Post # 1
HI bees! So the way I always wanted my bridal party was 4 bridesmaids and 4 guys. Fiance has his 4 guys. I had my 4 girls but one said no when I asked her months ago. I always think I should’ve asked another good friend of mine, but I never did. She is not a high school friend or even college but we met at work and have become close. One time (even before I was engaged) she told me she wanted to ask me to be one of her BM’s when she gets married (she’s not engaged yet). I would like to have her as well, but at this point, is it stupid?
Post # 3
I don’t think so. I understand wanting to have an equal number of people on both sides of you guys, 4 and 4. AND she seems like a good friend, hopefully someone you can see being friends with for life. If so then as a friend she should be honored to be in your wedding and not even worry about it being “late in the game”. I think your wedding is still far enough away to be ok asking her. As long as she can get the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress in time I don’t see a problem. Good luck, let us know what you do!
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Post # 5
@Mrs.LilyLunaLove: what she said. the worst thing that could happen is that she says no, and you’re no worse off than you were before, right?
Post # 6
If you two are close and you think she’ll be a good Bridesmaid or Best Man, I would good ahead and ask her.
Post # 8
I did the same thing – I had a girl I asked back out with 6 months to go. In hindsight, I knew I shouldn’t have asked her. I always thought I should have asked a childood friend (whose family was and still is very close to us). Over the last couple years we had drifted a bit but had a great catchup at Christmas when I actually told her I regretted asking the other girl and wished I had asked her instead. Literally later that week the girl I had asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man emailed me backing out. I immediately asked my other friend and it was one of the best wedding-related decisions I made. It was so great having her with me and I’ll never regret asking her, whereas I know I would have been unhappy with the other girl as she pretty much flaked out the rest of the process (she didn’t have the money for a Bridesmaid or Best Man dress, so I made her a personal attendant instead).
Post # 9
I think it’s ok. If it were like 1 month before the wedding, then it would look more like she was just a “filler,” but I think 4 months is ok.
Post # 10
I would only ask her if you really think you will be friends with her years from now… you dont want to look back at your pictures and go “wow I dont know why I had her in the wedding”