As a guest, how would you feel about a Friday ceremony and Saturday reception?

posted 2 years ago in Beehive
  • poll: How do you feel about a weekend-long wedding?
    It's perfectly fine! I would be happy to take a couple days to celebrate. : (4 votes)
    3 %
    It's fine as long as you go out of your way to be a great hostess. That reception better be AWESOME. : (2 votes)
    2 %
    This isn't ideal but I'd attend the ceremony and reception if it was a close friend/family. : (36 votes)
    29 %
    I would attend the ceremony or reception but not both. : (34 votes)
    27 %
    This reeks of princess behavior/wanting to have your cake and eat it too. Weddings get ONE day. : (50 votes)
    40 %
  • Post # 2
    5769 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It world really annoy me, sorry. It’s not fair of you to take my whole weekend! I’d probably skip the ceremony and just go to the reception.

    Post # 3
    6448 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would likely skip the ceremony.

    Post # 4
    1236 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA

    ^ What Horseradish said, unless I lived in the same city where it was being held. If it were any farther than that, I’d have to take off early Friday, stay two nights instead of one, and be generally very put out. Unless I were in the bridal party or having my expenses paid by the family, I would probably decline with regrets and send a nice card.


    You could always have a nighttime candlelight ceremony and just do heavy snacks instead of a full dinner reception, or cake and punch, or something like that. Just make sure you’re very clear about it on the invitation.

    Post # 5
    6788 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: March 2014 - A castle!

    A lot of guests would probably need to request Friday off work, especially if it is members of the bridal party. Will you be also having a rehersal dinner? That might make things even more complicated.

    If everyone is expecting to stay at the lodge all weekend, then ask your guests and especially the bridal party what they think. Make sure to ask if they can get there on time for the evening wedding. 

    FWIW, I went to a summer wedding once that was black tie and they wanted a sunset/candle lit ceremony. They had the ceremony begin at 7:45pm and had the reception directly following. It was on a Saturday. We ended up getting served dinner around probably 10pm, but I don’t think anyone really noticed beause they had such an amazing and entertaining reception. It was actually probably the best wedding I’ve ever gone to! The reception was held in the hotel where all of us guests were already staying, so the party lasted until the early morning. 

    So, I think if you really wanted to, you could have everything on Saturday evening since your guests are staying at the lodge. I would keep Friday night for a chill rehersal dinner and do the board games, etc that night. Have the ceremony in the evening Saturday and have an awesome reception to follow!

    Post # 6
    6048 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: March 2012

    Yeah I’d be annoyed you took my whole weekend.  I had a friday evening wedding too, but it was a semi DW and it gave my guests the rest of the weekend to leave when they wanted to, or hang out at the beach.  

    Post # 7
    1737 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 2014 - 13th ~ TN

    chickspartan:  It would depend on two things. How important you are to me & if I have to travel a long way two days in a row.

    If you want to make it an all weekend thing, and some cultures do, then you need to take everything into consideration. Not jus the time of day you want to have your ceremony.

    Post # 8
    1116 posts
    Bumble bee

    We’re doing a small ceremony & reception on a Saturday followed by a big party with extra guests (extended family, less close friends, work colleagues etc) on the Sunday afternoonn and no one has complained about the two day event.  It’s the same thing all of FIs siblings did and no one minded at all.

    Post # 9
    3014 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2016

    Would y be able to do it in the fall or winter when the sun sets earlier? Or would you be okay with mixing it up a bit, doing the dinner first, and then the ceremony parts? The lovely part about that is you could have fireworks when you kiss at the end, and that could help start your carnival part off with a bang! Everyone could come and congratulate you, then you two could play the first game to start everything off. It would be a bit offbeat, but so is having your ceremony and recepotion on two different days.  You would probably want to put some sort of broad warning in the invites about supper and ceremony being in reverse order, but it could work.

    Post # 11
    6158 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Do cocktail hour first. If you plan to have that. That way guests will have been fed a snack. Then have your ceremony at 815, or whatever time you mentioned. Then your reception and serve dinner by 9.


    One of DH’s groomsmen is an event planner. He said at any affair, dinner should be served by 9.

    Post # 12
    1298 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: November 2012

    chickspartan:  I don’t know if it’s just me, but I doubt many people would notice the significance of the ‘stand by me’ theme of darkness, and think “man, she totally shouldn’t have picked this song, it’s not nighttime yet” if you had the ceremony a bit earlier. 

    Post # 14
    1236 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014 - San Francisco, CA


    chickspartan:  I would be PISSED if I was invited to a wedding that started with a 3-hour cocktail reception, then the nighttime ceremony, then a late-night dinner. I’d be starving by the time we got to dinner – passed cheeses and canapes aren’t really going to cut it. If you decide to do something like that, you should 100% make it clear on the invitation so guests know to have a large late lunch beforehand. Also, 3 hours is a loooooot of socialization time if you have a lot of guests who aren’t close.

    Post # 15
    6964 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: August 2012

    I would only go if it was a very close friend of family member, but I wouldn’t be happy about it. Could you just do heavy apps after the ceremony to save time?

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