Are/were you ready to take his name?

posted 3 years ago in Names
Post # 3
1154 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Maybe use your last name as your middle name (very common where I’m from, but I will not be doing this)? 

I can’t wait to drop my last name, I am not on speaking terms with my brother (younger, in jail, drugs, long story) and never want to be again, and my father passed away (also an abuser, ugh).  My younger sister will change her name eventually and my mom is going back to her maiden name once my sister graduates high school (so this year) since she was divorced from my dad anyway, so there’s no reason for me to keep it other than bad memories and connections I don’t care to keep! I can’t wait to start “new” with my FI’s name!  

Post # 4
2851 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m ready to take his name; my only issue is exchanging my 5 letter name for his 10 letter name

Post # 5
3265 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

I’m all for being traditional when it comes to changing my last name. I have no want to keep it. Only problem is my last name is 9 letters long but very easy to pronounce and spell while his is 6 but can’t be pronounced or spelled right at all.

Post # 6
525 posts
Busy bee

I’m excited to take his name. I love the symbolism behind it. However, leaving my last name behind is a little sad. 

Post # 7
903 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

I’m looking forward to taking FI’s last name. I do like my maiden name, but it’s twice as long as FI’s and has a capital letter in it (thanks, Irish naming conventions!) that a lot of computer systems can’t handle (some split it up into two names, while others make that letter lowercase, which just seems wrong).  FI is Vietnamese and I have an atypical first name, so I’ll still have to spell both parts for everybody, but it’ll take me 7 fewer syllables!  

My biggest issue with FI’s last name is really silly.  It starts with a P, which just does NOT flow as smoothly when signing my name as my current M does!  I’m going to have to revamp my entire signature!

Post # 8
1893 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Dallas, TX

@BurlapnLace:  That’s tough. I would be upset too if our name ended with me. Luckily I have a brother and a male cousin to carry on the name. What about replacing your middle name with your maiden name?

I had been SUPER excited to take my FIs last name because my last name is really unique and I always to have to spell it a million times – even though it’s only 5 letters long! It’s also a privacy issue because literally I am the only person in the world with my first name and last name (my last name is Polish and was shortened), so I hate that when you Google my name, everything that comes up is very clearly about me. BUT then I Googled my first name with my future last name and was kind of sad that there are so many other people with that name combination. I might miss being one of a kind!

Post # 9
1584 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@BurlapnLace:  I’ve been married 4 months now and still haven’t changed my name… I am having trouble letting go of my maiden name. I’ve hyphenated it at work and on Facebook, but done nothing legally. I will probably wait until we have children for that.

Post # 10
467 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2015

@BurlapnLace:  I’m Irish (mom is 100%) but I have my Dad’s very Spanish last name. Which is funny since my FI is mostly Cuban, Puerto Rican and Italian…and has a very English last name. We joke that he should just take my last name. 

I’ll still use my maiden name as a double middle name. I’m excited to take his name, mainly because there has been some drama about his last name, which was wrong on his birth certificate. He is not going to change it, I told him we’ll just have a “new branch” with a new last name for his/our family tree. 

Post # 11
11604 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I kept my maiden name as my middle name.  I wasn’t, and still am not, ready to give up that part of myself.

Post # 12
1568 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

You should consider hyphening (sp?) I am scared to take my fiances last name because it is SO hard to pronounce. It is nothing what it looks like. 

Post # 13
3394 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@BurlapnLace:  I can’t wait to take his last name. My family name should have died with me and my sister, but I ended up getting pregnant at 18 and wasn’t married (plus the guy was a jerk) so my son has my maiden name. However, I don’t actually care about my maiden name because it isn’t our family name really. My great-grandmother died during the birth of my grandfather and he was then given to my great-grandmother’s sister and her husband. So it was his family’s last name and of no blood relation to us.

Post # 14
1193 posts
Bumble bee

I am excited to be a family with my FI, but I am sad to lose my current last name. Especially since if you google my name, nobody comes up but me. With my new last name, I had to go through 5 different gmail configurations before I found one that wasn’t taken 🙁

Post # 15
3 posts
  • Wedding: July 2014

@BurlapnLace:  I’m with you. I’m really disappointed to be leaving my last name behind. I just keep thinking that I want to have the same last name as our children.  That’s 100% the only reason I’m taking his.  I already warned him that I will have an identity crisis/emotional breakdown once I change my name. I will NOT be ok! It’s not that he doesn’t have a great last name, but I hate the idea of having to change who I am (even if it’s just my name).  I’m dropping taking my last name as my new middle name, hopefully that will make it not as bad for me.  I understand what you’re going through 🙁 

Post # 16
10 posts

I changed mine but he agreed that if we’re ever blessed with a child (currently impossible) we can have a nod to my maiden name for the child (I have Scottish heritage so was a Mc_______ which can be directly used for a boy or tweaked for a girl). For the record I love my maiden name and was devastated to change it.

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