asking bridesmaids at engagment party??

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I would ask them privately before so nobody feels put on the spot.

Post # 3
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Helper bee

I would do it individually and not at the engagement party for multiple reasons – first what if they don’t want to do it or can’t but don’t want to say no in front of others? second – what if someone who is a guest was hoping to be in your party and then you asked others in front of them? finally they are going to have a bottle of wine to carry around or forget.  Just my 2 cents.

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

are your bridal party members the only ones who will be at your engagement party?  it’d be awkward to ask them in front of other ppl who you aren’t asking.  I don’t know that you need a specific event set aside just to ask them if they all already know, etc.

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

My friend had her engagement party and invited other people than just the bridal party. For the bridesmaids she took us all up to her room seperatly and gave us our gifts. for the rest of the party we left our gifts in her room. I was MOH and I got earrings as part of my gift so I wore them but the boxes stayed inside. Her FI was dumb and didn’t ask his groomsmen until the party was over and he texted them…she was pissed. I don’t think doing it this way will be a problem at all. I’ve experienced it and it went fine!

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