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What are the first 3 things you should do(or did) for your wedding?

As a Guest What Would You Think?

posted 1 year ago in Beehive
  • poll: What would you think?
    Too weird. I wouldn't get it no matter how much you explained. : (11 votes)
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    Really cute! I would love to do it! : (45 votes)
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    I have a better idea : (2 votes)
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    Ms Hedgehog    July 10, 2011   Dallas/ Ft Worth TX

    Okay, so we have been tossing ideas around forever about how to do this. We are wanting to have somewhere our guests can give us advice on married life, wish us luck, or just congratulate us on the marriage. Origionally we were just going to do a wish tree. Problem solved. But we decided to forgo the cherry blossoms for a theatre theme. (live theatre, not movies.) But the problem is, it is very much an upscale Broadway feel. Still theatry but still weddingy as well. So we were going through theatre traditions and FI rememered that one fun tradition is that before a show people always write notes on the dressing room mirrors. Things like "break a leg" or inside jokes. So, we were going to put out some permanent markers and let people write on mirrors. Of course we would have a paper explaining what it was for and why we chose mirrors. But, if you were a guest would you think it was weird, neat, or something else entirely?

     

    EDIT: This isn't going to double as a guest book. Our guest book will be a picture matt with two cut out spaces where our vows will go later. This is just an "advice and YAY your married!" type thing.

    I plan on wording it something like "Before a show begins it is customary to leave well wishes on the mirror for the actors, as our marriage begins today we ask that you leave your well wishes and advice to keep our marriage strong on our mirrors" But obviously we would make that sound MUCH mor eloquent. But you get the idea.

     
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    arenyth    May 14, 2011   planning in CA, wedding in NJ

    Actually at David's bridal they have a guestbook that is a mirror, but the pen etches it onto the glass. We thought it was pretty cool, I think your guests would too!

     
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    bells    June 26, 2011  

    Is each guest going to have a mini mirror to write on? or will there be one big mirror for everyone to sign on?

     
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    vaness13181    July 31, 2011   Chicago, IL

    I wouldn't think it odd, but I feel like when things need an explanation it gets a little tricky. What about something like a poster-sized playbill cover (the "show" being you and FI's marriage ceremony) and they sign that?  It's something that could possibly be framed and put on a wall. What are you planning on doing with the mirrors?  

     
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    LetsGoPens    October 13, 2012   Pittsburgh

    I am a theatre nut so this is awesome! I would be so excited to do this if I were a guest.

     
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    UpstateCait    October 7, 2011   Upstate, NY

    As a drama club nerd, I would be all over that! Cool idea.

     
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    PitBulLover    August 21, 2010  

    I dont see how this could be thought of as weird at all! I really like this idea!

     
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    vmec    May 12, 2012   Vancouver

    Neat it's easy tell your MC to announe it.

     
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    luckyprincess       New Jersey

    LOVE it!  I also love vaness13181's idea about the playbill portrait of the two of you - what a great keepsake!

     
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    Ms Hedgehog    July 10, 2011   Dallas/ Ft Worth TX

    @luckyprincess: We thought about that but our program is already going to be a playbill.

     
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    rainbow    January 1, 2011   Tampa

    That sounds like a really cool idea! I love writing little notes on our bathroom mirror in lipstick!

     
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    ohheavenlyday    August 20, 2011   Savannah, Georgia

    I think it's cute, but as a non-theater person I would be like... I'm supposed to do what with this marker? It's a very interesting idea but it's not that intuitive I don't think, unless you run in theater circles. But if you feel cool explaining it all out to them, I'm sure most guests would give it a whirl. 

     
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    karo    April 14, 2013   Nashville, TN

    I think it's a really cool idea! As long as the messages can be preserved and people understand what to do, I like it! Maybe have a bridesmaid or groomsmen write one first so people get the idea?

     
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    Jenniphyr    February 2, 2013   Alberta, Canada

    I think that that sounds awesome! : )

     
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    Ms Hedgehog    July 10, 2011   Dallas/ Ft Worth TX

    @karo: Good idea! I was thinking about how to start if but if there is already a message on it people would understand it much quicker. I plan on having it out so they have something to do while we are taking our pictures.

     
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    Zinzerena    April 14, 2012   Virginia

    I think it's a really neat idea!  Most of the people I know do indy movies, so it's a whole 'nother ball game with them, lol.  But I LOVE the idea!  Maybe you could get photos if you can't preserve it? :)

     
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    In the media    June 29, 2013   Indiana, but wedding in St. Louis

    If you are going to do a theater theme, you should have a video. But a video camera in the middle of a theater theme might not work...

    But the mirror idea is cute. And I definitely think a note saying just what you told us will get the message across.

     
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    kala_way    May 28, 2011   Manhattan Beach, CA

    Yea, it's different. Which isn't bad, but it will take some explaining. I think, as a guest, I would be thinking 'so what are they going to do with all these little mirrors.' And having my own would make me feel pressured to think of something really good, but I probably wouldn't be able to.

    Like @bells asked, I think one big mirror, centrally located, where you gave everybody a chance to go up and sign around the edges would be more fun. Because then you could read what other people wrote and it would feel more playful rather than like a duty. That would make more sense to me as a guest.

     

    Reading the PP's post made me think of doing a wedding themed improve bit with your more outgoing and creative guests. A-Z sentences, wedding themed. "Yes Man" game but make it "Yes Dear". I don't know if that's upscale theatre enough for you, but it would be fun!

     
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    Ms Hedgehog    July 10, 2011   Dallas/ Ft Worth TX

    @kala_way: I guess I didn't explain it well enough. That is what we are planning on doing. One or two big mirrors so people can get together around them, write on them and see what other people wrote. We will probably end up just getting a picture of them since we wont have anywhere to keep a big mirror like that in our tiny apartment. If we had a garage I would probably want to keep it so that one day we could install it in our house somewhere.... Then again, I have always wanted a full body mirror in this place! lol

     
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    brideatbeach    June 4, 2011  

    As long as you have a sign there explaining what you want them to do and its relevance, I think it's very cool and unique!

     
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    EmeraldR    May 1, 2011   New Jersey

    That sounds like an awesome idea! Very creative!

     
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    wstonesifer707       San Antonio, TX

    I don't think it is too weird. Maybe you could write something like .... "As you look at us on our wedding day we will look to you for advice and well wishes. Please take a marker and a few minutes to write a reflection note on our marriage mirror of love"

     
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    Ms Hedgehog    July 10, 2011   Dallas/ Ft Worth TX

    @wstonesifer707: That's cute! Do you think it would seem out of place for the theme if I don't mention the theatrical reason behind it?

     
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    daydreamwanderer       DC

    I love this idea, but will admit that if I were a guest, I would struggle to think of something meaningful to write under short notice.

    Is there some sort of way to let your guests know ahead of time so they can think about what they would want to write? I think you'll get much more significant advice that way (rather than 20 people writing "Don't go to bed angry!")

     

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