Post # 1
Fi and I can’t set a date for our wedding, because he just got orders to PCS to Ft Riley in December. I’m staying behind with the kiddos so they can finish school, and then he can find us a house over there, and we’ll come next july once school is done for them. The date isn’t the issue with me, but I’m kind of freaking out (in my head) because there is so much chaos going along with this, and I havent the faintest idea on how to even start planning a wedding. I didn’t know where to post this, but I figured my fellow Army/Military wives could help me the most. Basically we’ll have the month of july next year to get married, pack up our house here in WA state, move to KS and get the kids enrolled in school. We’re going to have to give up a honeymoon because we have to move and get the kids to school on time because it starts mid august over there. My head is spinning thinking about how CRAZY busy that month is going to be, and that coupled with planning a wedding mostly on my own is making me want to just do a JP wedding with our closest family. But I DO want a ceremony and a reception, so I am at a loss right now…I just don’t know where to start! FI didnt even want to give me a budget, just said pick what I like and we’ll go from there and see how we can cut costs as much as possible. Oh, and the army wont be paying for the kids and I to PCS with him because we wont be married yet, so we have to do that all on our own too. Oy!!!
sorry if this is all jumbled…My head is spinning!
Post # 3
i feel your pain sister lol. imagine that times 2, as we are both active duty…. why dont yall have a small, jop wedding, and then a bigger celebration ceremony? that will really help uffset the costs of yall moving. or why dont you have like a smaller ceremony with a lunchtime reception, that way you get the wedding you want, but at a reduced price and more conducive to yalls schedules.
Post # 4
If it is possible could you hire a wedding planner? I am in the process of planning my wedding and we agree that is the best way given the stress level. My fiancee is in Afghainstan and will be home for good 9/12. If it is not possible try to ask the family and friends to help with the arrangements.
Post # 5
I mean this in the best way, because you are about to enter a great life full of adventure…WELCOME TO BEING MILITARY SPOUSE!!
In this life, planning is nonexistant. If you DO plan something, the military will probably throw a wrench that will change your plans. You just have to go with the flow here.
First things first, pick a location. It doesn’t have to be where your duty station is, or your hometown…it can litereally be anywhere in the world.
Second, pick an EXACT date. Your fiance will be able to request leave for the day of your wedding & surrounding days (if you want more time off). The sooner you do this the more likely you are to receive it!
Third, go to the JP already. You can still have the wedding ceremony & reception of your dreams, but this will take care of the legalities & you’ll be able to PCS together.
Post # 6
@katherineandstephen: we’re goign to the JP next month, but wont be PCSing together because i just can’t get everything tied up here at home by the end of November. He clears in less than a month, it’s just too chaotic to be honest. I’d need to find a renter for my house too, and the kids just started school. So we’re getting legally married next month, he will PCS, we’ll have our wedding next spring (as long as he doesn’t get deployed), and then the kids and I will follow behind next summer so they can finish up school here. This is my 2nd time being a military spouse! My late husband was Army when we were first married 🙂
Post # 7
I think if I were you, I would do a small JOP wedding, courthouse wedding even then plan a date for the BIG day later on. That sounds like an awful lot of stress and you don’t want to feel like everything was rushed. This way you can have all the benefits of being married, but still have the time to plan the perfect wedding 🙂