Post # 1
My fiance has a groomsman who is in the army, we’ll call him ‘Andy’. We were talking about the groomsmen tuxes and he said Andy was going to wear his dress uniform in our wedding. Don’t get me wrong I 100% support every branch of the armed forces. But I am very OCD about the pictures, and one GM in a different tux would really annoy me. Is it wrong for me to ask him not to wear his dress uniform? I was thinking maybe I could let him wear it to the reception? What are your thoughts?
Post # 3
There is nothing wrong with asking him to wear a tux to the ceremony. Have your FI talk to him.
Post # 4
One of my bridesmaid’s husbands is planning on wearing his dress uniform. I’m ok with it, but my fiance is a little bothered by it. I guess he doesn’t want someone to outshine him… LOL
I personally won’t ask him to wear anything other than his uniform.
He won’t be in the groomsmen/bridal party pictures. So, that’s a little different.
Is the ceremony outside? If so, they have to wear a hat… My friend is trying to make sure he wears the beret. Just some food for thought.
Post # 5
As a former Marine, I will say it is traditional for members of the Armed Forces to wear thier dress uniform to all formal events. That said:
If your groom is not a member of the Armed Forces, then the groomsman’s choice would be inappropriate. He should wear a tux and I would absolutely put my foot down on it. This clearly isn’t a military event, and he should understand your wishes. I’ve been to many military weddings in my time, and will say that I don’t think there’s anything more sharp than a squared away set of dress blues, however, as I’ve said, it’s not a military event and would be inappropriate. Good luck to you!
Post # 6
I’m going to side with the groomsman on this one. I’m not up-to-speed on all the in’s and out’s of military policy, and will trust the groomsman to know those the best, since he’s active duty. However, my brother is former military and I know that some servicemen take a LOT of pride in wearing their uniform at any opportunity that the Service will allow. It is an outward symbol of their personal commitment to the country and to the Service, and many of these men define their identity through that commitment. I see it as deep and defining as a nun wearing her habit, and I would never dream of asking that nun to wear laymans’ clothes even if her order allowed it.
Of course the ultimate decision lies with the bride and the groom but on this one, I’d set my own feelings aside.
When you think about your photos, keep in mind that very few things in nature are symmetrical and perfect, and that it’s often the things that are not perfect that make something more meaningful, beautiful and artitic. If you’re having a professional photographer, they should know lots of ways to incorporate the groomsman who doesn’t “match” and still end up with a gorgeous shot.
Post # 7
@GonnaBeMrsE: I have to agree. Since the groom is not in the Military, I don’t think it’s appropriate for the groomsman to wear his uniform. I know he might like to but it’s a different situation since it isn’t his wedding.