Post # 1
After spending lots of money on a wedding gift, lodging for the wedding, and shower gift, the host of my friends bachelorette party is asking girls to bring bras and panties for the brides bachelorette. Is that normal? I’ve asked around and everyone I know says that they’ve never brought gifts to a bachelorette party. I don’t want to be the only person to not bring a gift but I really don’t want to be told to bring a gift after I already spent so much money. If I wanted to get a little something on my own, that’s one thing. Is this normal? Am I being a scrooge?
Post # 3
In my part of town, it is customary (but maybe not a ‘given’) to bring lingerie gifts to the bachelorette party. I’m sure this must differ from region to region, but it is common here. I usually try to budget a total amount for a friend that I know is getting married, and then divide it up between wedding gift, shower gift and bachelorette gift instead of splurging in one of those categories.
Post # 4
I don’t think I’ve been asked to bring gifts, but I have taken something along those lines to every bachelorette party I’ve been to. I’d say the majority of the other girls took a gift also.
Post # 5
- Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY
Yes, it’s customary, and in my opinion, a RIDICULOUS expectation. Lingerie is personal and besides, you’ve shelled out enough!!
Post # 6
@lealorali: I agree. I’m going to request that those attending mine NOT bring gifts because we are going out of town for the party anyway.
Post # 7
I’ve been to two bachelorette party’s that have had ‘lingerie showers’. They are intended to get the bride sexy things to wear on her honeymoon.
Wedding are ridiculously expensive for bridesmaids and guests invited to all sorts of pre-wedding functions. I think I would go to Victorias Secret or Target and get a cute thong or something. It could cost under $10 and would still be keeping with the lingerie fun 🙂
Post # 8
In my circles, yes it’s the norm to bring gifts to the bachelorette party, though it’s never been explicitly requested. It’s usually lingerie but not always.
Post # 9
Yep… I agree that its customary around here as well… the bach party is the “naughtier” event of all the pre wedding stuff and the gifts tended to be sex related (undies, vibrators, handcuffs). I wouldn’t spend a ton of money though, considering all your other expenses.
Post # 10
It is normal in my circles to bring gifts for the bachelorette party (in addition to the shower & wedding). It is usually a smaller group of close friends and they bring things like nighties, underwear, stuff for the bedroom, etc.
Post # 11
Yes I think it’s customary and common here. And when I’ve been to them I’ve brought them too along with everyone else. That being said, all the gifts and hotels can get expensive by the end of a wedding. So I would just go with something for $30 or less from Victoria’s Secret or Target. Like pairs of panties or a nightie thing. I think that price point is fine.
Post # 12
I’d never heard of this until I saw invites for this on Pinterest (it was a female torso decorated in a bra and underwear with the bride’s sizes on it). I’d find it really creepy and weird–sorry, I’m really picky about my undergarments, and would rather not have other people buying them for me.
Obviously, it’s regional, so I can’t really help you there.
Post # 13
I’ve never heard of this, sounds really silly to me. Those are gifts meant for the bridal shower, if you want strictly gifts for you as a couple then have a wedding shower, but a bachelorette is not meant for gift giving.
Post # 14
Yes it is normal (traditional where I live). Yes you are being a bit of a scrooge, lol. If you don’t want to give a gift, then don’t. Maybe you could just pick up some cute lace panties for under $5? I’ve seen lots of girls do that for bachelorette gifts, it shouldn’t be a struggle!
Post # 15
- Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo
This is pretty normal, although it does suck as a guest. If it helps, I get all my sexy/slutty lingerit and Marshalls and TJMaxx…. you have to dig a bit but they have cute stuff for super low prices, so maybe that would make it less painful?
Post # 16
@vorpalette: I’m from michigan too and everyone I asked never heard of giving gifts at a bachelorette party.
Is everyone expected to pay for the bride too when we go out or just the bridal party?