As a guest what do you notice/not notice at weddings?

posted 3 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

@excitedtobeMRSF:  Ha, that’s pretty whack that they didn’t have food for anyone but the BP during cocktail hour.

These are the things I notice/care about:

  • food – quality and quantity
  • booze – not specific kinds, just if it’s cash bar or not
  • DJ – if he’s cheesy or plays crappy music
  • bride’s dress – I am not judgy though, I just like seeing what she picked


Post # 4
626 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2014

I always notice the decor, but I am a very artsy person so my eye is automatically drawn to that sort of thing.   

Post # 5
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

I notice the decor. I can’t help it. I just have ornate and expensive taste. I know that not everyone can afford expensive decor or centerpieces but I notice when people put very little effort into. If you can’t afford much, do some simple and affordable candles that at least still look nice and not cheapy. And yes, I notice chairs. Sorry, banquet chairs are fugly.

I notice the food. Quality and quantity.

Music! That’s a big one. I hate crappy DJs.

I notice the bride’s attire, but in a good way. I love wedding dresses and sparkly things.

Post # 6
8680 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

– food, if there is alot, how it tastes, ect.

– drinks [both alcoholic and non alcoholic]

– music [dj? bar?]

– temperature [too hot, too cold, ect]

– lighting

– candy buffet


I normally do notice favors, I just like to see what the bride thought the guests would like, and how useful the item is.


Post # 7
1248 posts
Bumble bee

Food, music, people’s attitudes!

Post # 8
2915 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

I don’t really care about decor or favors. 

It all comes down to the DJ for me. If there is good music and beer I am having a great time. 

Post # 9
3570 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I notice the food, the music, the centerpieces.  If a bride has put a lot of work into her decor, it definitely shows .

Post # 10
1237 posts
Bumble bee

@excitedtobeMRSF:  I notice the food. As pp said quality but especially quantity. I hate eating & feeling hungry.

Post # 11
1670 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Food, music, and drinks (really just are they free)

And comfort level. I really notice if it is too hot/the mosquitos are carrying me away.

I also love to look at the dress!

I sometimes don’t notice if there is a bouquet toss, what the centerpieces were like, what the escort cards were like (I look at them one time to see what my table number is)

Post # 12
1289 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I notice the food and the bridal attire. Rarely do I notice the flowers. 

Post # 13
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

  • atmosphere!  the couple should be having fun and look happy and the guests should also be having fun
  • food
  • music (if it’s keeping people dancing, and not too loud that I can’t hear the person beside me)
  • I notice general decor, but not specific things.  Well, I’ll notice that night but forget soon after.
  • bride’s dress

I don’t ever get disappointed if stuff isn’t the way I would prefer, because it’s not my day.  I just notice and move on.

Post # 14
10219 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Things that just naturally catch my eye / attention:

  • The Invitation Suite
  • The Ceremony Venue
  • The Bridal Party Look
  • The Bride’s Dress (and overall look including Flowers)
  • If the Groom is BURSTING with excitement / emotion (ALWAYS a good sign)
  • If either the B&G CRY at the Ceremony / Vows (ALWAYS sweet)
  • The Reception Venue
  • Decor
  • Food
  • Cake
  • Dancing
  • How it all concludes…

Hope this helps,


Post # 15
381 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Honestly I notice the couple. Some weddings Ive been to have been really lavish and the couple barely speak or hang out with eachother. Ive been to smaller affairs where you can really tell the 2 are head over heels. So basically I notice if a production is being put on.

Oh and food, I notice for sure when its not the usual steak, chicken or fish.

Post # 16
11772 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

In order, I notice

1- Flowers

2- Food (amount. I don’t care if it’s catered my McD’s, but I need to be full!)

3- DJ!

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