(Closed) Asking bridesmaids to buy shoes?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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3041 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Can you help them with the shoes? Like, have them over for dinner and wine and give them a gift certificate thanking them for being so great. Then you could all go out and look for shoes together!

I’m asking my bridesmaids to travel quite a distance for our wedding, so I’ve bought them the dresses and told them that they can wear whatever shoes they want. However, they selected a dress below budget so now I’m thinking that I’ll just allocate some money towards shoes so that they match for the wedding.

Post # 4
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2873 posts
Sugar bee

@dcgirl655:  I think you should do what you feel like! Honestly, I was dirt poor for one of the weddings I was in (I was in six before my retirement), and although I didn’t WANT to buy shoes that I would never wear again other than for tacky day at the high school where I used to teach, I did it anyway without griping to anyone but my SO (now-FI). Other brides do it so don’t feel bad about it.

Post # 5
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1710 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World

Do the shoes have to be hot pink?  I would have the girls wear neutral shoes they already own (just thinking about the wearability of hot pink shoes after the wedding).  You can incorporate the hot pink in their bouquets/decor instead (as I’m sure you are already doing).  Otherwise, if they have to be that color I would offer a gift certificate, as one PP suggested, or paying for their shoes yourself.

Post # 7
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8475 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

Wow.. I must have been a bad bride.  My girls paid for pretty much everything.  They bought their own dresses and shoes and they paid for their own hair/makeup (I didn’t demand it be done, I asked what their budget would be if they chose to get it done). 

My mother, however, threw my shower.  The girls did my bachelorette party.  But even as a bridesmaid in the past and as one now, I’d never expect the bride to pay for my shoes.

Post # 9
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8475 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

@dcgirl655:  Aw, thank you.. Plus my BM’s and I are all grown, working adults.  I can see younger brides being able to pay for things since the bills aren’t quite what they are when you get older.  My girls ranged from 31 years old to 46 years old, so they all can afford it.  I say if someone can’t afford to be in one’s wedding, they simply say they can’t, then it can be up to the bride to determine if she can pay for them or not….

Plus I had just put myself through graduate school…. $41,000! Yell

Yeah I’m very impressed by ladies who pay for all of that… Surprised

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