Post # 1
- There is not enough ceremony seating
- When the flower arrangements at the tables are so tall you can’t see anyone
- When all the food is covered in cream, butter, and cheese (casein/milk protein allergy)
- When there is only one slow dance song for the guests (not talking about the bride and groom, bride and father, etc).
What are yours? I figure that thinking about this from the guest’s point of view will help tremendously!
Post # 3
5. When the ceremony/reception space is freezing or too hot
6. When the music is so painfully loud that you can’t talk to people at your table
Post # 4
@Eckle: Oh yeah! The ceremony we went to without enough seating was also in direct sunlight for about an hour… I’m so pale I’m practically translucent, so sitting in the sun was unpleasant…
Post # 5
7. when there isn’t ANY (or too few) seating/tables at cocktail hour. It’s hard as crap to juggle a drink and a plate of food and try to eat said food at the same time!
ETA: when people have an outdoor wedding in the dead summer in areas where it’s very hot. I’m sorry but your dream of an outdoor wedding should not be fulfilled when it’s 90+ degress and humid!
Post # 6
- Wedding: August 2013 - Genetti's in Dickson City, PA
8. When I’m stuck at a table with absolutely NO ONE that I know or am in at least the same age brackett as.
Post # 7
@IzzyBear: Especially when you didn’t eat all day, your gin and tonic was 90% and you’re wearing 5 inch heels! Talk about wobbly!
Post # 8
@RheannaRaye: Hopefully it’s old people rather than the kid’s table.
Post # 9
1) When there is too long of a wait between ceremony and reception
2) When I get seated in a location that obstructs my view of the bride and groom. (Yep, this has happened twice.)
3) When there are too many line/organized dances
Post # 10
When there is a long gap between ceremony and reception, the worst! Cocktail hour, fine, two hours in the middle of nowhere while you take pictures, rude.
Post # 12
8. When the Bride and groom sit friends at opposite ends of the hall to avoid “shenanigans” and to help them “mingle” with new people. Hate to say it, but the shenanigans will happen, and we will all end up with the people we are most comfortable with, so don’t make things awkward for everyone.
Post # 13
Keeping in mind that these are “disappointments” and not criticisms…
-There’s no program. I really love finding out who all the BMs and GMs are and knowing what to expect during the ceremony.
-There are no flowers on the tables. I know, centerpieces are generally seen as a waste of money, but I really love how they look and appreciate them.
-Being stuck at the last table for the buffet. It’s a trifold problem – the food is usually picked over or cold; I’ve had to watch everyone else enjoy their dinner while I’m hungry; and I’ve gotten tipsy drinking wine during the wait. I know, someone has to be last, I’m just disappointed when it’s me.
-The bride doesn’t dance. It’s my favorite thing to do at weddings and I love seeing the bride out there having fun too. I actually went to a wedding last year where the B&G had hired a DJ but the bride didn’t want anyone to dance because she didn’t want “that kind of wedding.” DH and I couldn’t stop ourselves though – oops.
-Dry wedding or cash bar. Sorry.
Post # 14
There is not enough food and seats. I don’t expect a sit down dinner but if it’s around dinner time, a decent buffet would do… And I don’t really care what people serve, pizza is fine with me but I have been to weddings when they only serve light appetizer when it’s clearly 6:00 pm… That just bugs me a little. 🙁
Post # 15
@MrsN14: Definitely. I don’t get why more brides don’t schedule their pictures before the ceremony after the first look. Yeah, you don’t get the whole first glance down the aisle, but it’s still special and you’re not pissing off your guests or missing cocktail hour! I’m planning on having a mashed potato station at my cocktail hour, there is NO way I’m missing that.
Post # 16
-when there is not a chair for every butt (ceremony, cocktail hour, reception, etc)
-when there is not enough food for every person or the food is cold
-when I have to pay money for anything at a hosted event (dollar dance, cash bar, parking, etc)
-when the wedding is planned without regard for guests in general: inaccessible location, not enough bathrooms, long buffet lines, extreme temperatures, … anything like that.