(Closed) argh! i hate you!!

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
1927 posts
Buzzing bee

Honestly, I think you’re overreacting a bit.  Especially with your two friends who have to work.  They probably already have to take time off for your wedding weekend so you can’t be upset that they can’t also be taking additional time off three weeks before the wedding.  2pm seems quite early for a bachelorette party to begin… can you push it back a bit so everyone can come after work?  Either way, just try to have fun and enjoy yourself with the people who are coming rather than getting upset about the people who can’t make it.

Post # 5
4001 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

Oh boy, I’d be soooooo pissed.  I’m so sorry things aren’t going the way you want them to!  It doesn’t sound to me like you’re being selfish.  I’m assuming the girls knew the date of the party well in advance?  If that’s the case, chances are they could of worked out their schedules to make sure they could come.  Do you think its possible that something else might be going on that made them decide to not come?  I especially wonder about the Bridesmaid or Best Man who doesn’t even know if she can come to the wedding, because her schedule isn’t out yet… that sound fishy!

Post # 8
113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I agree with Moose. 2 pm does seem a little early for a bachelorette party and depending on when she got the tickets she might not have even known about the party date. I usually buy concert tickets 6-8 months ahead of time and I just figured out when my bachelorette party was going to be yesterday (3 months ahead of time). Just have fun with the people that show up and try not to stress about it. They will all be there for your wedding which is going to be awesome!

Post # 9
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I think you’re overreacting.  2 pm seems soooo early to be starting a party, why not just wait until everyone’s off of work?  I don’t think they’re being selfish, especially with their reasons being, um, their jobs, your bridesmaids are allowed to have other stuff going on in their lives.  Just have fun with or without them!  The only one that sounds weird to me is the one who isn’t sure if she can even come to the wedding… but either way, just move on and don’t let it overshadow your fun!

Post # 10
2394 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

Did your Bridesmaid or Best Man book her tickets before or after your party date was set in stone?  If she booked them before your party, then yeah, you’re being a bit unreasonable.  If she knew when the party was, but then still chose to purchase the tickets, then yeah, I’d be upset.  Also, considering the time and money it takes to be a bridesmaid, asking them to take off additional time from work to attend a bach party could be pretty stressful for them. 

Post # 11
529 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

Ugh, that totally sucks.  Is there a reason your party got scheduled on a day that most of your bridesmaids couldn’t make it?  When I was scheduling my friend’s party, I talked to all the guests first, and picked a date that worked for most people attending (one still can’t come because of prior arrangements).

I think your bridesmaid who said she wasn’t sure she could even make it to the wedding is ridiculous.  Is she not allowed to ask for time off??  I would tell my boss WAAAAY before he figured out the schedules that “hey, I have a wedding on xx, so can you please not schedule me for that day?” or whatever.  That’s totally lame she didn’t do that and may miss your wedding.  That’s a big WTF, in my opinion.

And I agree with you about the 31 year old.  That’s lame her excuse is “I’m too old” for whatever.  Who CARES.  It’s not about HER.  It’s about YOU and she should be going to support YOU.  At least the work excuses are legit, although I agree, annoying.

Sorry to hear your BMs aren’t being totally supportive of you at this moment.  🙁

Post # 12
520 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2010

I think you’re overreacting quite a bit…  People have to work, it happens.  And the concert, like someone else said, usually tickets sell out and you have to buy them 6 months ahead of time when they first go on sale to guarantee a seat.  And some bands only come to town every few years.

Why not email them all and ask if there’s a date that would fit their schedule better and plan it around that?

Post # 14
338 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I would be pissed…Honestly….all the stress that you have been going through planning every detail of this wedding. A little effort and reassurance would be nice.


Post # 15
965 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

What a bummer! I’m so sorry your party isn’t working out. I would be upset too. Try not to let it get your down though. You’re getting married =) So live it up no matter what!

Post # 16
3176 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I think it sucks, but you may be overreacting just a tad. I would be more upset about not having a shower. I personally never thought of a bachelorette party as a traditional part of a wedding, but more as a fun extra. If everyone already has plans is it possible you could do something on a different day on a smaller scale? Like go to a winery or something more simple than a full on day/night of partying?

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