As a wedding GUEST, I am disappointed when…

posted 3 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
3557 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

5. When the ceremony/reception space is freezing or too hot

6. When the music is so painfully loud that you can’t talk to people at your table

Post # 5
5935 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

7. when there isn’t ANY (or too few) seating/tables at cocktail hour. It’s hard as crap to juggle a drink and a plate of food and try to eat said food at the same time!

ETA: when people have an outdoor wedding in the dead summer in areas where it’s very hot. I’m sorry but your dream of an outdoor wedding should not be fulfilled when it’s 90+ degress and humid!

Post # 6
363 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Genetti's in Dickson City, PA

8. When I’m stuck at a table with absolutely NO ONE that I know or am in at least the same age brackett as.


Post # 9
1295 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

1) When there is too long of a wait between ceremony and reception

2) When I get seated in a location that obstructs my view of the bride and groom.  (Yep, this has happened twice.)

3) When there are too many line/organized dances

Post # 10
3280 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

When there is a long gap between ceremony and reception, the worst! Cocktail hour, fine, two hours in the middle of nowhere while you take pictures, rude.

Post # 11
9412 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper


  • When the couple blatantly asks me for money
  • Personalized favours with the couple’s details that I will never use (waste, and I feel like I have to take it even though it’s going in the garbage)
  • When the ceremony and reception are either far apart geographically or in terms of hours in between (I went to a wedding with a 6 hour gap between events before)
  • Cash bars – I’d rather no alcohol than be asked to pay for it
  • Weddings during the week (Friday and Sunday count – it’s just not possible for me with work)
  • Outdoor weddings when it’s either too hot or too cold to be pleasant

Post # 12
218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

8. When the Bride and groom sit friends at opposite ends of the hall to avoid “shenanigans” and to help them “mingle” with new people. Hate to say it, but the shenanigans will happen, and we will all end up with the people we are most comfortable with, so don’t make things awkward for everyone.

Post # 13
1000 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Keeping in mind that these are “disappointments” and not criticisms…

-There’s no program.  I really love finding out who all the BMs and GMs are and knowing what to expect during the ceremony.

-There are no flowers on the tables.  I know, centerpieces are generally seen as a waste of money, but I really love how they look and appreciate them.

-Being stuck at the last table for the buffet.  It’s a trifold problem – the food is usually picked over or cold; I’ve had to watch everyone else enjoy their dinner while I’m hungry; and I’ve gotten tipsy drinking wine during the wait.  I know, someone has to be last, I’m just disappointed when it’s me.

-The bride doesn’t dance.  It’s my favorite thing to do at weddings and I love seeing the bride out there having fun too.  I actually went to a wedding last year where the B&G had hired a DJ but the bride didn’t want anyone to dance because she didn’t want “that kind of wedding.”  DH and I couldn’t stop ourselves though – oops.

-Dry wedding or cash bar.  Sorry.

Post # 14
76 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

There is not enough food and seats.  I don’t expect a sit down dinner but if it’s around dinner time, a decent buffet would do… And I don’t really care what people serve, pizza is fine with me but I have been to weddings when they only serve light appetizer when it’s clearly 6:00 pm… That just bugs me a little. 🙁

Post # 16
5460 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

-when there is not a chair for every butt (ceremony, cocktail hour, reception, etc)

-when there is not enough food for every person or the food is cold

-when I have to pay money for anything at a hosted event (dollar dance, cash bar, parking, etc)

-when the wedding is planned without regard for guests in general: inaccessible location, not enough bathrooms, long buffet lines, extreme temperatures, … anything like that.

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