As a guest, is this ok?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Can I wear the same color as the bridesmaids in a very different style?
    Totally fine! : (95 votes)
    47 %
    As a bride I wouldn't care either way : (83 votes)
    41 %
    Definitely wear something else : (23 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    34 posts
    • Wedding: September 2013

    There is quite a variety in purple…do you know if the shades are similar?  If your dress is a different length and fabric it’s probably ok.  I doubt anyone will think you’re part of the wedding party , unless they have mismatched dresses.  Maybe play it up with some colorful accents?

    Post # 4
    8678 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: December 2012

    I wouldn’t care. I probably wouldn’t notice.

    Post # 5
    757 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    I think it should be okay if you’re not super close friend/family.  For example, my mom is dead set on wearing the same color as the bridesmaids and she is going to look ridiculous in all of these family picutres.  If your professional picture-interaction isn’t really going to be with the bridesmaids, then I think you’re fine! 

    Post # 6
    3756 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I wouldn’t worry about it. Purple is a very popular color. My BM dresses are going to be purple and I couldn’t care less if a guest wears the same color.  🙂

    Post # 8
    1871 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    I wouldn’t worry about it. Some of my friends wore a cobalt/sapphire blue dress to my wedding and it was the same as the bridal party. They looked like they fit in in my pictures lol. I was also in a wedding this weekend and there were other women in navy dresses like ours.

    Post # 9
    8818 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper

    I wouldn’t worry but if you think the bride would be mad then I would wear something else.  I’ve known some brides that would have freaked about this.  However, at my wedding one of our guests wore the exact same coral as the bridesmaids and it didn’t bother me 🙂

    Post # 10
    2878 posts
    Sugar bee

    As a bride I wouldn’t care. I don’t think anyone will be confused just because your dress is purple.

    Post # 11
    68 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: December 2014

    I think it should be fine! Have fun 😀


    Post # 12
    30284 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: September 2011

    Should be fine! Have a great time!

    Post # 13
    1403 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I went to a wedding wearing a bright pinkish/coral/red dress and laughed when another guest (my co-worker) showed up wearing a very similar style dress in the exact same color.   Then our jaws dropped when we saw all 8 bridesmaids walk into the cocktail hour with the same color/style.

    Ooooops.   We got some nasty looks from the bridesmaids (yea – like we care/planned it to be like this) but it was fine.   I think the bride thought it was funny.

    Post # 14
    2273 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2012

    @fionak:  Sorry, I disagree with PP’s. It would be really considerate if you wore another colour since you know the BM’s are in purple. If you didn’t know, that would be different.

    Post # 15
    565 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    I don’t think most guests even know what the wedding colors will be until they get there, so they probably would have no idea if there were going to match or not. What guests wear just wouldn’t be on my radar. I wanted happy guests, and if they showed up in jeans, that was cool with me.

    Post # 16
    22125 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2011

    I agree that “purple” is pretty broad. I bet you won’t match as closely as you think. Don’t worry about it!

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