Post # 1
We’ve both just got back from work. I’m making chicken pie and I realised I didn’t have any wine in, so I said to my SO “right, one person needs to start on veg whilst the other goes to the shop” so he chose to go to the shop.
He left and I started on the veg. I heard him walk into the livingroom (next to the kitchen) so I started cooking the food ready to put the wine in. I look around… he’s not there.
He didn’t leave to go to the shop. He left to go to the bathroom and went to the shop 15 minutes later.
So now all the vegetables have cooked and they’re just stewing in their own juices, miserably cooking further.
Why can’t he just THINK about things. Dinner’s not going to be as good now because all timings are off. I should have just gone to the shop myself.
On another note, he was supposed to book the church A MONTH ago and still hasn’t done it. I even asked him to do it today and he forgot.
Why do I have to do EVERYTHING!
Bleugh, I just needed to get that out before I EXPLODE. So angry!
You can ignore me now.
Post # 3
I totally understand why you’re annoyed! My FI does a variation of that: He’ll come into the kitchen, see that I’m cooking, look at everything I’m doing. Then he leaves the room and I hear the front door open and close. He leaves while I’m cooking to go buy beer even though he sees that I’m cooking and that it’s almost done! Whenever he does that, I just start eating without him, but it drives me CRAZY!!!
Post # 4
You know…I’m learning too that Boys just don’t have the same priorities as us. Damn them all.
Post # 5
Ha. Reminds me of FI at times. It doesn’t get any better. The best is when I ask him to get a few things at the store and he comes home having spent almost $100. Awesome.
Post # 6
This is SO the kind of thing that gets me wound up – happens ALLLLLLL the time! He is really good if you ask him something needs doing with a lot of notice – if you tell him something needs doing ‘now’ – not gonna happen! Think girls find it easier to drop what they’re doing to do something else and boys just can’t, they have a plan for their day and deviating from it is very painful for them!
Post # 7
I’d really try to let this one go…. first off, men’s minds work differently than women’s minds, and if you try to hold your man’s behavior to “I would have done it this way instead” or “What on earth is he thinking” you will just end up driving yourself crazy.
Always remind yourself of those amazing wonderful things about him, and then remind yourself that the annoyance over not having perfect dinner timing is the price you pay to get to the good stuff. My mister is the most thoughtful, caring, helpful man; he’ll randomly give me a hug for no reason, or walk the dog if it’s really cold in the morning (I’ve had the dog for 7 years and the fella for 4 so I still feel like she’s “my” dog and I appreciate that he’s happy to do half the walking or more). But he has this weird inability to turn off a light when he is leaving a room. Used to drive me nuts! But I will gladly pick up the towel off the bathroom floor or turn off the lightswitch because that’s a pretty small price to pay, compared to all the wonderful little things I get in return.
PS in a pinch, if you’re missing wine for a recipe (especially white wine), a little extra chicken broth or water and a wee splash of lemon juice usually makes a solid substitute.
In other words…. learn to not sweat the small stuff!
Post # 8
@lookingglass: He must have some good points since your with him! Some things are fustrating though. What is in a chicken pie? I don’t think I’ve seen anyone cook one before, Is it a regional thing?
Post # 9
lol it’s a good vent to have because it’s more annoying then a serious issue, and I think you are more mad about the church then the veggies, tell your Fi to get on that!!
Post # 10
ha, thanks ladies. i do like seeing when others are wound up about the same daft things.
@fishbone: heh, you’re right. i know it’s just not worth getting angry about as it’s just something silly, but it’s definitely the kind of thing that makes me boil a bit inside.
@TwoCityBride: yeah… i’m definitely more annoyed about that. it’s the one thing he wanted control of (his family are the religious ones) and it doesn’t matter how many times i ask him, it just hasn’t been done. this has just been the icing on the cake today.
on another note, i’ve worked super hard to keep this dinner tasting good and luckily it’s worked. i’ve just tasted the sauce – it’s delicious. it would make it easier to be annoyed at him if it had been completely ruined, though, lol.
@Treeline: it’s leftover roast chicken cooked in a pot with leeks, carrot, mushrooms, bacon and garlic. then it’s made into a sauce with white wine, chicken stock, a tablespoon of flour and some single cream. whack it in a pie dish, put pastry on the top, bang it in the oven et voila! chicken pie 🙂