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I wouldn't necessarily say "buy a yellow shoe" but maybe "can you try to find a yellow shoe to wear with the dress?" I have a pair of yellow shoes sitting in my closet, and would happily wear them again, maybe some of your girls have pre-existing shoes?
I wouldn't designate type of shoe beyond fabric unless you're having a really formal wedding.
depends on the situation - how much money they are spending on dresses, travel, parties, etc. PErsonally I think enforcing shoe rules is a bit much in most cases - if you do require yellow, then i like your idea of letting them pick their own shoe. you could always provide a few options to help them out since yellow isn't the easiest color to find...or you could do silver for something they might be more likely to wear again...
It's tough because there are many different shades of yellow. I like the suggestion to find a few different options (heel height, price) and let them pick whichever they like the best.
Thank you for the advice. I sort of want to dismiss the whole thing - as I am trying very hard not to be a difficult bride. I went out of my way to find inexpensive dresses, ordered them, paid the shipping fee - I am also paying for their hair. On the other hand, I LOVE YELLOW SHOES WITH BLUE DRESSES! RAHHHH!
Perhaps I will take the advice and look around for some options and get their input.
Also I will say if the other expenses aren't that high for them, just go ahead and pick out some shoes. For one wedding I had to buy these ugly pearl colored shoes and I left them at the hotel. At the end of the day I didn't mind buying them, because it was what my friend wanted (even if they were hideous)!
Shanbrice - that's very sweet of you! I hope my BMs all feel that way (although I hope the shoes aren;t ugly).
Here's what I'm talking about:
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They could also buy inexpensive white shoes and have them dyed yellow... They can then choose the model they feel most comfortable in.
My dresses are brown and I just told my girls to buy gold strappy sandals. I dont really care what they come out looking like! But if I was a bridesmaid I dont know how I would feel about having to buy another item (in addition to the BM dress) that I would never wear again!
i had my girls go to DBridal and buy whatever dyable shoes they wanted.
i paid for them to be dyed purple ($3 a piece) so they will all be the same shade purple but the type of shoe they like.
they may not wear them again, but at least they got to wear their style shoes for that day and they cant curse ME for them being uncomfortable :)
I love the idea of dyeable shoes if your girls are on a budget! They sell them at Payless for really great prices!!
I like t he idea of sharing the photo with them and let them know that it's a look you'd like to recreate. i'd also try to find a few options in different price range.
if i were told to just 'buy a pair of yellow shoes', i'd be at a loss of where to start to look!
I gave them some suggestions for colors and asked them what they thought. My bridesmaids are all really easy-going and are cool with whatever I decide (or so they tell me, haha), which has been nice, but I'm still trying not to ask too much of them.Their dresses are green so we decided on silver shoes, and that's pretty much the only guideline they have. I would feel bad telling them exactly what shoe to buy, and that wouldn't really work for us anyway. BM #1 is really into fashion and I want her to be able to pick out whatever shoes she likes (or wear shoes she already owns); BM #2 doesn't care either way but could probably find another use for silver shoes, so I want her to pick out her own; BM #3 never wears dresses or heels and probably won't wear these shoes again, so I want her to have the option to pick something that's comfortable and cheap.
If I were you I'd tell them you are thinking about yellow shoes but ask them for their opinion. Yellow shoes come in so many different shades, and there are such a range in formality, so if they like the idea maybe you could find a few different options for them. For what it's worth, the blue dress/yellow shoe thing is super cute!
Thanks everyone. I agree - the last thing that I want is another thing they have to buy that they don't want to. I just talked to my MOH who is great, and was like oh let's just do the dyeables! It will be great! I am worried the dyeables will bleed on them if the ground is wet (it's an outdoor ceremony). She was like, who cares! I was thinking DB but I will check out payless too, so thanks for that suggestion. The other thing I am thinking, since the two out of town BMs haven't sent me the check for their dress yet - is just to tell them to subtract the price of the shoe. I don't think I'd miss the money too much, and I would feel better not having put them out about it. What do you guys think of that? Thanks for the input - it's great to know what everyone else is doing too.
Clarification: thinking the dyeables because then they can each pick their own.
I think it's cute and looks great, but you know your BM's and their situations. My BM's would NOT have gone for that so I said any black shoe with a full back (pointy or peep toe but nothing sandal-y) and they all had a pair. But if I was asked to buy a dress AND shoes I'd be pretty pissed. However some people might have $$ to burn so you never know! It depends on their financial and fashion status.... like none of my BM's would like a random pair of colored shoes, but some might. GL!
I agree - which is why I've decided to buy their shoes for them. I sent an email to them individually today, so we'll see what they say...
Personally, I feel that the bride should pay for anything related to the bridesmaids. After all you asked them to be part of your wedding. I know this is not how most brides handle things but I can't tell you how many friends of mine have complained about shelling out hundreds of dollars on bridesmaid stuff. It sounds like you have been very concious of this so far but I say if you really want the yellow shoes buy them yourself or tell them they can purchase their own if they really don't want the ones you would buy. I understand that this may be out of your budget but it might be out of their budget too.
I like the dyeable option that some of the ladies have presented that way they get a style they like but keeping with the same color so they all match good luck!
Absolutely - I am doing dyeables and paying for them! So I wouldn't see the issue, other than having the trouble of going and picking them out...I can't think of anything else that would be a problem...maybe that they might bleed on them.
I'm in the "as long as they can afford it then it's OK" camp. I'm asking mine to buy a metallic sandal with a low heel (outdoor, iffy terrain for high heels *smile*). I'm letting them pick their own dresses, which are cocktail not formal, from a variety of "fall" colors. None of them are flush with cash, so I'm giving them each $100 towards dress and shoes.
my girls have brown dresses with dark gold detailing on it so i made the request of "goldish shoes - to match the dress" as the rule for shoes. dont care if they are high or low, or pumps or strappy, just dressy shoes for the dress. that way they can find something they might wear again and something within their own budgets.
bridesmaids expect to buy the dress and shoes. its part of being a bridesmaid. if you can afford to get them FOR them, then its a bonus, but all girls go into this knowing they will get a dress and shoes for the wedding. so as long as they are reasonably priced (if you are chosing the shoe) then it shouldnt be a problem.
My BM have long dresses so i really dont care what kind of shoes they wear as long as they are comfortable to them.. I would not want them to suffer because of me.. BUT if you really feel like you want them to wear certain shoes you should really let them chose from a collection that you chose for them.. and let them decide what fits them best.
I think this is tough- because there are so many expenses already. It depends if they can/ are willing/ can afford it. I know, for instance, my sisters love to buy new ANYTHING, but my MOH has not an extra dime. I think my sister might be buying her the shoes. But, if you really want them to match, GIFT them the shoes.
Good luck!
i told my BM's to wear whatever they wanted... that i preferred a champagne/gold metallic ish color, but whatever they wanted :)
the BM dresses are long, so the shoes would barely shoe anyway!
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Did anyone feel awkard about this? Did you pick out the shoe to buy or just tell them what type to pick? I really want my BMs to wear yellow shoes - but I don't want them to be uncomfortable - as some may prefer flats to heels and vice versa. I also feel bad about the extra expense. Do you think it's okay to just say "buy a yellow shoe", or should they all match?