10
    4606 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    We are living together because we wanted to and it saved FH money. We did wait until we were engaged though. 

    We spent most of our relationship being somewhat long distance and when I moved to be closer to him (30 minutes away from where he lived) he just sort of came over one night and never left. I won’t complain though. I love seeing him every day and he loves the fact that the house payment is less than his rent so he has extra money at the end of the month. 

    Post # 11
    1578 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013 - Country Club

    Just wanted to add that I think living with Fiance as my HUSBAND will be totally different from living with him as my fiance. 😉 And he is still going to carry me over the threshold of our apartment. And whenever we buy a house, he’ll carry me over that threshold, too!

    Post # 13
    1091 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    Fiance and I have been long distance for our entire 6.5 year relationship. I lived in FL (for college) when we started dating and he lived in IN and he still does. I moved to Chicago for grad school and to be closer to him 3 years ago. Our tentative plan was for him to move over here and go to school for his BA; but he decided to go to school in IN because it would be cheaper. We’re planning a wedding here, and I’m not equipped to move to where he lives (I don’t have a car) just now. I will be moving a few weeks after our wedding though and commuting to my job because it pays well 🙂

    Post # 14
    2287 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: Central Park

    I would never pledge to spend the rest of my life without living with them first. That’s when you learn someone’s true personality/habits/lifestyle choices.

    Post # 15
    999 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We lived together before marriage, we had sex before marriage, we bought a house before marriaige, we did everything backwards LOL.

    We slept at each others place often, so living together eventualy came naturally. We couldnt be apart I guess.

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