As a guest, what do you wear to daytime/church wedding with night reception?

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: To daytime church wedding with nighttime reception, I usually:
    wear the same daytimey dress to both : (17 votes)
    30 %
    wear the same nighttimeish dress to both : (18 votes)
    32 %
    wear a holy grail day-to-night dress (please post pic) : (9 votes)
    16 %
    switch dresses in between : (13 votes)
    23 %
    other described below : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    I just wear whatever I’m wearing at night. It’s not like my evening dresses are such super slutty and whorish outfits that I’d looks stupid for wearing them to a church haha. I don’t care about shoulders/legs or anything inside a church either. To me it’s just another building. 

    Post # 4
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    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    I may change in between but that depends how far in distance the places are, whether i have a chance to go home.

    Post # 5
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    497 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    Wear a nice dressy dress. Doesn’t matter if it’s a daytime wedding, it’s still a special occasion. In the uk, a hat or facinator is the fashion at the moment, but I don’t know about USA. 

    Post # 6
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Pinkmoon:  Well your wardrobe sounds boring. I prefer whore-ish myself. 🙂

     

    With such a huge gap in between, I’d probably change. I’d probably be like “WTF!” about the giant gap too.

    Post # 7
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    901 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    Something relatively dressy and summery, but not full length or satin fabric. Maybe with a jacket/cardigan/shrug/pashmina for the ceremony. Nice but fairly comfortable high heels and a matching clutch bag.

    This is the main type of wedding that I attend 🙂

    Post # 8
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    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: February 2014

    @LilRhodyGem:  Haha 🙂 guess I should slut it up. 

    Post # 9
    msjackrabbitMember
    1080 posts
    Bumble bee

    Yeah, I wear my evening dress with a fascinator. (This is my typical outfit for a ‘nice but not black tie’ wedding – it’s a jersey maxi dress).

     

     

    Post # 10
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    511 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Hah, I’m afraid I don’t have a good answer…this remains my leading wedding ‘faux pas’ to date: when I was in college, I went as a date of an ex to his relative’s wedding – the ceremony was at, like, noon, at at Catholic church, and the reception was in the evening “at the family home”, so I wore a very demure chiffon blouse and knee-length lace pencil skirt in a dark blush pink…well, turns out it was a huge, elaborate, formal wedding, on a freakin’ ESTATE with tents and chandeliers and the whole nine.  Lobster for dinner, etc. etc.  All the other cousins were in literal evening gowns, like it was the Oscars…I felt SO out of place 🙁  Fortunately, I will never see any of those people again!

     

    I do think changing outfits in between could come across as a bit showy, unless it’s a destination wedding where everyone could feasbibly be doing the same thing.  I think a nice light cardigan or wrap works over most cocktail dresses to take you from day to night.  It’s not as if anyone’s really looking at/photographing you at the church.

    Post # 11
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    1649 posts
    Bumble bee

    @Shkragoldfish:  Changing into evening clothes for dinner is normal expected behaviour in circles where people practice the formalities of social life. So, even if you are adopting formal style only for the one day out of many when you have a wedding to go to, there is nothing “wierd” about actually adopting formal style — which demands dressing for dinner. Gentlemen who own evening dress should change, too.

     

    Post # 12
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    We got married at 2:30pm and held the reception from 4pm-9pm.  We told everyone the wedding attire was black tie preferred.  Ask the bride or groom what you’re supposed to wear or see if there’s a blurb on their wedding website.

    Post # 13
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2013

    @Shkragoldfish:   what are you doing for the 3-4 hour gap inbetween.

    i have never been to a wedding with a gap.

    i would probably change.  wear something conservative to the church and then a party dress to the reception.

     

    Post # 16
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2013 - Rhode Island

    @Shkragoldfish:  If you’re going to be snotty about it, you shouldn’t ask for advice at all.  Why are you even asking us?  The only person who can tell you the correct answer is the bride.  Call her (or her family) and ask what you’re supposed to wear.

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