(Closed) As a parent is she just being mean?

posted 4 years ago in Parenting
  • poll: Is the mother's behavior justified/ok? Or just being mean?
    She's just being mean/spiteful : (38 votes)
    78 %
    She's justified. : (3 votes)
    6 %
    Other. Explain below : (8 votes)
    16 %
  • Post # 3
    Member
    1125 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    I think it really depends on the situation.

    If she has actual important plans, like her parents are in town that never get to see the child, or they have plans for some big deal or something it’s understandable. But just to have her for some memorial day small thing may be pushing her limits. Especially considering there was a party planned for the daughter ahead of time.

    It really depends on the reasons for her needing to change the plans. And example, my daughter visits her father every summer for 5 weeks. She was supposed to leave July 6th but we have pushed it to the following week, twice a year her closest friends(we have a group with kids all around her age) get together to go “camping” we stay on a private island with two cabins that have no electricity, the kids play outside for 4 days and go swimming, go in the woods to play etc and it’s basically her funest thing to ever do. We don’t pick the days for the camping so we have to work around the schedule and there is no way I would ever make her not go since it’s her favorite thing to do and she talks about it all year long. 

    So if really depends on the situation, she could just be being spiteful or she could have good reason to postpone his visit.

    Post # 5
    Member
    7772 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: July 2010

    She is clearly being mean.  This is horrible.  He had this party planned for a month and all of a sudden she wants the daughter that weekend for her own plans?  That is mean to the father and the daughter.

    Post # 6
    Member
    7169 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I think it depends on their history and if there is any standing custody agreement. Memorial Day is a holiday- do they have a schedule for holidays in their custody agreement? 

    If they don’t have a formal agreement to adhere to then I think that the mother could be more flexible.

    Post # 7
    Member
    1639 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    @kris325:  Are there legal custody arraingments in place? If not, I think it’s time to consider so that the mother can stop emotionally hurting your husband.

    Post # 8
    Member
    7169 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    LuvMySailor  It is not HER husband- the OP is talking about a friend of theirs.

    Post # 9
    Member
    7885 posts
    Bumble Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    @LuvMySailor:  I agree. Why does the mother call the shots? There should be a proper custody agreement.

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