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So I really wanted to stay with my BMs at our resort on the Friday night before our wedding. FI's bday falls on that day and he really wants to stay together. I feel torn! What did or are you doing? What would you tell him?
I don't plan on it. Our wedding is in my hometown The night before the wedding he will be in the hotel room and I will be staying at my parents house.
I personally I'm staying with FI the night before. I wouldn't be able to sleep without him and wouldn't look as great on the big day, but that's just me.
I agree with ama0219. I will to be sleeping with my fiance the night before. I have trouble sleeping when he's not next to me. He just makes me feel safe.
I'm going to be sharing a room with my sister (MOH) and 2 bridesmaids.
FI will be sharing a room with his brother (BM) and a groomsman or two.
@ama0219: I agree! I can't sleep without him and I feel like I would be less-anxious if I had him by me all night. BUT I feel like I've always dreamed of the night before spending with my girls. Kind of sad that he doesn't want that for me but I understand.
@KatNYC2011: That's what I suggested to FI but he didn't like it. Guess the guys don't appreciate a slumber party like we do!
We're getting married at a resort in Mexico and will have stayed in our room together 3 nights before the "pre-wedding night," yet my man still wants to stick with tradition. At first I thought it was silly because we'll have settled in and unpacked, but now I think it is a sweet sentiment. My younger cousin (who is my MOH) will be coming to sleep in my suite with me the night before so we can have a "sleep over party" with the other BMS. I think it will definitely help me to unwind and prep for the big day. I won't see my man until I walk down the aisle at 4:00pm the next day!!
We stayed apart. He stayed at his best man's house, and I stayed at our apartment. If I could do it again, I would have gotten us a hotel room together - I had WAY too many people in my one bedroom apartment - my mom, sister, cousin, and 2 neices. I didn't sleep at all.
I wouldn't! And just because you wont be with him that night, doesn't mean you wont get to see him that day, or night for that matter! Send him home to where he is so tired it wont matter whether you slept next to him or not :P
All my BM's are from out of state and are getting in on the 8th and my wedding is the 12th. FI and I have been sharing an apartment, but I will be kicking him out once they arrive! I don't plan on seeing FI until the rehersal dinner for a few hours then the wedding day ;) It is a good time to spend with the girls and make it more surprising for when he finally sees you!
@Lindsay12.31.2010: That's what I would worry about if I stayed with my girls! We would be up late yapping! No sleep!
We're definitely sleeping next to each other the night before. I know that I'm going to be so nervous and freaked out about the whole thing, so why wouldn't I want the one person who knows how to calm me down and comfort me next to me that night?
Normally, I'd say stay with your BMs, but it's his birthday! Wouldn't you want to spend the night with him on your birthday? Try to put yourself in his position - it's sweet that he wants to spend the night with you instead of partying with his groomsmen.
@missmichigan: Oh yeah, it made for an unpleasant morning. I think I fell asleep at 3, and woke up at 6. Ugh. If I don't get enough sleep, I feel sick. I woke up and immediately threw up, LOL.
I stayed with my mom and 3 of my bridesmaids the night before our wedding. I wanted to be somewhat traditional! I understand where your FI is coming from because its his birthday, but he will have many more birthdays. If you always imagined staying apart from him the night before then do that because you only have one wedding!
we'll be staying at the same hotel but in different rooms. I like the tradition of it all and i'll be staying with my mom and sister which will be fun! :)
My MOH and I stayed in a room together and FI was down the hall at the hotel in his own room.. MOH and I were up until almost 2 am drinking Veuve Cliquot and chatting, bad idea.. I woke up at 7 exhausted!
We slept together the night before the wedding. The only issue was that we had our dog with us, and also had a dog belonging to some friends whose plane had been seriously delayed. Two dogs and two humans in one double bed was a bit cramped!
Oh, and my birthday was on my wedding day.
We stayed apart - not totally by our choice though. We got married in our hometown, where both sets of parents live, and neither set of parents would have let both of us stay at their house. :) So I stayed with my parents, he stayed with his (as we've done on vacations there before we were married).
I voted other - DH and I were in the same hotel and I spent some time in his hotel room the night before the wedding (wink, wink). But I ultimately ended up sleeping in a different hotel room as I am somewhat traditional and didn't want us to see each other until the first look.
@MrsMaine:That's true 
@toshella: I agree! That's why I think I will do it. I already booked a separate room for my BMs.
@Lindsay12.31.2010: Oh no! Horrible! Were you ok after that? I can't imagine having a wedding day with 3 hours of sleep!
@Jerseygirl23: AH! how did you feel on the big day?
Absolutely. Our venue has some accomodations on site including a pretty awesome honeymoon cottage. I am kind of anti-tradition in general so it's perfect.
I'd like to stick with the tradition, but we live in different states and will be meeting in the middle to elope. No way are we each going to drive 5 hours just to sit alone in separate rooms.
@double0bride:Wow that's crazy. Are you moving in together after the wedding?
We don't live together so it would be kinda weird if we were to sleep together the night before the wedding
I stayed at the hotel with my bridesmaids and he stayed at home to watch the dog. I kind of regret that though. I think I would have been a lot more calm if I had him with me.
If you really don't want to stay with him, I would just tell him that you're into the tradition of staying in seperate rooms and you'll spend a lot of the day during his birthday with him.
We slept together. Actually, waking up with him on our wedding day and spending some quiet snuggle time before all the hustle and bustle began is one of my most treasured memories of the day.
@artbee: Thanks for the feedback. I think I do want to stay with him. It's his bday afterall.
FI and I don't sleep in the same bed due to our pre-marital convictions so the night before will be just like any other night ;)
Looks like we have a blog relating :http://www.weddingbee.com/2011/02/24/the-night-before-2/
We plan on sharing a room as far as we know. unless there is a huge change in plans we will be sharing a room/bed as per usual. We have been together for almost 7 years, and have shared a bed for just as long, so I don't really see why we should stop now :P
@missmichigan: Yes, thankfully! I drank a cup of hot tea before I went to the salon, and my sister brought me some Starbucks and a bagel while we were getting ready!
I slept at my mom's and he slept at our house with friends over. Although I'm not super traditional, two things I love that we did were spend the night apart and not have a first-look. We both loved spending the night apart, actually. It was so cute when we said goodbye. I remember saying, "See ya tomorrow..I'll be the one in the white dress walking down the aisle...look for me" or something close to that. It was really romantic for us to split up the night before.
I still haven't decided. On the one hand, I think it would be really fun to spend that night with my bridesmaids at one of their apartments (she has enough room for all of us). We can paint our nails and watch a movie and have a fun sleepover. Plus, some of them are out of town and may need somewhere to stay!
On the other hand, I think I would sleep better, feel more relaxed, and probably get to bed sooner if I spent the night at home with FI. So I'm not sure : /
We're staying together the night before. I don't really care about the tradition and we sleep better together. I really want to wake up the morning of our wedding and have brunch together before the madness starts.
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