AS A RECIPIENT, how important is an invitation to you?

posted 2 years ago in Paper
Post # 2
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

As long as it has the information I could care less if it was 10 different colors with unicorns jumping around lol I’ve never seen an invitation with a printed back, seems pretty pointless and I would never see it. It’d be nice to have a band or something to hold it all together but not necessary. Invite size doesn’t matter, firework stamps get the same thing done any other stamp does. Don’t stress about it, I’ve never judged a wedding by an invitation and I definitely didn’t waste money on them 

Post # 3
1298 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

BurlapnLace:  I think you are overthinking this a bit. If I get an invitation in the mail, I might think – oh, that’s pretty – but that’s about as much thought as I put into it. I put the date on the calendar and file the invite away to refer to as the date gets closer. 

I don’t think you need to put anything on the back of the invite. If you’re worried about all the components floating in the envelope, maybe cut a few strips of scrapbook paper and make your own belly bands? Very easy and cheap to do, and it might make it more pulled together so you feel better about it. 

Post # 4
7654 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

It goes on my fridge until the wedding day and then gets chucked in the garbage. I don’t look at the envelope, stamps, and I sure don’t fawn over the invite. I look for the info I need, the RSVP card, and done. I don’t think anyone will care about the envelopes.

Post # 5
1256 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I think they’re fine. Nothing special, but nothing bad. While I love paper products I know most guests do not care and it goes in the trash. I wouldn’t spend more time or money (or energy) on them if you don’t care much.

Post # 6
209 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

To be honest I don’t care………..As long as the information provided is correct and easy to locate on the invite I am a happy camper. 

Post # 8
4483 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Ours will be pretty simple, and I’ll admit I miss the wow factor. But, I’m not paying $4 extra each so someone says “oh, that’s nice” when they open my invitation. As long as it says what it needs to and it’s not a total hot mess, you;re fine.

Post # 9
46 posts

I don’t care at all, as a recipient. That’s probably colouring my own approach – am just going to send out e-invites, even my grandma would probably be perfectly fine with that nowadays!

Post # 10
2264 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

BurlapnLace:  I sort of care, but you’re also overthinking it. First of all, keep the stamps. The only time I have ever even NOTICED a stamp on an invite is if the invites were intentionally stamped with tons of different vintage-y stamps. I noticed because that’s something totally different. Otherwise, I’ve never even looked at the stamp. 

I also think that you are totally right ot allocate the majority your funds to things that will impact your guests’ comfort and enjoyment (food and music!)

At the same time, where I expect the invitation to be important as a recipient is that it will not only give me the date and time of the wedding, but it also clues me into the feel of the wedding and the appropriate attire I might wear. If an invitation has color, I try to avoid wearing that color under the presumption that the WP might be dressed in that color. This is obviously not always the case, but it’s better safe than sorry!

I also take cues about the formality of the wedding and the type of attire I can wear. From the invitation you posted above (which I think is lovely, by the way!) I would be expecting a rustic styled wedding and I would therefore not dress in black tie. I would presume that a nice knee lenght dress would be super appropriate.

Hopefully this makes sense: the invitation is important insofar as it is the first notion your guests will get of your wedding and provides important cues to them about what to expect. At the same time, it’s not worth going crazy about or allocating a huge amount of funds to because ultimately, I’d rather a less expensive invite if it means a nice meal and good music!

Post # 11
1197 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

Its not important to me at all!  As long as all the information is there and text is legible, I don’t care what everything looks like.  And I think if people judge your wedding based on your invite as a “waste of their time,” you’re probably better off not having them there anyway 

Post # 12
716 posts
Busy bee

If you’re comfortable with the invitation, then it’s totally fine.  As a recipient I don’t care, but the invitation does communicate certain information beyond the date, etc….for example looking at your invitiation I would expect to be attending an outdoor, rustic, somewhat more casual affair.  If your wedding was very fancy, I would likely show up underdressed.

Post # 13
2169 posts
Buzzing bee

BurlapnLace:  So your problems are twofold–the back of the invite has no artwork and the envelope is too large? I don’t think people will pay attention to these issues, if you can even call them issues.

Maybe you could tie the components together with a ribbon or twine? That would be an easy fix.

I notice a lot more detail than the other posters on this thread, but that’s probably because I scrapbook and am into paper. I wouldn’t judge someone by the invite and I do think that it’s much more important to put money toward things that matter more and that people will remember more, like better food at the reception. Even though I am a paper person, that is much more important to me.

The only thing I can see using the invite for other than to determine time and location is to figure out what to wear if there is no specified dress code for the wedding. That’s when I go by the look of the invite. 

Post # 14
4634 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

If you don’t care, then it doesn’t matter.

I like paper products and put a lot of effort into my invites, but that was more for me than others. I’m sure most people ripped into them and paid no mind, others did comment on them but, definitely not the majority.

I love receiving a beautiful invitation. To be honest, it doesn’t happen that often and I don’t judge people for it. As long as it has all of the info and its easy to ready, its fine.

Post # 15
232 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: Aug 30th, 2014

I made my own “belly bands” for my invitation package, maybe that would solve your Problem? I just took one-inch thick strips of linen-textured scrapbooking paper, folded them around each invite package, and glued the overlapping ends together. It didn’t take long, looked tidy, and cost maybe $5 in paper! 

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