Post # 1
I saw this on a friend’s facebook status today.
“Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. For those of you who make rude comments to a little person about being skinny, I would like to see you call a big girl fat. Im proud to be the way I am, and noones approval is needed. FYI: SKINNY girls have complexes too. The End :))”
Now, I’m an average size (5’8 130lbs), so being called skinny would be a comlpiment to me. But I can definitely see where she’s coming from.
What do y’all think? I’d especially like to hear from women that this does happen to. Does it truly offend you to be called thin? Or are you secretly flattered?
P.S. I’m not saying that she shouldn’t feel that way. I have just never been that thin, so I can’t put myself in her place very easily.
Post # 3
It doesn’t offend me to be called thin.
It offends (offend is even the wrong word, it more ANNOYS ME) me when people say shit like “eat something or you’ll blow away” or “get some meat on those bones”.
I’m actually in a perfect weight for my height and age, thank you very much.
Post # 4
I don’t think anyone should make snide remarks about anyone’s weight.
I also think the social stigma of being overweight is a lot worse than being too thin.
Post # 5
I would say that it’s all about HOW you say something, just as much as WHAT you say. For instance, if you say to someone, “You’re so damn skinny, don’t you ever eat?” or “Eat a damn cheeseburger once in a while!” those are not going to go over so well. I feel like there’s often an assumption that thinner people are confident and secure in their bodies, and that’s just not always the case. Generally, a good rule of thumb is not to comment on people’s weight, unless you know them and know how they will react to a comment.
Post # 6
@MrsCajun: It doesn’t offend me at all when I’m called thin. I AM thin. It’s like someone calling me short, or pale, or brunette. It’s what I am. It’s when they veer into rudeness that I don’t like: “You look like you’ll blow away!” “You look like a skeleton” “OMG eat a sandwich, you’re too small!”. Yeah… those aren’t great.
When it’s super casual and meant as a compliment I do enjoy it. I saw my sister for the first time in a few months and the first thing she said was “you look skinny!”. I was flattered, especially as I’ve gained 10lbs.
Post # 6
@KatyElle: That’s definitely true; obese/heavy people face much more discrimination than very thin/thin people do.
Post # 6
my mother and sister would tell me I was too skinny and I didnt have a butt and had chicken legs when I was ten pounds lighter than I am now. It made me feel very bad since it was coming from people I love. So I can see how being called skinny in certain ways is hurtful.
Post # 7
If you put my mom in a room with a stick insect, you would think you’d found her long lost twin. She hates, and I mean genuinely hates being called skinny. She eats all day and never gains a pound, and constantly gets accused of dieting. I know that would bother me!
I’ve been called skinny by a few people I know, and while I have lost weight recently, I still react with the “what have you been smoking” stare and attitude. I think “slim” and “slender” are very attractive ways of saying someone is thin, but “skinny” has this negative tone to it that I hate, even when I know I should be flattered (especially since I’m not skinny! lol).
Post # 8
The, “you’re a fucking stick” kinda ruffles my feathers 😉
Honestly, if you are secure in your body, truely I think those comments, or any comments about your body/weight, they should roll off your shoulders.
Just shake em’ off ladies. Shake shake shake em’ off. <3
Post # 9
My best friend that I grew up with looks anorexic yet I’ve seen her down food like no tomorrow. People CONSTANTLY made remarks on how she should eat more. She’d get really upset especially because she had tried for years. Imagine how tiring it is to hear that you’re way too skinny and trying to explain that’s the way you’ll always be no matter what you eat.
Post # 10
I have enough body issues of my own. I try my hardest not to judge and, especially, not to comment on other’s appearances. In my head, that means that they will hopefully show me the same courtesy.
Post # 11
Well I used to be 5’6 and 95Lbs I know WAY to skinny. And I hate it when people were your so skinny your so little because To me i looked normal. Now ive gained weight and would love to hear im skinny… atually the closest ive gotten that was being called thick. But yes being called skinny isnt always a good thing…
Post # 12
I think your friend probably has a point. In high school, one of my friends was TINY, and as much as she tried to gain weight, she just couldn’t. Even though there isn’t necessarily a huge social stigma attatched to being too thin like there is with being overweight, it really hurt her when people would make those comments.
She didn’t have a boyfriend until after she graduated, and it had a lot to do with the fact that she wasn’t confident in herself. People who were not extremely thin (myself included) would often say things like, “it must be nice to be able to eat like that and not gain any weight.” Or, if they were looking to be mean, they would make comments about how no guy would want to be with someone without any meat on her bones.
I think the world just needs to accept that people can be beautiful no matter what…
Post # 13
@DesireeAnne: Oh! I have a friend who recently had crones, she could.not.eat. She was so sick. She became so thin because of her sickness, and MANY people assumed she was just anorexic. She’s had surgery to remove a portion of her intesine, and she has gained a bit back, but I KNOW she felt awful when people would look at her like she never ate anything, or told her she was too skinny. Yea sorry, I’m not just dieting, I have a disease. UGH!
Post # 14
I don’t really think of myself as thin, but I do get called that occasionally and it actually does make me kind of uncomfortable, even when it’s meant as a compliment.
I’ve had some issues with body image and food in the past, and I think it’s just really disconcerting for me in general how much emphasis is placed on body size. To me, it’s in great part genetic and not something that should be looked at as a sign of willpower or upstanding moral value or dedication or anything like that. I am totally OK with being told that I look muscular or buff, though, maybe because that’s not so morally loaded.
I don’t think anyone should be discriminated against or ridiculed for being skinnier than average. While it’s probably more socially acceptable to say someone should eat a cheeseburger than it is to call someone a cow, I do feel like it’s WAY, WAY harder out there for overweight women than unusually skinny women. It’s just that a lot of the criticism is couched in terms of “obesity crisis” or “caring about someone’s health.” The way I see it, you should not make a comment about anyone’s size (large or small) unless you suspect that their health is at risk AND you care about them enough that if they really did get sick you would be there for years of caretaking.