Asking a Pastor to do a non-religious ceremony?

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Newbee

highschoolhoneys:   Hi I had a non denominational   wedding because I am catholic and hubby is Jewish so as not to delve deep into either religions I wrote the entire ceremony word for word and gave it to the pastor, I timed it and put in where to pause for music when to do unity candle and break the glass, the pastor maybe adlibed a few words but otherwise it was perfect and exactly what we wanted. I would just be upfront and tell the pastor exactly what you want

Post # 3
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Blushing bee

I know there are a lot of Rabbis who will act as a “spiritual leader” or chaplain, rather than a representative of their faith. I’m sure that’s true of religious leaders in other traditions as well, particularly ones who lead non-traditional congregations. I don’t think you should worry about making the pastor feel uncomfortable or anything, and I’m sure he would be willing to have a discussion about what kind of ceremony you want. Many spiritual leaders do work and provide guidence to people outside the context of their faith specifically. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

There’s no harm in asking. My uncle is a pastor and he did a non-religious ceremony for us. The worst that could happen is they could just say no.

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