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I think we need to be careful about making blanket statements either way. Clearly there are pros and cons to a Friday wedding. If most guests live in town and have 9-5 jobs, a Friday wedding starting in the evening isn't too bad. Otherwise it is a bit difficult for guests to make it.

I think Friday brides should explicitly recognize that by choosing to save money on the date, they are making it very difficult if not impossible for some people to come. And they should be completely fine with people not making it. When I see statements like "The people who really love me will come", or "if coming isn't important to them, I don't want to invite them anyway", I think that is really unfair and judgmental. Maybe this is what the OP was referring to - saying that guests who can't make it to your Friday wedding "don't really care". 

eh...I hope my guests don't think we're inconsiderate, as we're having a Friday AND a Sunday wedding, which are BOTH during the day (Fri @ 2pm & Sun @ 10:30am). 80% of our 68 guests are OOTs, coming from LONG distances (wedding in LA, guests from HI, DC, NorCal, WA, CO, & ChiTown), so we figured we'd make it a whole weekend shindig, throw them TWO parties, & make sure they got to one of the biggest attractions by giving Disneyland tickets as favors. Based on their responses (95% 'yes' to our STDs), I don't think they think we're inconsiderate.

I think it all depends on the delivery...how you ask makes a difference.

I'm getting married on a friday and guess what? It works out perfectly for the bride and groom and the people who are paying for it (see: bride and groom).  I don't think anyone really has room to complain about it unless they're helping pay for the wedding, and I'm guessing the ones that are complaining aren't helping financially.

I'm sending save the dates so people know way in advance that it's on a friday, and I'm aware that some people may not be able to come because of it, but it's something that I'm okay with. Hell, if someone has a problem with it, I'd rather then not come than hem and haw about it.

I don't think it's inconsiderate at all. Everybody has thier own opinions on what, when, and where a wedding should be like, and we'd all save so much time if the people planning stopped worrying about what everyone else thought and the people attending/invited stopped complaining about the bride & groom based on their decisions.

@mrsbonez: That's what I'm talking about with "delivery".  I'm sorry that your family just expects you and your FI to drop everything and show up to the wedding despite the fact that you're saving for your own.  There are a good number of weddings in my family this year (1 in March, 1 in May, & 1 in June which is the same month as our own wedding), too, two of which it's unlikely that FI will make it to & possible that I won't either.  For the March wedding, I'm totally expected to make b/c the bride (my baby cousin! So happy for her) set her date 18 months in advance & before we were engaged.  FI won't be coming, tho' and everybody seems to understand.  The May wedding isn't even set yet (an encore wedding, so the bride - my aunt - isn't making a big deal of it) so it's understood that really only local family are going to go (I'm 3,000 miles from home).  The June wedding, I'm getting a little flack for because it's the other side of the family.  They get that we're getting married only 3 weeks later, but are kinda laying the guilt trip on me (FI is completely excused - they LOVE him).  In this last instance, my family's "delivery" of the invite isn't making me want to make the sacrifice to fly 3000 miles to go to my cousin's wedding just 3 weeks prior to mine (as much as I love her & would LOVE to go).  Like @rainbow said: if they're not contributing to our wedding financially, they can't insist that I show up.  Hope your family's wedding situation clears up...

On a side note, if you & FI are contemplating a Fri wedding, but don't go to your family members' Fri wedding, some other family members may view it as hypocritical.  I don't...hey, you do what you gotta do when it comes to planning a wedding, IMO...but just something to consider as you two plan.