(Closed) Asked to bring gifts to bachelorette?

posted 5 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
147 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

In my part of town, it is customary (but maybe not a ‘given’) to bring lingerie gifts to the bachelorette party.  I’m sure this must differ from region to region, but it is common here.  I usually try to budget a total amount for a friend that I know is getting married, and then divide it up between wedding gift, shower gift and bachelorette gift  instead of splurging in one of those categories.

Post # 4
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I don’t think I’ve been asked to bring gifts, but I have taken something along those lines to every bachelorette party I’ve been to. I’d say the majority of the other girls took a gift also.

Post # 5
4687 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

Yes, it’s customary, and in my opinion, a RIDICULOUS expectation. Lingerie is personal and besides, you’ve shelled out enough!!

Post # 6
3769 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

@lealorali:  I agree. I’m going to request that those attending mine NOT bring gifts because we are going out of town for the party anyway.

Post # 7
2060 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I’ve been to two bachelorette party’s that have had ‘lingerie showers’.  They are intended to get the bride sexy things to wear on her honeymoon. 

Wedding are ridiculously expensive for bridesmaids and guests invited to all sorts of pre-wedding functions.  I think I would go to Victorias Secret or Target and get a cute thong or  something.  It could cost under $10 and would still be keeping with the lingerie fun 🙂

Post # 8
16216 posts
Honey Beekeeper

In my circles, yes it’s the norm to bring gifts to the bachelorette party, though it’s never been explicitly requested. It’s usually lingerie but not always.

Post # 9
443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Yep… I agree that its customary around here as well… the bach party is the “naughtier” event of all the pre wedding stuff and the gifts tended to be sex related (undies, vibrators, handcuffs). I wouldn’t spend a ton of money though, considering all your other expenses. 

Post # 10
2295 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

It is normal in my circles to bring gifts for the bachelorette party (in addition to the shower & wedding). It is usually a smaller group of close friends and they bring things like nighties, underwear, stuff for the bedroom, etc.

Post # 11
9414 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes I think it’s customary and common here.  And when I’ve been to them I’ve brought them too along with everyone else.  That being said, all the gifts and hotels can get expensive by the end of a wedding.  So I would just go with something for $30 or less from Victoria’s Secret or Target.  Like pairs of panties or a nightie thing.  I think that price point is fine.

Post # 12
11234 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013

I’d never heard of this until I saw invites for this on Pinterest (it was a female torso decorated in a bra and underwear with the bride’s sizes on it). I’d find it really creepy and weird–sorry, I’m really picky about my undergarments, and would rather not have other people buying them for me.

Obviously, it’s regional, so I can’t really help you there.

Post # 13
2781 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I’ve never heard of this, sounds really silly to me. Those are gifts meant for the bridal shower, if you want strictly gifts for you as a couple then have a wedding shower, but a bachelorette is not meant for gift giving.

Post # 14
39 posts
  • Wedding: May 2013

Yes it is normal (traditional where I live). Yes you are being a bit of a scrooge, lol.  If you don’t want to give a gift, then don’t.  Maybe you could just pick up some cute lace panties for under $5?  I’ve seen lots of girls do that for bachelorette gifts, it shouldn’t be a struggle!

Post # 15
817 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2013 - Mansion House at the MD Zoo

This is pretty normal, although it does suck as a guest. If it helps, I get all my sexy/slutty lingerit and Marshalls and TJMaxx…. you have to dig a bit but they have cute stuff for super low prices, so maybe that would make it less painful?

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