Asian Brides: Are You Going to Register?

posted 3 years ago in South East Asian
Post # 2
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2014

bonbonsparklesMD:  hi 🙂 my guy and I are doing the traditional vietnamese thing where money is the customary gift so we don’t have to worry about registering for anything! I think if you both agree that there is nothing that you need or would like to have in your home, why bother for useless items? I think the honeymoon fund is a wonderful idea! its something that you both would enjoy 🙂

Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I’m South Indian and the same custom follows in our culture too. I’m however debating on whether I should do a registry or not since FI is Canadian/Chinese and most of my friends aren’t South Indian. So I guess I will but just a small one. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

bonbonsparklesMD:  I’m disinclined to register. Our apt is too small and we aren’t expecting gifts. We’ll go to every table Vietnamese style. 

Post # 7
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328 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re both Asians who cohabited together beforehand. We had no real need for anything. I had non Asian friends ask about a registry but I told them we didn’t have one. We ended up getting mainly money, gift cards, and one gift of a wine glasses set. But a honeymoon fund is a great idea.

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I’m Filipino and FI is Vietnamese. We live in CA as well! We’re also not going to have gift registries since both of our families usually give monetary gifts at weddings. We are in such similar situations since FI and I have been living together, and we don’t need anything as of right now. We have enough kitchenware and other appliances! 

I’ve asked a couple of family members and friends and all of them think a honeymoon fund can be “tacky” (their words, not mine!).  So we thought since it’s our honeymoon, we should be the one funding it and not our guests. There’s no need for us to give a name to fund anything. To each their own though…if you want to have a honeymoon fund on your website, you should! 🙂 We’re just not going to register, and almost all our guests (Asian or not) pretty much know what to give us as gifts.  

Good luck, and I hope everything works out! 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

bonbonsparklesMD:  I’m VNese marrying an Aussie – and living in New York – so we definitely don’t want/need anything.

We’ve set up a Karma Currency Registry as we wouldn’t mind if guests gave to charity on our behalves AND we’ve also asked his mum to spread the word that we’ll have a ‘wishing well’ set up at the wedding (as my Viet side is definitely going to be gifting us $).

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

bonbonsparklesMD:  Oh no! I didn’t want to confuse you… The only thing I can think of is just word of mouth. If your FI is familiar with the Vietnamese tradition, he can give his family an idea regarding what to give you two as gifts. 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

bonbonsparklesMD:  Australian are a lot more open-minded about monetary gifts for weddings (compared to what I’ve seen here on the Bee) so they actually have wishing wells, which is basically a nice/fancy ‘box’ compared to the usual red boxes at Asian weddings, in the shape of a well. Increasingly, people are using birdcages too. Or just a nice box…They’re basically just set up at the guest-signing table to collect envelopes :)<br /><br />

Here’s a link to a sample vendor in Melbourne: http://amiemichelle.com.au/wishing-wells.html

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