Post # 1
My fiancé and I are having a dilemma of how to formally ask our wedding party. We have had friends ask at their engagement parties with cute gifts. I have ordered each of the girls (sisters, his sisters, close friend) I will be asking a custom wine bittle. Is it okay to ask them at the engagement party? We also are paying for the wedding and parties ourselves, so we want to keep costs minimal. We were thinking cookout type party with family and close friends.
Post # 2
I would ask them privately before so nobody feels put on the spot.
Post # 3
I would do it individually and not at the engagement party for multiple reasons – first what if they don’t want to do it or can’t but don’t want to say no in front of others? second – what if someone who is a guest was hoping to be in your party and then you asked others in front of them? finally they are going to have a bottle of wine to carry around or forget. Just my 2 cents.
Post # 4
Both are good points… they all already know they’re going to be in the wedding, I just wanted to do something special to formally ask them. Another idea I was given was to invite them to a brunch and ask them there so it’s more private and less pressure
Post # 5
are your bridal party members the only ones who will be at your engagement party? it’d be awkward to ask them in front of other ppl who you aren’t asking. I don’t know that you need a specific event set aside just to ask them if they all already know, etc.
Post # 6
My friend had her engagement party and invited other people than just the bridal party. For the bridesmaids she took us all up to her room seperatly and gave us our gifts. for the rest of the party we left our gifts in her room. I was Maid/Matron of Honor and I got earrings as part of my gift so I wore them but the boxes stayed inside. Her Fiance was dumb and didn’t ask his groomsmen until the party was over and he texted them…she was pissed. I don’t think doing it this way will be a problem at all. I’ve experienced it and it went fine!