Post # 1
I am just a few months away from my wedding and I’m absolutely miserable. Isn’t this supposed to be the happiest time of my life? It’s not my fiance, he’s amazing and I have absolutely no doubts. But between planning a wedding that has become more about what will make everyone else happy, vs. myself, and having a really really really good friend that I work with suddenly turn on me and stop speaking to me with absolutely no reason why that I can figure out (and I can’t exactly ask if she won’t talk to me), I’m a mess.
Post # 3
unfortunatly some people are selfish and find it hard to give someone just one day! i felt the same way for a few months and it is just an awful feeling. I ended up making decisions that were in the middle…a compromise. it sucks and is not fair but it is just the way it is with most weddings.
what happened with your friend? maybe you should both apologize and forgive eachother. but remember dont just forgive her because you dotn want to deal with it anymore…you never can really forgive someone unless they ask for forgiveness (that is like the best advice i have ever received…once i realized what exactly it meant)
just remember life is short and will any of this really matter in 5 years? i really sympathize and hope that things get better for you and you can be happy again. try to focus on the positives and not let the little negatives get to you (easier said than done..i know)
Post # 4
There’s so much going during this time. I feel like I go through a roller coaster of emotions each day, from stress, to excitement, to nervousness, it’s all there. I try to remind myself that it’s all worth it because of the end result, that I will be married to the love of my life regardless of who will show up, or who will like our wedding.
Post # 5
I went through the same thing before I got married. I felt that I was trying to make everyone around me happy when I caved on some things that I felt strongly about. I also had a good friend who suddenly would barely talk to me once my husband and I started dating. It just got worse when we got engaged. Don’t let it get you down and concentrate on what you do like about the wedding. I had a blast at my wedding and was saying ‘I love this song’ every 5 minutes or so at the beginning.
Post # 6
I think it’s fundamentally unrealistic to be happy all the time during any given period of your life, no matter how amazing it is. If you feel pressured to be happy (by society, the media, family expectations, whatever), you’re making an already stressful time even more difficult.
Wedding planning is more stressful for some brides than others, depending on family involvement, size and complexity of the wedding, and how important various of the elements are to her. However, I think very few girls experience this magical time of bliss during the engagement. If you look around any forum (including this one), you’ll see so many different issues that bees have before, during, and after. So don’t worry – focus on your relationship with Fiance and the positive aspects of the wedding as much as you can; and if you’re feeling down, it’s ok to vent.
Finally, I think a lot of brides lose friends (temporarily or permanently) when planning weddings, and everyone has moments of feeling like all the compromises they have to make have made the wedding about someone else. I personally have had both of these issues, and really the only way to get through it is focusing on the positive. And take a break from the planning once in a while! That always helps me lower the stress.
Post # 7
Thanks so much! It helped to hear I’m not alone or crazy.
And I have no clue what happened between my friend and I – it’s a sudden drop with no explanation and no reason for it – I’m sure she has one, though there is nothing I can think of that has happened, that I have done, etc. I’m trying to just not think about it!
Post # 8
Yeah, I tell people all the time that I don’t understand how people have career in wedding planning. Planning my wedding was driving me crazy. I’m so glad it’s over.
There were so many ups and downs. Almost eloping, almost calling off the wedding. The money, losing friendships, pissing off parents, friends, family and at the end remembering to make yourself happy. Ahhh!!!! Oh, and then people telling you it’s not just about you. WTF? I didn’t know who to please on some days. So many times, I wanted to just give up and said, someone else can plan it.