Post # 1
For daytime church reception with later nighttime receptions, what do you wear? It seems especially difficult during hot seasons because you can’t really slip a shawl or sweater over a nighttime dress to make it church/day appropriate.
The ones I’ve been to usually have a 3-4 hour gap before the reception, so changing is an option- but doesn’t that look weird, like you’re trying to do too much, since you only wore the daytime dress for 1 hr max and all the guys stay in their same clothes?
If anybody’s found a holy grail dress that’s good for daytime/church and also good for nighttime reception, I’d love to see it.
For now, I usually wear a dress something like this to try to bridge the gap.
Post # 3
I just wear whatever I’m wearing at night. It’s not like my evening dresses are such super slutty and whorish outfits that I’d looks stupid for wearing them to a church haha. I don’t care about shoulders/legs or anything inside a church either. To me it’s just another building.
Post # 4
I may change in between but that depends how far in distance the places are, whether i have a chance to go home.
Post # 5
Wear a nice dressy dress. Doesn’t matter if it’s a daytime wedding, it’s still a special occasion. In the uk, a hat or facinator is the fashion at the moment, but I don’t know about USA.
Post # 6
@Pinkmoon: Well your wardrobe sounds boring. I prefer whore-ish myself. 🙂
With such a huge gap in between, I’d probably change. I’d probably be like “WTF!” about the giant gap too.
Post # 7
Something relatively dressy and summery, but not full length or satin fabric. Maybe with a jacket/cardigan/shrug/pashmina for the ceremony. Nice but fairly comfortable high heels and a matching clutch bag.
This is the main type of wedding that I attend 🙂
Post # 8
@LilRhodyGem: Haha 🙂 guess I should slut it up.
Post # 9
Yeah, I wear my evening dress with a fascinator. (This is my typical outfit for a ‘nice but not black tie’ wedding – it’s a jersey maxi dress).
Post # 10
Hah, I’m afraid I don’t have a good answer…this remains my leading wedding ‘faux pas’ to date: when I was in college, I went as a date of an ex to his relative’s wedding – the ceremony was at, like, noon, at at Catholic church, and the reception was in the evening “at the family home”, so I wore a very demure chiffon blouse and knee-length lace pencil skirt in a dark blush pink…well, turns out it was a huge, elaborate, formal wedding, on a freakin’ ESTATE with tents and chandeliers and the whole nine. Lobster for dinner, etc. etc. All the other cousins were in literal evening gowns, like it was the Oscars…I felt SO out of place 🙁 Fortunately, I will never see any of those people again!
I do think changing outfits in between could come across as a bit showy, unless it’s a destination wedding where everyone could feasbibly be doing the same thing. I think a nice light cardigan or wrap works over most cocktail dresses to take you from day to night. It’s not as if anyone’s really looking at/photographing you at the church.
Post # 11
@Shkragoldfish: Changing into evening clothes for dinner is normal expected behaviour in circles where people practice the formalities of social life. So, even if you are adopting formal style only for the one day out of many when you have a wedding to go to, there is nothing “wierd” about actually adopting formal style — which demands dressing for dinner. Gentlemen who own evening dress should change, too.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
We got married at 2:30pm and held the reception from 4pm-9pm. We told everyone the wedding attire was black tie preferred. Ask the bride or groom what you’re supposed to wear or see if there’s a blurb on their wedding website.
Post # 13
@Shkragoldfish: what are you doing for the 3-4 hour gap inbetween.
i have never been to a wedding with a gap.
i would probably change. wear something conservative to the church and then a party dress to the reception.
Post # 15
I’m thinking I might start changing outfits during these gaps. I have for nearly every hindu wedding, so don’t know why I wasn’t doing the same for catholic weddings. (but for the hindu weddings I’ve attended, it’s been clear that the dress code changes from daytime ceremony to nighttime reception, so nearly everyone changes).
@RainStorm: @loveandapitbull: in colder weather, I’d wear a sweater/shawl etc., but the point is that it’s waaaay too hot to do that now. so there’s not really a way to make most of my cocktail dresses look daytime. a while back, I bought a few j crew dresses that are great for a daytime dressy look, but since so many ppl use j crew for bridesmaids, I’ve shied away from wearing them at weddings after attending one where I looked like I was trying to be a bridesmaid. (my dress was exact same color and material as theirs even though I bought mine years earlier. also- they each chose their own style, so I looked exactly like a bridesmaid w/my own style dress.).
@lamina: thanks! I just get tired of having the same dress in every single dressed-up pic w/my FI
@ajillity81: as I understand it, a lot of catholic weddings (and also a lot of hindu weddings) have a large gap in between. catholic church ceremonies are often sometime noon-4pm (I think they usually do that to not interfere w/other masses), but if the couple wants an evening reception, then the ceremony venue probably won’t open to guests until at least 3-4 hours later. Depending on location, we either go home, go to the hotel, or go and eat.
@Pinkmoon: @gingernutjo: good points. it’s more about daytime wear & nighttime wear- they tend to look different (or at least mine do)- not saying either is slutty or not dressy. It’s just different, like how appropriate looks can vary based on season.
@Christy42213: if attire for these weddings was black tie, I wouldn’t have questions because that already specifies what you are supposed to wear. the weddings I’m talking about are typical US weddings, not black tie.
Post # 16
- Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island
@Shkragoldfish: If you’re going to be snotty about it, you shouldn’t ask for advice at all. Why are you even asking us? The only person who can tell you the correct answer is the bride. Call her (or her family) and ask what you’re supposed to wear.