Post # 1
My SO and I are looking forward to having a short engagement. We have a date and a venue and once he pops the question (hopefully in the next 30 days), we will be on sprint-mode to get all of the correspondence out including invites to bridesmaids and groomsmen to join the wedding party.
I have three good friends from undergrad but I’ve only maintained close contact with two of them. I want to ask those two to be my bridesmaids. Another contributing factor is that my soon-to-be FI doesn’t have a lot of close family and friends here because he’s actually from another country. So it’s going to be pretty difficult for him to find three groomsmen to stand beside him. He’s not interested in asking random people like co-workers… just people who actually mean something to him.
Do you think that including the two closest friends would make my other friend feel bad? What should I do?
Post # 3
include only the people you are both closest to.
Post # 4
If I were you, I’d try to invite all three of them, depending on how distant you feel from the third. Don’t worry about pressuring your SO to find three groomsmen; there’s nothing wrong with uneven bridal parties.
Post # 5
- Wedding: May 2013 - The bride's hometown United Methodist Church near Kalamazoo
Could you include the third that you’re not as close to now in another capacity, like a reader or guestbook attendant? If not, could you have uneven sides? It’s completely normal for one side to have more or less attendants than the other! I think though it really comes down to how you think the third friend will react. I would definitely tell her that you want her to be involved and be honest with her–you can only have 2 bridesmaids. If you think she will take that well, great; if not, and it’s not worth risking your friendship over hurting her friendship over, then I would make her a bridesmaid.
Post # 6
Thanks Bees!!! Wonderful advice! I will consider having her read the scripture. 🙂 Good ideas!