Post # 1
I’ve put on a lot of weight this year. I’m not even sure why really. I just started eating horribly, no motivation to excersize, etc… I’ve managed to gain 20lbs in the last 6mos. to add to the the 20lbs I wanted to lose to begin with!
About a month ago, a co-worker (nurse) asked me if I was pregnant! Ouch. I told her, “No. I’m just fat.” She said it in passing, and I kept walking. I’m sure she was embarrassed. Then, I was talking about 2 weeks ago to a patient and she asked me when I was due! Again, today, another co-worker (again, a nurse) asked if I was pregnant! I told her the same answer, “No. I’m just fat.” To which she replied, “Just kidding!” Haha!
So, now I’m back in my office fighting back tears! I’m wearing jeans and a tshirt! I can’t even blame the cut of my clothes!
This weight (40lbs) HAS to come off! I’m so embarassed, bigger than I’ve ever been in my life! Pregnant? Everyone knows you don’t ask someone that UNLESS it’s obvious! It must REALLY look that way! It just hurts!
Post # 3
Oh punkin, don’t cry about it. I’m sure the people that made this assumption feel awful and it is really rude to say anything, but let’s look at the bright side, maybe your skin is radiant and has that lovely glow and your hair and nails have that crazy life to them…your just so beautiful and alive they assumed you were carrying…but you aren’t, your just naturally glowy…and for that I hate you.
Post # 4
@itsmle: OMG that’s horrible… And lack of common sense and decency on their part. Unless a mom to be announces it; she can be 8 months along and don’t dare to ask even if its SUPER apparent! I remember in college I was shopping with a friend and we were standing in line to try on some clothes. The old lady in front of us asked the dressing room attendant when she was due (and it looked like she had a beach ball in there…. at least 7-8 months along) and the girl burst into tears saying that she wasn’t pregnant; she had a tumor that she was getting surgery for.
Post # 5
Awe! Im sorry you are going this! 🙁 I know a few other bees are doing the Advocare 24 day challenge. My co-worker and I are going to start it in January. Its worth looking into at least. 🙂 I really hope your day gets better!!
Post # 6
@itsmle: pick a gym buddy. I find it hard to be motivated to work out also, Although i have only gained a few pounds it is really upsetting me. So my sister said we could be gym buddies and i think that will help keep me focused. Do not let it bother you to the point where you get so depressed you don’t do anything about it. People can be rude with their comments without even noticing it.
Post # 7
I’m so sorry. I don’t care how pregnant someone looks I never ask them anything like that. It is a different story when someone comes out and tells me they are then I’ll talk about it. Some people need to learn to shut their mouths. I hope your day gets better and that people learn some manners.
Post # 8
((hugs)) I’m so sorry you’re getting insensitive comments from those around you… have you thought about joining one of the fitness groups here on WB to help you get started? There are several going most of the time; the Biggest Loser challenge, a group on myfitnesspal, a group on dailymile.com, etc. We’re here to help you whether it’s a hug that you need or motivation and support.
Post # 9
I’m sorry, I know it sucks. My mom, BM and co workers keep asking this. It’s been like two months and they just keep asking. I’ve gained 20 lbs as well. It’s just people not thinking before they open their mouth
Post # 10
Thanks, ladies! Being that was the third time I was asked, it really was hard to take. But, it MOTIVATED me for sure! I hate this AND that the holidays are coming up!
Please keep me motivated!!
Post # 11
Well, on the plus side, such a high number of douchebag encounters in a single month promises that you’ll probably be left alone for quite a while. People are dumb and they say dumb, hurtful things. That, and as the PP mentioned, you’re probably glowing and beautiful and that’s probably throwing them as well. 🙂 Chin up.
Post # 12
RUDE. People are dumb. Ignore them! You are beautiful and valuable exactly the way you are in the outfit you have on now! I know how you feel…my FIL just asked me the other day if I was preggers. Shut it, FIL. If you do want to lose weight, the fitness board here on WB has helped me so much! If not, remember you are beautiful and amazing the way you are. People are stupid and judgy and make huge assumptions.
Post # 13
@itsmle: they say the average holiday weight gain is only 1 pound… so dont be worried about the holidays!!
Post # 15
Oh God…I had this happen to me. Ive always had a relatively flat stomach (compared to the rest of me), but lately I have a lot of belly weight. I was shopping and wearing an empire style sundress, guess I didnt look that great in it. A sales girl said “omg, I didnt even notice! When are you due?” I completely froze. The weird thing was I had had a miscarriage (12 weeks along) a month earlier. I know my face turned blood red…and I actually mumbled “four months” and left. It was a really weird head f*ck moment, because it hit so close to home I just couldnt say “no…I am not pregnant (notpregnantnotpregnantanymore…). I was fighting back tears on my way out of the mall.
I so empathise with you around this. If you DO want to address stomach weight issues, pilates is an amazing godsend.