Post # 1
When and How Will/Did you ask your party?
Now that it’s nearly February (WHAT?!), I’ve started gathering stuff together to ask my bridal party. We’ll probably be sending them out in mid-late April, but I thought I’d peek in and see what you all were thinking as far as Bridal Party asking goes. It’s been killing me to wait this long, but I read so many stories about not remaining friends with people that I told FI we needed to wait until we were about a year away.
None of my bridemaids live in the same city as I do and only one of them lives in the same state, so I wanted to do something since I can’t treat them to lunch. I got my girls a card, champagne, a ring pop, chocolate from Michigan, and a tumbler (not here yet, so excuse the Etsy stock picture) which has their name and non-wedding related line about them so they can use it after the wedding.
Post # 3
@beeintraining: I asked them all in October and November and so did my FI. While there are four that I’m absolutely certain I will always be friends with (two of my oldest friends, FI’s sister, my own sister), there are two who I’ve sometimes questioned. I think my FI has sometimes questioned his own decision about his best man, who has been MIA lately as he spends all his time with his gf (one of my friends actually). We made the decision to ask early and are sticking with our choices, however I recommend waiting as long as you can.
ETA: I gave them a card saying something about wanting them there with me and how it’s my turn to pop the question, and asked them to be bridesmaids, and gave them all an infinity ring. I don’t have the kind of money that would be needed to do something elaborate lol.
Post # 4
I’m only having four and tw are my sisters so I didn’t really officially ask them lol. I also am a total slacker and just texted my two best friends a cute image that said “will you be my bridesmaid”
thats justnthe the way my relationships are with those girls. And I want to pick bridesmaid dresses soon and want my girls to be apart of that decision
my FI hasn’t asked the men yet though
Post # 5
@beeintraining: I asked mine about a year ago. I gave them all earrings that said “will you be my bridesmaid/flower girl?” Unfortunately though I wish I had waited longer to ask because my maid of honor ended up pregnant with her second child. I know money is tight in her home since she stays home with the kids so I told her if she didn’t feel up to it I would totally understand. She ended up deciding a month later that it would be too much for her. Now I am maid of honorless =[
Post # 6
My best friend/maid of honour was with us on vacation and video taped our proposal so that night in the hot tub on the beach, I blurted out, “I can officially say it now, Will you be my Maid of Honour?!” Haha, that was in June. That was an easy choice, we’ve known each other since we were 12. My one bridesmaid is FSIL, and FI’s brother is in the wedding too as well as their daughter, so we kind of just asked them all together about a month after we got engaged. Which leaves me with one last bridesmaid. I am fairly certain I know who I want, but I’m still waiting to ask her, probably soon though.
My advice would be to wait til at least a year out for those you are unsure about though.
Post # 7
I bought my bridesmaids these cards from Etsy! They loved them!
Post # 7
I asked my girls with “Ticket books” I already have a lot of details and ideas hashed out so I wanted them to feel special and to know where my mind is and what we are thinking for our wedding. They all LOVED them I was so excited 🙂
Post # 8
My two girls knew the moment we announced our engagement that they were going to be my BM’s. We have been a set of 3 best friends for 8 years, live close together and always see each other.
Their first question, which I hadn’t even thought about was which one of them was MOH? I had no idea how to choose that so as they were at my house for some wine and catchups, I decided to make them play drinking games for the title. These girls don’t usually drink much, but they were necking drinks like a champ. My friend T ended up winning however, as M on the last drink, decided to pour it over her head instead thinking it was faster, as the drink before she spilt a bit on her dress and I said it didn’t matter if she had missed a bit. After some deliberation, she had to be disqualified. It was absolutely hilarious, and that way I didn’t have to pick favourites, both girls were happy with the result and we had an absolutely awesome night that night!
My cousin who lives in another city will be my third I hope, I have given her mum a heads up as she’s only 15, but I won’t ask her until it’s closer to the date because I want to suprise her.
Post # 9
linsical: Those are so cool! Way to be creative!
nessdawwg: Aahahhahaha. Luckily, I have a sister, so I didn’t have to ‘choose’ — but drinking olympics sounds fabulous and it’s great that the girls were happy about the outcome.
Post # 10
beeintraining: Haha, well that’s the thing. It took my choice out of it, so the girls were both happy knowing I would have been happy with either of them as MOH. They both messaged me the next morning unhappy with the extent of their hangovers though lol. I only have a half sister who is 8 years old so they definitely knew it would be them 🙂
Post # 11
I am slacking but I need to ask soon. I will be having 2 MOH which will be my older sister & younger sister and the BM will be my FSIL. I will also be having a junior BM which is my 8 yr old daughter, she will be 9 at the wedding. There will also be 2 flower girls – my 4 yr old daugher, will be 5, and my 1 yr old neice, will be 2. They are all assuming that they will be in my bridal party but I haven’t made an “official” annoucement.
I went dress shopping once and they were all there but I need to get serious about the dress and want them to go with me. I would like to ask them soon so I am looking at pandora charms since they all have one and it is something they can keep forever. I am also looking into personalize bags and possibly a planner/calendar to have a place to keep all wedding events and a list of duties
Post # 12
I’ve had my bridal party picked out for a long time but once you are really engaged and planning, a few things have changed! My long time best friend who we’ve always made the promise to be in each others wedding, is being stationed in Japan in August. It is most likely assumed that she won’t be able to make my wedding..but we are waiting to see if she will be able to get the time off. I will still ask her along with the other girls – and will be sending the small gift to her in Cali.
My bridal party will consist of 3 lifelong friends, 2 cousins and my MOH (drum roll please) is my male best friend. Would he love to wear a dress? Absolutely, but that won’t be happening! LOL
I am asking each with this heel wine bottle holder and cute tags that I made (craft store, heels from Home Goods = total 18$ each) saying “I have my man, but I’ll still need my girls. Will you be my bridesmaid?” and I have to now add our official date to the tags! Pinterest is great for ideas like this.
Post # 13
I actually asked my bridesmaids when they came into town for the engagement party earlier this month. SO thankful that they were all able to make it since everyone but one of my bridesmaids lives in the Dallas area (having five in total).
I got each of them a necklace off of Etsy that had their initials and wrote them a card about why I hope they’ll be able to be my bridesmaids. I’ve asked them verbally before too.