- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
I was torn between putting this in parties, or family… or emotional, but I decided that since it is about my Bridal Shower, I’d stick it in parties.
So, my MOH and I have been friends a long time, she knows what I like and what I don’t. I have had to (because my mom kind of dropped the ball) help my MOH a little bit for my shower, so as such I know the basics such as theme and some rough ideas.
It is a naughty and nice party, so she has planned a fantasia party for the last hour of it, with plans to announce what’s coming up so that people could leave if they’d be uncomfortable. She also had a pin the junk on the hunk game (hilariously suggested by my FI) that involves pinning pictures of bananas/cucumber/whatever on a poster of some hunk (with pants on).
Anyways, my FSIL has known about this since November (I only found that out recently).. and as of the last 2 weeks or so my MOH has kind of left me in the dark so there would be a bit of mystery and she had it all handled. Well, today (11 days from my shower) my FSIL sent her an email saying that the game was inappropriate and the fantasia party would only be okay without the toys…. WHAT?
This is coming from the same chick who was like “oh ya that’s hilarious, can I buy you a toy, my aunts will love it” …
I’m pissed. I’m pissed because she hasn’t helped my MOH AT ALL, even though my MOH asked for help, and I’m pissed because she waited until 11 days out to speak up. AND in her email she said “my aunts are all super old fashioned”… not they aren’t! FI refers to them as a bunch of lushes!”I think Mayflowerbride would enjoy it better if it didn’t have the toys or we did it in private” SAY WHAT? B*CH you don’t know me like that. I love having a good laugh, and I think this would be a riot. … so now I’m upset because my MOH is stressed out and I feel its all my fault. I called FI crying, and explained what happend.
His response? “You’re kidding. Our aunts? Old fashioned? HAHAHAHAHA, you can tell your MOH that when she talks to my sister she should say that I suggested the dirty stuff and I think our family would be fine with it” I’m so glad he has my back, but i’m still so frustrated.
She didn’t use to be like this, I mean… it’s weird. So we (My MOH and I) think maybe she told her mom what was going on and her mom was the one to say something to her… I don’t know, but I’m really really annoyed.
I know, I know, I can’t do much about it, but it just bothers me that she would criticize what my MOH has worked really hard at to make me happy, and then act like she knows me (don’t go throwing my name around, especially when I had told you how EXCITED I was about it)…
I don’t know.. this was mainly a vent. I’m a bit stressed/emotional these days so I’m sure I’m overreacting a bit, I just found it really rude. Either speak up before things get planned/booked or keep it to yourself, you know?