As MOH, how much would you expect to pay for the bachelorette?

posted 2 years ago in Parties
  • poll: As MOH, how much would you expect to pay for the bachelorette?
    $500-$600 so go ahead and splurge on two rooms at the higher-end hotel of her choice : (4 votes)
    16 %
    $300-$500 so book two rooms at a less expensive hotel (lots of space but not her top pick) : (4 votes)
    16 %
    $200-$300 one room at a higher-end hotel (accommodations will be squished) : (15 votes)
    60 %
    Other/Explain : (2 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 2
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I think this is totally dependent on what’s normal for your friend group. It doesn’t sound like everyone knows one another, so I think it might make more sense to get one room so that people aren’t split up. Can you get a larger suite at one hotel?

    At all the bachelorettes I’ve gone to everyone has split the costs equally (minus the bride).

    Post # 3
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    812 posts
    Busy bee

    Tbmtb:  +1

    Usually the bridesmaids split the cost of the party, but since there is only you I would consider the other guests unoffical “bridesmaids” and let them know they will need to pay for themselves, even if you can cover the bride and accomadations for everyone. You may find the other people are willing to pitch in for part of the brides cost.

    What about doing a Spa day and cover some services for just you and the bride?

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 3 months ago by  Shoot4theMoon.
    Post # 4
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    1055 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I’ve always seen everyone other than the bride split the costs as well (I’m in the US). I’d prob go with one room since the girls all only know the bride. Pick the option you like best, tell them all the cost and ask to be paid up front (I had so many girls bail for my BFFs party and stressed over the remaining bill).  Say “here’s my plan, let me know by next week if you are uncomfortable sharing rooms and want to discuss something else…”

    Post # 5
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    1136 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2015

    anonybee0810:  Go with whatever you think everyone will enjoy the most but don’t feel like you need to be forking out the big bucks, no good friend expects their bridesmaids/MOH to go broke paying for these things and you shouldn’t be expected to! Every hens/shower i’ve ever gone to, people cover their own costs.

    Post # 6
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    2169 posts
    Buzzing bee

    anonybee0810:  I’ve only ever seen everyone coming to the bachelorette pay their own costs (whether they are bridesmaids or not) and split costs for the bride.

    Post # 7
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    2529 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa

    I think one room will be fine. Let’s be honest, it’ll be more fun! Just treat it like a slumber party. After some dirnks and whatnot, you can all go to the room and watch sappy movies like “Sleepless in Seattle” or funnier ones like “Bridesmaids”. Assuming the wedding isn’t too close to the bachelorette, I think it would be fun to stay up pretty late, and at that point, nobody cares too much about sleeping arrangements.

    Have fun!

    Post # 9
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    864 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 2015

    anonybee0810:  honestly, as MOH (and sole BM), cover yours and hers–room, dinner. then anyone else who’s attending should be paying their own way. basically, bride should have hers covered, y’all split everything else (and the everything else is up to you guys as far as how much is okay).

    Post # 10
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    3874 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    anonybee0810:  I agree with PPs – one room for a slumber-party style night. It will let the girls get to know each other (and guarantee they all know at least one person in the room, since they all know the bride). If not movies, maybe board games and bring brownies or have a cake or something?

    Post # 11
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    3625 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2013

    anonybee0810:  I would get one nice room with two double beds. If it had a couch, that would be great to— if it is only one night. If it is more than one night, two rooms.

    As a MOH like person (the MOH was under 21 and not invited to the bachelorette– don’t flame me, not my call!), I paid extra for certain things at the bachelorette. I was also the only one in a dual income household and the highest earner. I got the T-shirts, groceries, and some snacks for the room. 

    I would do a “slumber party” style with games (bring some) and chit chatting. It can be a lot of fun.

    Post # 12
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    1119 posts
    Bumble bee

    anonybee0810:  all the hen parties I’ve been to all the guests have split all the costs (except maybe silly accessories and that sort of stuff)

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