- 9 years ago
- Wedding: June 2009
Hello Bees, I could really use your advice here. I will try and keep this as brief as possible. I have a bridesmaid; I’ll call her A.I asked A to be in my wedding because she always talks about me being in her wedding, and I did not want to hurt her feelings by not asking her (plus, she was definitely someone I considered asking anyway and is a close friend). A was delighted to be asked to be a BM and even sent me a sweet gift/card right after I got engaged. Since then, she’s been no picnic. She wanted to pay less than I asked for for her BM gown, she did not like the shoes that everyone else agreed on, telling me that they were ugly and that she would not like to spend that much on something she would never wear again. She complained about staying in a cabin with other people over the wedding weekend (even though I am paying for it (as well as for her nails, hair, ground transport, brunch and a pearl necklace as a gift).She did not respond to any of the emails the other BMs sent about my bachelorette and then complained about the activity/cost (Which was under $100 per person). She even wrote a rude email to my sister/MOH. I am really tired of all of this because I don’t even want to know about the drama she is causing (as I told my BMs because it puts me in a really awkward place) but she makes it nearly impossible. This whole thing isn’t about $ (as she most likely makes the most of all of the bridal party and myself) and it isn’t about me (we talk frequently and things are just as normal ever). I understand that A has a lot going on right now (her sister who she is close with is serving overseas in Iraq), but that is no reason to be rude to others. I really don’t want to ask her to step down, but I don’t want to deal with the drama either. So wise bees, what would you do?