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I refuse to go to bed mad. I wouldn't be able to sleep and I would be miserable all night! We always keep at it until we both feel better!
we keep discussing but sometimes that makes it worse because we are both tired and cranky.
It depends on the argument. If we are having a silly little tiff, I don't mind going to bed angry anymore. I've found that I tend to make a situation worse than it is my arguing it to death. That's just my personality, I guess.
But if it's a serious issue, we don't go to bed mad. We might agree to table the convo til the morning, though.
We used to fight A LOT earlier in our relationship. Neither of us could sleep when we were angry, so we would stay up (sometimes all night) to resolve things. Now, our fights last like 5 minutes. We will say what needs to be said, and than both of us are like "Noted. Love you".
Good grief I hate arguing. Mr. Octo used be a "walk away" kind of guy, which totally infuriates me. Now we just calmly talk about it, and if it gets heated, we take a little break and go on a walk or something until we feel better. Then we re-approach it and talk it out until we're okay. Then we hug. Always. I'm with you all, I can't sleep unless we have stuff resolved.
He doesn't like to go to bed mad, but I find that sometimes I just need some time to cool off before im ready to totally let something go. I kinda feel that if we force it, it just makes things worse. Plus sometimes I get mad over stupid stuff and by the next morning I usually realize that I was mad over nothing. Although usually when we go to bed a little angry (meaning me) he has a tendency in the middle of the night to tell me he loves me, and then im never mad anymore!
My hubby believes very strongly in never going to bed mad. While I've always agreed in principle, sometimes I need my sleep more!
Seriously, I sometimes need a little mroe time to let go of things, but we always talk to a point when I'm better about things so that it won't keep me up. It's a great policy. :)
It depends, but I am totally fine with going to bed mad if it means we can revisit the topic later when we're not so tired. Also as someone else said, a good sleep can make things seem much better!! We do have a bad habit of not coming back to the conversation though, it's something we need to work at.
Yes we do but I feel like it actually helps. Sometimes we both just need to sleep on it and take some time to get away from the argument. If I wake up still mad, then I know it's serious and worth pursuing further. But honestly, most of the time I wake up not at all mad at him and like nothing every happened.
We don't argue a lot, mostly because Mr. Peng hates arguing and usually tries quickly to either compromise with me or give me my way. But if we do get in a heated argument (I can't remember the last time we did...) I usually like to just go to bed angry and sleep on it. I definitely get over it by just sleeping on it. We never argue about anything life shattering (it's usually petty) and it's just easier to just get over it overnight :)
When we first met we decided that we'd never go to bed early. It's some advice that I'd gotten from my Dad and FI agreed. For a very short while we determined not to eat dinner angry but we quickly figured that that was asking too much :-)
I have a weirdo defense mechanism that he LOVES.
I get the giggles. Every time an argument starts getting heated, I start laughing uncontrollably. It makes me SO MAD, because I can't help it and I always want to win the fight...but when I realize he's laughing, too, we both get over it and move on. We don't fight about anything worthwhile anyway--anything serious gets a logical discussion.
So we don't go to bed angry. If anything, we go to bed laughing at how angry we were earlier!
We hardly argue anymore but we both REFUSE to go to bed mad. You end up waking up in a terrible mood and the fight continues. I think its super important for a relationship to work on dealing with the problems before bed.
We sometimes go to bed, usually because the argument was dumb to begin with. Neither of us sleeps well, but things are usually just better in the morning.
I cannot sleep when I am upset, so I keep SO awake until its settled. He can just fall asleep no problem.
I don't go to bed mad, but I do walk away before I completely lose it, then i calm down and come back and deal. I can't sleep if i'm fuming. But, we've only fought like that like, once or twice in the last 5 years,. it's NOT fun tho
Sometimes going to bed is really helpful. I'm a heck of a lot more rational when I've had some sleep!
I dont go to bed mad, we talk about it until the bitter end sometimes. I do go to bed "upset" still sometimes but more so about fighting not what we fought about.
I'm a big believer in going to bed mad. I usually just need some time to cool down and I won't be angry anymore... whereas if we were to stay up and continue the argument, it would escalate. But FI can't stand going to bed mad. It's something I usually need to convince him to do.
We're the silent-treatment type. It doesn't happen often (maybe once every 3 months or so), but when it does, we both expect to be going to bed "mad" at least 2 nights in a row. We're both really stubborn. Heh!
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When you and your SO get into arguments do ever go to bed mad, or do you keep "discussing" until you both feel better?