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To be honest, I would prefer a weekend. We're getting married on a Friday and I'm very happy with our decision. Is a Friday or even a Sunday an option? We got a massive discount on our venue/catering for choosing a Friday.
Have you thought about having a destination wedding to cut the guest list AND putting it on a weekday, since... its a weekend everyday when youre on 'vacation'! =) A friend of mine is having his wedding over seas on a Tuesday and was able to have it in a legit castle for cheap since it wasnt a weekend.
What about Sunday or Friday? For the choices you have I voted Thursday. A lot of people go out on thursdays too and it gives them an excise to have a long weekend and take friday off if they want. Good luck!
If Friday isn't an option, I really don't think it matters.
If the majority of your guests are from out of town, I would choose Thursday evening. If everyone is local, it's more of a tossup, but Thursday is becoming as common as Friday used to be.
I've done a handful of weddings on other days, and with the exception of the rare holiday Monday wedding - it's just kinda odd :)
Also, you may not save as much as you think with your vendors if you do it on a Monday or Tuesday since that's usually our days off, and Mondays may mean doing 3 days of events in a row.
Good luck!
I would say sunday would be a good choice because traffic in OC during the week is brutal!! Friday night is completely unbearable. Just something to think about. Also there are some budget friendly places for the weekend
I voted for Thursday, but consider whether your guest list has more than a handful OOT. 90% of the weddings I've attended were out of town (I moved away from where I went to high school, my college and grad friends are from all over, and even current locals have gotten married up to 3 hours away). I wouldn't have been able to make most of those weddings had they been on a weekday. If the OOTers are people you really want to be there, you may want to reconsider having it on M-Th.
Honestly this is you and your fiance's wedding. If you want your wedding on a monday, do it! Trust, the people who want to go to your wedding will find a way to go. Last summer I went to a wedding that was on a thursday starting at 5:30. They had about 100 people and pretty much everyone came. Our wedding is on a friday because its cheaper than a saturday. Our wedding is going to start at 3:30. Either you come or you don't, cause I'm getting married regardless if all 100 guest show up, or if 3 show up. DO WHAT YOU WANT!!! IT'S YOUR DAY!!
We are doing our wedding on Thursday, and not because we wanted to go cheaper way, but because it is the 7th of July (7/7). It is our favorite number and we decided to go with it even before we found out that it's on Thursday. So if you really wanna do a weekday wedding, pick your favorite number, or a combination of day/month/year numbers that you like and that sounds pretty.
@Tanya5484: I just wanted to respectfully disagree. My cousin's wedding was semi-destination (six hours away from everyone's family) and it was on the Tuesday during finals week my senior year. I love her, I wanted to be there, but I couldn't have made it because even if I would have rearranged them, I wouldn't have been able to study for them.
OP, if your guests are mostly in town, it won't really matter. Please understand if a lot of your OOT guests can't make it, though!
Out of all the options you have, I voted for thursday. I've also been to several friday weddings and they have been great!
@jo.lee: I have alot of guest coming from out of town. NONE of my family lives in the same state as me. Also, now adays people work different days and times of the week/weekends you can't accommodate everyone. Plus if you are letting them know 10-8 months before the wedding date, they have plenty of time to make accommodations. I truly believe the people that want to share in your joy will find a way.
It's your wedding, but as a hostess, its your duty to make the wedding comfortable for your guests. How much fun will they have rushing from work, getting stuck on the 405, and missing your ceremony because of it? Have it on a weekend if at all possible. Otherwise, do Thursday.
I think It should be on the weekend or if anything a Friday. If I have to choose one of those day I would pick Thursdays because it works awesome for my schedule but for others, if they wanted, they could make a long weekend of it.
@Tanya5484: Yes, some or even many of those who really want to be there will find some way to make it happen, but not all. The question is whether the OP has a significant number of OOTers that she wants to inconvenience in this way having to take days off work (most folks work M-F), and how much she wants to risk having those she would like to share in her day not be able to make it. For me, I know that 90%+ of my guests will be out of town. My family was Coast Guard so my friends and my parents friends live all over the country, my extended family doesn't live nearby (and family lives 2 hrs away), not to mention my college/grad friends scattered around the world. I've moved 16 times in 31 years (not counting moves during college itself - that ups it to 24), so I've got friends from AK to CA. It is **incredibly important** to me that for once in my life, I get as many of the people that love me/I love into one room as possible because it will likely never happen again, so I'll have to suck up the Saturday night cost to make it happen, and cut corners elsewhere. The OP may not have this issue, in fact, I highly doubt most people experience it to the extent that I do. I imagine she, like most people, will weight it very differently than I do. But, I wanted to raise the topic as one of many to think about in making her decision.
But really wanting to be some place at someone's wedding does not mean it'll happen - and keep in mind, I've even traveled to India for a friend's wedding, so I've made a lot of effort to be there for people. My grandfather wanted to be at my sister's wedding, but couldn't fly (not the issue at question, but just throwing it out there as an example for how people may really want to make it but can't.)
If she wants to save $, (a very reasonable goal because weddings are crazy expensive) I'd suggest considering a daytime/lunch wedding as well.
How about Memorial Day Monday? That's when we did ours last year. It's really like a Sunday because everyone has the day off, and you can still get great discounts. We got married in OC as well.
Yea, I don't think it makes much difference if you're picking Mon-Thur. Everyone's schedules are different so those days are always a toss up whether they will work for people. People expect events and things to come up on the weekends. If you're set on choosing one of those days I don't think it makes much difference. Maybe poll some of your guests and ask what might work for them, since they are the ones who'll have to make it work.
@Tanya5484: haha, sure, I definitely could have gotten D's or C's my senior year, but it wasn't a logical or viable option for me 
.
I just like to use my story to let brides know that if they pick a weekday, it would be great of them to not hold it against guests that can't make it without disrupting huge portions of their life (ie--my college diploma).
I think anyone who plans their wedding for a weekday or "non-traditional" day (myself included; ours was Friday) should be prepared for many situations where people want to be there but just can't, particularly if your crowd is from out of town. What I mean is, don't have a Thursday wedding and then be upset that only 50% of the guest list shows up.
However, I think it's a great strategy if you're planning on inviting a large amount of people (obligatory invites, distant relatives etc.) but secretly want a smaller guest list. :) The caveat is that some of the people who won't be there will be people you wished would come, and vice versa.
I truly feel that the people meant to be at your wedding will be there, and if that's a small number, so be it. But if this would bother you, you may want to rethink it.
We originally planned our wedding for a Thursday, but (a) we are both teachers, as are all our friends and our parents are retired, so we knew our nearest & dearest would be able to come; (b) we had seriously considered that it may be an inconvenience and checked with our closest friends and family, and ok'd it with them prior to making a decision. It turns out the venue gave us a deal for Friday night, so we took that.
From my experience at looking at wedding venues the most expensive time is Saturday night. There is usually a premium for Sat night and from what I saw other days and times were about the same. Afternoon is sometimes cheaper than evening because the catering is cheaper. You might be able to do Friday night, or Sat or Sun afternoon and save just as much as Thursday evening.
I'm also going to have to respectfully disagree with the "it's YOUR day" mindset. Because, if you don't care about your guests, don't have guests. You are HOSTING a wedding. Therefore, as a good host you should consider your guests. Yes, they love you and that's why they're inviting, yada yada yada...but at the end of the day you should still consider them because you are HOSTING them. No you cannot consider EVERYONE, nor make EVERYONE happy. But, bottom line is you still should consider them, and that would mean doing what woud suit a majority if you can. That would be being a good host/hostess. If you were hosting another party/event, etc. wouldn't you consider your guests...a wedding is not an exception.
That being said...if majority of your guests can attend a day other than Saturday, do it. But, be considerate of peoples jobs, school, etc. and yes some people work on weekends, but majority don't. I'm not saying you are not considering people, because obviously you are or you wouldn't have written this post, haha! :) So, my advice would be to choose a Friday since you don't want to do Saturday....and if you can't do Friday, I would guess Thursday. Good Luck!
you ladies were SO helpful *hugs* this is why i simply LOOOOOVE weddinbee! just to book the venue i want on a saturday is about $6500 and $4500 on a sunday or friday... and about $2700 for a weekday. smh these venues sure do know how to stress a frugal bee out!!
im already shrinking the guest list to about 75 - 100 to cut cost. it will only be my immediate family and my fiances family is from out of state so it would really be semi-destination for them... we just want our loved 1s to party like never b4 (1 of the main reasons we want this venue is bc we can bring our own alcohol) and of course i want to save tons
@meliss: that was my first choice!! (and any other holiday that falls on a weekday lol) but then i realized that my daughter has to go to school and we have no family near us that would be able to take her during our honeymoon so we have to do the wedding during the summer
Friday but since it's not an option Thursday. Then again Sunday could give everyone a reason to take off on Monday! :)
I picked Thursday because that is when I had mine. I also wanted to save money. Those that really want to be there will be there. We had an awesome time at ours and no one faulted us for having it on a Thursday, and 99% of our guests had to travel to us to be at the wedding. In fact, they were proud of us for wanting to save money. If you have it on a Thursday, the guests that come can choose to have a 4 day weekend without; usually, having to give up to much of their vacation time.
If I was coming from OOT, I'd prefer a Monday or a Thursday, I guess. I could take MT or THF off from work. If I was in town, I'd prefer a Thursday, because then I'd only have to be tired at work on one day.
I think I would rather cut the guest list or trim the budget of other stuff before doing a weekday wedding. It's much more convenient for guests (both in town and traveling) to get there and have a good time when they know they're not going to work the nextd day. For out of town guests, it's even worse because they would have to take days off work just to travel. Plus, the overall wedding might be more fun and active if people know they can let loose.
Even though it's not an option, I vote for Sunday, followed by Friday. Both of those can cut costs nicely. Between the other days of the week I don't think it makes a difference which.. they will all be more troublesome for out of town guests and may cut down on who can attend by quite a bit.
I vote either Friday or Sunday (or Saturday afternoon instead of evening).
For OOT guests, any weekday will require taking at least two days (if not more) off of work to attend. I get very few vacation days - barely enough to have enough time off to travel to see family at the holidays and do a small trip with my DH - and even with advanced notice, I would not likely have enough vacation time to take that many days off for a wedding.
Friday and Sunday allow OOT guests to only have to take one day off and Saturday afternoon, most could likely attend without taking any vacation days.
Personally I would prefer Friday or Sunday over any weekday. I hate having to take additional vacation days just to travel for a wedding! However if thats not an option I would go with Thursday. That way people at least get the long weekend out of it
My goodness, the venue you're looking at is expensive! I know you're in CA and I'm in Indiana, but if I were faced with price tags like that, I don't think I would even bother with a wedding!
I certainly don't blame you for wanting to save money. If you've absolutely got your heart set on this venue, I would go with Thursday.
I personally chose a Friday for my wedding because it's was less expensive, and most people haven't said anything, but I have gotten some.... attitude, i guess?
My mom, as an example, has never openly said she didn't like it, but I have gotten a vibe from her about it.
But, we're paying for the wedding, and the Saturday we wanted wasn't available and Friday was, and it was also about 40% cheaper to book the reception venue for Friday.... so, I think we made the right choice.
I just don't think a weekday wedding will be that fun! Seems like a lot of people won't come, and the ones that do won't really be in much of a party mood if they have to be up and at 'em at 9 am the next day.
If it has to be a weekday, I would choose Thursday. I would be a little annoyed though, since I would need to take 1 or 2 vacation days. And I only get 10 for the year :/
I would say Thursday if I absolutely had to choose. The problem is, most of my friends are out of town.. so I would have to take off more days to go to the wedding if it was during the week. Thursday seems good though. You only have one more work day to get through before you can relax and recover :)
I think a Thursday would totally work. That just makes it a long weekend for guests which would be pretty nice.
How many people are traveling from out of town?
How about a Sunday? Or a Monday of a 3 day weekend (Memorial Day or Labor day). I think its a lot to ask your guests to take off of work in addition to travel and any other expenses to coming to your wedding.
so i showed my fiance the poll results and he said "i agree with the weddingbees stop being cheap" lol... even tho i would rather use that 2k and buy myself some loboutins we r gonna compromise and go with a sunday. thnx ladies!!
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hey ladies... we STILL haven't booked our site because i just can't get over all these wedding costs! my name is futuremrsoloyede and im cheap. i admit it lol. so im thinkin that we could cut costs by having our wedding on a weekday. as a wedding guest, which weekday evening would you prefer?