- 3 years ago
My parents are divorced, my father a highly intelligent man, but an alcoholic (recovering) on job seekers allowance, mum was a single parent most her life to me and my brother and has worked hard throughout, but is a very stubborn person when it comes to forgiving.
It’s my wedding, my mum is coming and my dad is by a thread, he literally borrowed and begged to make it to my wedding, not that I wanted him to put himself out over my wedding, but I must admire that he has some how made it despite all his problems, albiet self made problems! I want BOTH my parents to walk me down the Aisle for reasons personal to me. My mother is doing a reading, my dad, the traditional father of the bride speech.
There is a really long back story to all of this, but I can’t be asked to go into details.
My mum is giving me so much grief about my dad, saying she does not want to sit near him or have him on the same table, telling me she feels my brother should speak and not my dad, and also hinting that she feels she should be the only on walking me down the aisle.
Now, I feel I have done my utmost to make her feel special. I have asked her to walk me down the aisle alongside my dad, I have asked her to do a reading during our ceremony. But at the same time, regardless of my dad’s faults and demons, he is still my father! And I still want him to fulfil his duties at my wedding, this is perhaps the ONE time in my life that he will be doing what a real father is supposed to and I will embrace that with all my heart.
He has made no issues about my mum, and has been very calm and chilled. It is her that cannot move on from the past and things that happened over 25 years ago. I love my mother dearly and she is a great, strong woman, but she is a tad neurotic and she stresses me out sometimes.
It’s stressing me out, because I feel like I am doing something wrong? Am I in the wrong? Have I not included her in special ways? Is it wrong for my dad to speak, instead of my brother? Am I wrong for putting my foot down and telling both my parents to GROW UP for one day and not make it about themselves!
Anyone else having these issues with their parents? As for the table, I have NO idea where to put my dad now…. 🙁
Thanks Bee’s xxx