Asked BMs to get gold shoes… am I being a bridezilla?!

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: Am I being a bridezilla?
    Yes, you are a total bridezilla. : (6 votes)
    3 %
    No, your aunt is cray-cray. : (163 votes)
    89 %
    Imma wear uggs to your wedding. Come at me bro. : (14 votes)
    8 %
  • Post # 3
    969 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    Ew what a rude thing to say. Maybe she was being sarcastic?

    Post # 4
    2975 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2013 - Wynn Las Vegas

    Sounds like you are being plenty open about the shoes. Your aunt is cray.

    Post # 5
    853 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: December 2012

    There’s a huge difference between saying “whatever, as long as it’s this color” and “it must be model x, no ifs ands or buts”.  Your aunt was being rude, not only by saying you were being controlling, but also for the dig at your mother.

    That said, since gold is a color of shoes that not everyone keeps on hand, you might provide some suggestions, if not offer to purchase them for your BMs.

    Post # 7
    1231 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2014

    No, I don’t think you’re being a bridezilla. I don’t think it is unreasonable for a bride to ask the BMs to wear a certain colour shoe… I just find it rude to ask them to wear something they will not be comfortable in.

    So you’re good. Ignore your aunt.

    Post # 8
    2290 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    Hmm, it seems your making a very reasonable and common request…I feel like most brides these days let their bridesmaids pick out whatever shoe they want in a specific color.  I know that I asked mine to wear a patent leather nude shoe, but it could be whatever they wanted.  Maybe your aunt doesn’t realize how common and reasonable that is?  It seems like a pretty rude comment.  

    Post # 9
    1328 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’ve been to many weddings where the girls all had the exact same shoes one.  Telling them a color but any style they want is much easier than that.  People in wedding parties know that they might be asked to dress the same or in similar styles, this isn’t exactly ground breaking news.

    Post # 10
    4442 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @MrsRevolutionize:  Is your aunt jealous that it’s not her daughter getting married? That was ridiculous.

    Post # 11
    1238 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    @MrsRevolutionize:  Our colors were also dark blue and gold! My BMs wore gold shoes (they actually all picked out the same shoe), they weren’t like sparkly stripper heals or anything and BMs had absolutely no problem with them. I’ve even seen all of my BMs wear their shoes again. Your aunt is cray.

    Post # 12
    1184 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2014

    @MrsRevolutionize:  It may have been more of a dig at your mom, than at you. Either way, it was totally a dig… mean and inappropriate. Aunts! I feel everyone has an over opioninated relative 8/10x its an Aunt. 

    Post # 13
    4525 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Royalton White Sands

    Nope, not bridezilla at all! It’s actually very considerate of you. 

    Post # 14
    11839 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @MrsRevolutionize:  pft – if you’re a bridezilla I don’t know what you call me – my girls are wearing PURPLE shoes that are all the same.  I’m making my 5’10 sister wear 4″ heels.  (granted, she never objected until AFTER people had already ordered them, I would probably have looked for an alternative if I knew she objected in advance)

    Post # 16
    4442 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

    @MrsRevolutionize:  ERMAHGERD.  I’m sorry you have to deal with that!

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