Post # 1
I’m engaged! 🙂 🙂 🙂
My FI (so cool to type that!) proposed on Saturday and we’re not wasting any time planning our wedding! We are getting married on December 28, this year! We don’t want to have a long engagement first of all, second, we have 2 weddings to attend next summer – FI’s brother, and FI’s best friend.
We want a smaller wedding, probably 75 guests tops. We plan on having some small children, as it will be mainly family with a few friends. My FI had been talking to both my parents and his parents for the last couple of months as he waited for my ring to be ready, so he had a hold put on the first venue just so it wouldn’t book up.
So which as a guest would you prefer?
This venue is a well-known steak house about 30 minutes from our parents’ homes. We would have the ceremony at a church then go right to the restaurant in a private room. Because it’s a restaurant, we can pretty much start whenever we want, avoiding the dreaded gap between ceremonies and reception. This restaurant is probably mine and FI’s favorite back home. The decor is upscale without it being too fancy (sorry I’m not descibing it better). The neat thing about this private room is that they have a big screen tv and a lounge area with couches. We probably would not have a tradional reception with a DJ, instead, we just want to have an ipod playing background music. We also have much more to chose from as far as the menu goes, plus, my parents know the owners.
This venue is more like a traditional wedding venue. It’s fairly new and it overlooks a vineyard, although I don’t think the views will be that great in December! We could have the ceremony right there, which would be really nice. It’s much more “elegant” than a restaurant reception. I’ve never been there, but my mom was at a wedding there recently and she said the food was good and the place itself is beautiful.
I am leaning toward venue #1 (the restaurant); FI prefers #1 but if I *really* want #2 he’d be OK with it.
We’re just looking to have a fun, casual party. Any thought are appreciated! 🙂
Post # 3
@SnowInApril: I’d prefer #2 because I only need to drive to one place.
Post # 4
- Wedding: October 2014 - UK
I think the vineyard might be a bit special!
Post # 5
@SnowInApril: If you are leaning to #1 and FI wants #1, I’m not sure why you don’t just choose #1.
This is your wedding- you should have the wedding you want.
Post # 6
@julies1949: The only reason why I’m considering #2 is because since it is a wedding, I was thinking maybe it should be a little more “upscale” if that makes sense. It’s probably the only time in my life that I’d have an event at a place like that. Sometimes I feel like you can have a restaurant party for anything, know what I mean?
Post # 7
@SnowInApril: I think number two just because a vinyard it’s not a place I would normally get to go to! But I think number one would be lovely as well
Post # 8
No question – I would pick #2
Post # 9
@SnowInApril: I feel like it’s sort of hard to put myself in the shoes of the guest when I can’t see pictures of the actual venues in question.
From what you are describing, I much prefer venue 2, as it seems a little more special & more wedding themed. I think the first venue would be nice too, but it would almost feel like a big post wedding family dinner as opposed to an actual wedding reception. I think when you look back at your wedding, you’ll want to remember it being in a very special & meaningful place, & I don’t know that a restaurant venue will accomplish this.
Post # 10
i voted for the vineyard. it sounds really pretty and it’s a place not many people get to go to very often.
the thing that turned me off about the restaurant is that there would be a tv there. from a bride’s perspective, i would be annoyed if people chose to stare at a tv screen all night instead of really celebrating with me and the other guests.
Post # 11
The vineyard, because the idea of a big screen tv and couches at my wedding sounds like a dealbreker. You could do your shower or RD at the restaurant if you like it so much.
Post # 12
@MrsTVLover: I think I’m going to agree with this.
I don’t like the idea of having a big screen TV at my wedding so I would go with #2. But if yall already both like #1 and aren’t looking for a big formal hoopla than go with what you like
Post # 13
Thanks for your thoughts!
I found out today that the vineyard venue has a 100 person minimum and I do not want to increase the guest number just to meet that minimum. Plus, one of my friend’s mom went to a reception there last summer and said the food was just “ok”.
I have mentioned the restaurant to a few people and they were excited because they know the food is so good. I don’t really mind the idea of the tv; we want something really casual anyway so I think this will work for us. 🙂
Post # 14
The vineyard sounds great and definitely more special, however you may be right about it not looking that great in December. I’ve seen some in the winter and frankly, they’re pretty depressing… all bare and yellow. Just think of how your pictures will look!